Roe opens with greetings, gives his name and setting, and shares that he's at home and in a good mood. This orients viewers to the host and the tone of the session.
Roe leads a short wellness check asking viewers to rate their day on a 1–10 scale, invites a breath practice, and models his own 7.5 rating. This helps viewers pause and reflect on their current state.
Roe describes his months-long walk across Minnesota and the people he met, highlighting recurring themes like anxiety, depression, and isolation. He emphasizes that many people will talk when someone starts the conversation.
Roe talks about initiating honest conversations by sharing his own challenges, how that builds trust, and the internal barriers that make it hard to reach out. He encourages reciprocal openness and normalizes the difficulty of being vulnerable.
Roe issues a simple challenge to contact one person who might be struggling, suggesting in-person or phone ideally and to avoid accepting "I'm fine." He gives practical tips and asks viewers to report back in the comments.
Roe closes the session with a final encouragement, invites viewers to connect or watch more videos, and announces when he'll return next Tuesday.
Cadre, Cadre, Cadre fam, good morning, good morning, good morning. My name is Roe, Coach Roe, Rolando, Rose, Rose 612, a lot of variations. And we're here today. It is Tuesday, October 13th, 9:15 AM. And today I'm in a good mood. As you can see, I'm at home. It feels so good to be at home. I haven't been home a lot in the last three months, so I'm really loving it, really loving it. So good morning, good morning. Today we're vibing to some Daft Punk all around the world. If you know, if you don't know, you need to know.
Good vibes this morning. Today's a good day. Today is a very good day. Thank you for sharing the space with me. So I like to start off every day. We're gonna keep it real. We're gonna check in with how we're doing today for The day, the morning, so far, we're a few hours in. How is it going today, right? From one, can't see over here, from 1 to 10, 10 over here if you're a visual person, 10 being it's the best day ever, I'm in the best mood, everything is roses and rainbows, right? One, probably not the best day and you might need some support and you're struggling.
It's okay, but there is support out there. So from 1 to 10 on that scale, where are you at today? So take a second, close your eyes, Inhale, nice long exhale. Where are you today? For myself? Let me see. Let me practice what I preach specifically. Nice deep breath. I'm at a good 7 and a half. I am. I'm at a good 7 and a half. Today's a good day. Today I'm 7 and a half. I got some good rest, good sleep, hit the gym, all the things, and it's a good day. Where are you at? I challenge you to drop it in the chat, wherever you're at, whatever the number is, right?
And also ask yourself, what is it going to take to get to that next number? If you're at a six, what's it going to take to get to a seven? What's it going to take? Might be a little bit different for all of us. So today, what I wanted to talk about is just about going first, right? I shared a video earlier, I went, I spent the last few months walking around the entire state of Minnesota, part of the recovery role with Jason Lennox. Very interesting journey, very, very interesting. It was hard, it was fun, it was sad, it was challenging, all these things, but it was all wrapped up under an umbrella of purpose and good, right?
My pup's in here. Go, back up, I'm busy. It was a really good journey, right? I talked to hundreds and hundreds of people, right? In between walking, doing some speaking on my own along the way. I've spoken to hundreds of people and there were certain themes that I kept seeing patterns, right? I'm a systems and patterns guy. I like patterns and themes, right? And one of the big ones that stuck out to me the most is that there's a lot of people that are struggling and a lot of people are willing to talk about it if you start the conversation.
But people are willing to talk about it. It's almost like they're waiting for. I kept seeing individuals from police officers to people in prison or in jails or in recovery or farmers or business owners or moms, grandmas. Like there was no discrimination against socioeconomic status or culturally different backgrounds or the diversity aspect. It was like if you're human, you're struggling with some of the same things that the rest of us are, right? Whether it's anxiety, depression, burnout, all these things.
Isolation is a big one, right? And I've seen these patterns with people that like, you think that people don't want to talk about it, but when you start the conversation and ask them, how are you doing or how are you? In Minnesota, we might first get that I'm good, you know, same shit, different day. I'm, you know, who am I to complain or all these things, right? But if you push just a little bit and be like, no, really, how are you doing? And you start it, people will open up and talk about the things that they're going through.
And I've seen this over and over and over again. And that's one of the things that I like to do is to start those conversations, right? Is ask people like, how are you doing? And some people might not, offer up what's really going on right away. Maybe that relationship's not there. Maybe the trust or all these things. So what I choose to do is like, hey, okay, when they ask me, it's like, this is what I'm going through, you know, a little anxious today. You know, this is what I'm doing about it.
