Comedy Through The Chaos

Hello, hello, hello and happy Thursday to all my fabulous Cadre sphere family. I hope that you are doing well as we continue to move forward with some complexities which is the nature of the universe that we live in. It's 2pm Central here in the lovely state of Minnesota and I am Ms. Shannon Paul, host of Comedy through the Chaos where we talk about a variety of things including overcoming your imposter syndrome as a caregiver. Hello, Luke. Good to see you, Luke. I think you'll like this story. So a lot of what we do here in Comedy through the Cast.

Hello, Healing with drg. I appreciate you. I have not seen you in here before. So healing with drg, I'm going to tell you a little story and since I've talked to Luke before, I'm pretty sure that they would like the story and we'll see how everybody else goes. But along with being a comedian, corporate speaker, voice actor, all of those things, I also am the proud mother of an adorable 16 year old kiddo who happens be high supports on the autism spectrum. I am a full time caregiver and love every moment of it.

Although there are lots of tenuous moments that happen throughout the day. As anyone who is a full time caregiver, you know that not every day is perfect. Every day is a day. So in addition to hanging out with my kiddo, thank you for tapping that screen. Feel free to do that as well as you listen to the story and if you can relate, you can go ahead and drop a little comment below. Here's what it is. So you know how you spend some time getting yourself all amped up and excited for something in your life.

Maybe you play some music and you go and go, hey, I'm getting pumped up. That's what you do. Maybe it's just something that you're like, hey, this is a personal milestone for me, so I'm gonna get excited about it. That happened to me last week. I had my first keynote of the year. Um, and normally I don't have any of those speaking engagements to a little farther into the year. So that was a cool milestone for me. I also was super excited to be talk talking about the subject matter. It's talking about overcoming imposter syndrome, something that I spent a lot of time turning that rock and enjoy sharing with other people.

So two things now, milestone of it being a little earlier in the year. Really excited that I'm talking about one of my favorite topics to share right now. Third thing, the event that I was speaking at was this really cool Event that most of the audience was exactly who I love to speak to and with about a subject matter like that. So three, one, two, three. Excited about it. So I looked at the agenda and a friend of mine here in town, turns out he was speaking earlier in the day, so I messaged him.

Hey, that's great that you're going to be there as well. Sorry, I'll miss you. I'm going to get there a little later in the day. His response, oh, you're so sweet. Don't worry about it. I'm sure it will be mediocre at best. So let me tell you, the womp womp music that went off in my head when I got that response back from my friend, I was like, oh, okay. And so I wrote back, hahaha, I'm sure you'll be great. You know, like, I don't know if he was fishing for a compliment or what he was doing, but here's what it managed to accomplish.

All it did was make me go, maybe I should be that excited about that. Maybe this isn't as big of a milestone as it I've been thinking maybe. And it just put me in maybe mode. And so then after I took a moment to take a breath and think about it, what it really was is my friend's being a poop. He's being a poop. That's it. And look, I hang out with a teenager, so that's how we talk around here. I know there are more adulting ways to say it, but he was just being a poop. I was, you know, I had to get myself amped up again.

I go, no, you are allowed to be excited about this and happy for this moment and all of that stuff is fine. Just because he sucked all the air out of my joy does not mean that his emotional response was correct and mine wasn't. But I remind you that sometimes when you're being a poop, what good does it do? Does it, you know, you being humble to that point, did it really help anybody? I live as a comedian. It's very easy to live in the land of self deprecation. You know, I'm a comedian that lives in the Midwest.

That's two strikes against me as far as like, do you live so much in the land of self deprecation? So I understand why we have have a tendency to do that. But what does it really help? What good is it actually doing for you and the people in your circle? Because my friend self deprecation not only made him not enjoy the moment but also took a bunch of joy out of my sales as well. So I encourage you to just think about that sometimes. Like, is it that you're. You know, you need to be humble for what reason?

Or should you really just be really excited about something and allow yourself to enjoy it and do that? There's a couple of reasons why we end up doing that. Sometimes it's because we come from a situation where humble was given us. Given so much authority in our lives that we literally do not know how to take a compliment, myself included. I remember back when I was in high school, my mock trial coach, who was my mentor at the time, had told me, you know, he pulled me aside an event when some people had been giving me some compliments, and I don't know if you watch Wonder Woman movies.

I was like, I had my bracelets out. I was deflecting them, and I just could not accept them. And so he pulled me aside at this event, and he told me, he goes, you really need to learn how to take a compliment. He goes, because you are humble to the point of being standoffish. Humble to the point of being standoffish. And he said, you rebuff their compliments so aggressively that you make them feel stupid for giving them to you, which I didn't want. That's not what I was trying to do at all. In fact, it was the opposite.

I was trying to go, oh, well, you know, I don't want you to go out. I don't want you to go out of your way. I don't want you to feel like you have to compliment me when it really was, I deserve those compliments. I had worked hard for them, and it was okay for me to have them. And you may have something like that in your life where it is okay for you to accept the compliments, especially if somebody else in your circle is willing to tell you, hey, you're doing a great job with your loved one. Oh, I know it's been a really rough couple of weeks, and you just landed all of this like a champion.

I see these just getting up day after day after day.