The Outward Facing Clique

m. Central standard time on Tuesday. Cadre. I hope you are great. And if you're not, that's okay too. My name is JC Lipolt. If we've never shared space and time together before, thank you for the opportunity to do so. It is a gift to spend time with you. Each of you. Like you, you as a person. Like right now, I see JCB twelve has joined. It is truly something that I look forward to, to spend time with you. On Tuesdays here at Cadre, we talk about building community. Each of our livestream buckets are big on purpose because you may go and say, well, like what?

Like, I'm not a community builder. And I would say this. If you have conversations with other human beings, you are a community builder. If you've ever been in a relationship, whether that be intimate or friendly or walking past a stranger, you are within the act of building community. Hello, Marigold. Nice to see you, my friend. Good morning. Speak wonder. Hey, dream big. Hey, Marisa. All of you, can you see what happens to my face when you walk into this room that we share? So as I was saying, building community has a lot of applications.

I would love right now, if you're in chat, if you can type, I would say, what is one community that you have some influence over? So if someone is going to say, how do you build community? Go ahead and type in chat. One community that you help build and how you influence that community, how do you build that community? Go ahead and type it in the chat. I am so curious. On building community day, I have this live stream called the outward facing click. Clicks often are seen as something that is exclusive, something that is hard to get into, something that if you're on the outside, makes it feel difficult or challenging or insert negative emotion to get into.

Sometimes clicks are the thing that you get to the place where you don't actually want to be a part of it because you don't want to be a part of that energy, even if you like the thing that it is based around. Like, let's say you like running, but good morning, Anna. Let's say you like running, but there's a certain gem that you don't like the way that they look at the act of running or you don't like the prerequisite or the culture around running that all of a sudden you go, I don't know if I like that thing anymore because I don't like the community or the click that I associate with it.

So on the outward facing click. We talk about ways that you can make the things that you really, really care about and those communities that you help build, how you can make them more accessible, more autonomous for the people who may want to be a part of it. Provide greater agency so people can be influential over the thing. Because we know the things we care about, we want to share them with other people that so often. Why do we create clicks? Why do people feel unwelcome? A lot of times it's because we end up caring about the thing so much that we forget that someone else may care about it differently.

So again, in chat right now, share a community that you help build. I would love to see some examples. Good morning, Jules. Nice to see you, my friend. I see that speak wonder is sharing rain emojis. While by golly, in Minnesota, where I'm at, we are in day three of this weird blizzard rain spring thing. So weather definitely is something that always shapes our world. So sharing those things, I appreciate always you chiming in with where you are and how you are. Okay, so I'm gonna share about a community that I helped build for.

Well, it started in October of 2016, and it met monthly up until about January of this year. And then after I talk about my community, I'm gonna offer some ways that you can maybe impact the communities that you are sharing right now in chat. Oh, by golly, Ana, what a great share. Ana just shared that the community that she has helped building is Cadre. Yeah. Hey, JCB twelve speaking about the snowy weather. I hope you get some core power yoga in your life today. Keep sharing those communities that you are a helper in building.

And I'm going to talk about something called what at the time was Fitbit local? Fitbit, the brand, you know, things you wear on your wrist. Well, Fitbit realized that they had a product that people were starting to build community around. People were going like, wow, I'm having a conversation around my movement. And most of the time, these were people who had never been welcomed into a conversation about their movement or their exercise before. So Fitbit decided that they were going to start holding events where people who had Fitbits could come together and connect and move.

And it launched in twelve major metropolitan areas in the United States. And I led the one in the twin Cities. I'm telling you, it was a beautiful, magical, magical thing. We had groups of people as small as six and as big as 600. These groups of people had babies and grandparents, people with walkers and people with strollers. We had people walking off the street because it was free. So homeless individuals were joining us. Olympians, professional athletes, people with their families. People would go to these events on dates.