This is what I've known, what I've gotten through in the past, all these things. And it creates a space of trust, a space of humility and vulnerability that I initiated And almost like that creates a permission slip for individuals to talk about their own stuff. And I love seeing it, right? I love creating that space and I love seeing the facial recognition when people are like, you know what, this might be a safe space. I might be able to share what I'm going through in this space. And people start to open up, right?
And what I've noticed in that is there's a lot of people that are willing to open up, but also it pushes me to be vulnerable and open up. myself even more, right? Because there's a lot of times where like, I'm big, I'm strong, I take care of all the things, I got goals to hit and I got, responsibilities and I don't have time for this, I don't have time for that. But like when I care about the people around me and the people that are in my circle and I ask them how they're doing, it creates a space for me to contribute to that as well.
And I get to talk about my own stuff even more when I didn't want to. So sometimes when I don't want to talk about my own things, I will reach out to my people and ask them how they're doing, talk to them how they're doing, talk to them about how they're doing and share what I'm going through as well too. And there's something magical that happens. It's like, you know what, I might not be feeling like I want to talk about my mess today, but I care about you and I want to know what's going on with you.
And that takes me opening up a bit as well. And what I found in that is that I care so much about my people, my family, my loved ones, my friends, that I'm willing to talk about my things that are going on in my mess in order to help them. And in turn, it helps me as well too. Because sometimes I am one of those individuals where in my mind, it's like, oh, I don't want to put my burdens onto someone else. They're going through a lot. Nobody wants to listen to me. Like, I got to go to work. I got to do this.
I got to be the dog. No one wants to hear about how much anxiety I have today. But that's the mindset that I've been trying my hardest to change because there's people out there that do want to hear it because they care about me. But when I go through my moments of high emotions or stress, that's not the first thing that comes to mind. The first thing that comes to mind is I don't want to be a burden on someone. I don't want to put my mess on someone else. And I have to challenge myself. And I'm not going to lie.
It's hard. Look, come closer or I'll come closer. It is hard sometimes. So I don't know if you're someone that can relate to that, but I challenge you. You ready for a challenge? I challenge you to start one conversation today. It doesn't have to be a big one. It doesn't have to be super crazy. Tell me about all your trauma, but start one conversation. Ask somebody intentionally how they're doing. Not just to check the box on asking the question, but to actually understand and find out. Well, you know what?
I challenge you to think about that one person you can ask. I'll give you a second. Just one person, someone that might be struggling, they might be distant, they might have been isolating a little bit, or something is off about them. Whoever that person is, okay, we got it? You got that person? All right, reach out to that person. In person is better on the phone, but if you have to reach them by text, whatever it is, I challenge you, reach out to one person, that person that you thought of, ask them how they're doing.
And I challenge you not to accept good or I'm fine or same shit different day. Don't accept that. Go a little further. Ask them like, no, really, how are you doing? And see what happens. Create that space. Offer up a little bit of what you're going through maybe and see what happens. I challenge you. There's been so many opportunities that have popped up for me to do that when I start thinking about other individuals. So if you're anything like me, if you're a caregiver, if you're the one that, you know, the family goes to when things are rough and you carry all the weight, okay, yes, those things are true.
Those things can be heavy. I said something the other day, yesterday, that came to mind. It's you can get used to carry, you can carry something heavy for so long that eventually you'll start calling it normal life. So I had to intentionally start opening up to people. And this is one of the ways I do it is by asking others how they're doing that I care about with genuinely understanding and slowly myself comes out too. So it's a two-sided coin, I guess you could say, but it's both of us contributing to a safe healing space.
So I challenge you. If you're anything like me and you have a hard time sometimes of bringing your mental health issues to anyone else because you want to handle it on your own, I challenge you. Reach out to that one person, ask them how they're doing. maybe share a little bit about yourself, where you can relate and what you're going through. Just a little challenge for the day, just a little one. It doesn't have to be super, super intense. Today is a good day. If you're struggling today, that's okay.
There's help and there's resources. We have our connector. You can watch our videos. There's all kinds of things. Reach out to me, drop a comment. If you go and do this challenge, let me know. Drop in the comments. Let me know that it worked, it didn't work, how we can, we, oh no, not the six, seven. Oh my gosh. Anyways, I challenge you. Have a good day. My name is Ro. 15am. And I'm gonna drop some fun videos for you just because I like you guys, even if I can't see your face. Have a good day.