People would show up by themselves. It was a really beautiful thing, because the whole idea was this was an opportunity for people to. For people to connect with people that they did not know yet. It was not a space where you had to love a certain modality of movement. There was no price. There was no cost. You didn't have to have anything other than your wonderful self and the courage and curiosity to walk in, to be a part of these events. These events in nature. By definition, we're being designed to be the antithesis to what a lot of people have anxiety about when it comes to movement culture or fitness culture.

Am I strong enough? Am I fast enough? Do I have enough money? Am I wearing the right clothes? Do I look the part? Am I the right gender? The right race, the right age? The right. Da da da da da da da. Am I going to be able to do the movement? Am I going to be able to live up to the expectations of what this culture and community we're sharing? Right? We know that a lot of movement and fitness culture is inundated with these things, and this was the opportunity to create something different. And I tell you, we worked really hard at making this truly an outward facing click.

And I think in a lot of ways, we succeeded. But every once in a while, I would have a friend reach out to me with great courage and say, hey, JC, I see that you're always posting about these events, and I want to let you know that it makes me feel kind of bad. And I'd be like, wait, what? Yeah. Cause you're always hosting these exercise events and you're always. And then they would go into the application of that. They'd be like, so you're always exercising. And because you're always exercising, it means that if I'm not always exercising, that I'm not good and I'm not working hard enough, and da da da da.

And I'm like, wait, no, like, the intent of what we're creating is the opposite of that, right? This is the place where there is no prerequisite, there is no, you have to have done, or you have to do in a certain way. What I learned each time these people would bring this up is that the special things that we create are special to us. If we wanted to be special to other people, we need to continue to meet them where they're at. We need to ask them to participate. We need to understand that the things that they are going to perceive as barriers, even if they're not, there are going to be things that they're going to need support to work through.

And all of a sudden, it was this wonderful reminder that the work is not creating the space, but meeting people where they're at and inviting them. If it truly is something that you are invested in, meeting them where they're at and providing them the lily pads, the stepping stones, the breadcrumbs, and the time to find what it is that they can find there. So what communities are you building and what do you want in terms of growth? Are you happy with the people who are there? Is that enough, or are there other people that you're wanting to be a part of this community as well?

If you want more people, let me give you two steps. Number one, build something special. And number two, go where the other people are, understand their reality, and then take the time to invite them to see what may be waiting for them in this new community. So JCB twelve says, I didn't build, but love the community. JCB twelve, I would tell you, you are just as, if not more an integral part of the community building by being a follower, by being a participant than you are by being the one who maybe originally built it.

Because those new people who walk in, who do they look to? They look to you. They look to how you participate, to how you find freedom and safety. So settle into that. Oh, Miss Stafford, 2018, I love that. Late for this live stream, but absolutely on time for me. That's what Cadre is doing. That's exactly what we're talking about today within this outward facing click livestream. What is important is that you are doing something that makes sense to you, that you are finding value within this space.

So, my friend, you are definitely, definitely not late. You are right on time, and you are inspiring other people to see that they are as well. Speak Wonder says a little more organic, but I am building a community around grief, making my own bereavement cards with my own thoughts inside. Hallmarks good. But my voice is better. Yeah, right, that last line, speak wonder. Right. Hallmark is good if people are finding what they're needing there. But if you feel the call to create something else, your voice needs to be at the heart of it.

And I see that Ana raising up. That's amazing. Speak wonder. Ana is one of those people who is creating this Cadre space, who is holding space for all that there is to find right here. So I will say you can find my friend Ana on Fridays speaking grief and loss. You can go ahead and find later on today two of my favorite humans, mary and jill, girls mentorship. They'll be talking today. But see this schedule that lays out. And what I encourage you to do is look at things that seem interesting to you and walk in with an intent that you are going to impact and change the world when you show up.

That's where community starts. It's not by the people who are already in. It's by the people who find the courage and the curiosity to join the game. Have a great rest of your day, everybody. You can find me Mondays, Tuesdays, Saturdays and Sundays. m. Central standard time. And I cannot wait to see you again. Ill talk to you later. Bye.