Cadre Today

[music] We'll run it out, cadre. [music] Up day. Luke, how are we doing, MLA? Nice to see you, Maffy. Uh, crew coming into the house. [music] Mmm. That was the kinks. All, uh, what's the name of that song? "All Day and All of the Night." That's a awful name for a song. "All Day and All of the Night." But, good song. Just a bad song title. Why is a bad song title? Because it doesn't roll off your tongue. Uh, how are we doing on this Thursday, everybody? Andy Mack, nice to see you, my friend. Jules.

Hey, hey, sunshine. Uh, Wagner, nice to see you, too. Hey, it's Thursday here in the cadre sphere. And we're glad to see you. Um, I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad you're here. Awesome 2025. Awesome 2025. I still think. I thought this for the last, like, four or five days since I met you for the first time. Awesome 2025 is a heck of a screen name. So thank you for coming into the cadre sphere. Awesome 2025. Hey, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you, y'all.

Um, and I hope every time that I say that, you kind of repeat it back. Like, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. If you take the challenge to say that out loud, you are giving yourself, um, great power, um, and you're also, um, providing the people around you great power because that statement, uh, isn't said into the abyss, into a vacuum. It said towards other people. Um, and with that being said, that's the magic cadre, right? What we do here is not done in isolation, but it's done in impact, impact those people around us.

So thank you, um, we're all be doing well. And if you're not doing well, um, know that that is okay, uh, too, not okay, like patch on your head, okay, but okay, as in, you can still navigate. You can still accomplish, you can still, um, do the thing that it is you set out to do. You may need to change the path. You may need to slow down or speed up, um, but you can do the thing. I want to tell you a story. So, um, I was sitting at, um, at, uh, an office yesterday where I'm doing some work. And I'm sitting across from, um, a human who does, like all the marketing, um, and like PR type of stuff for this place.

Then all of a sudden, um, another person walks in who is in charge of all of the, um, the belonging, um, the inclusion work that this organization does. So these are two people who are sitting in like the C-suite, the executive leadership team. They both walk in, um, and, you know, as I think back, I don't know why they were having the conversation they were having. Um, when person two walked in to, to person one's office, which is also my office, um, I don't know if I remember why they were catching up for a second.

I think there was some business, but I don't know if the business ever got accomplished. And all of a sudden, they both start talking about, um, the fact that they have, uh, time away from work coming up in the very near future. And both of them, um, spoke about it's like, gosh, is this the right time to leave? Um, there's so much going on. Um, and they both shared how they went up to the CEO and it's like, you know, do you need me to cancel my trip or should I go on my trip? And the CEO was like, kind of question is that insinuating that you go on your trip, you take your time away.

Um, and all of a sudden, the two of them are talking these two very high powered people, um, with high influence and high responsibility. And it reminded me of something that I often bring up here that it literally came up in conversation three, four times yesterday. And it's this idea of where does the self exist within the things that we do. All right, sometimes we look at ourselves as if, uh, the self is, is like ingrained in us and inseparable from everything we do. But I like to think of the self as being over here.

Hold on. I like to think of the self as this little dragon. It's like, so imagine that this little dragon is JC's self. How often when we are being, um, selfish, and I love that word, that's not a negative word. I think it's a really positive word. Um, like let's say when you take your car to get your oil change, that's selfish time for your car. Let's say, um, you take your kid to get the haircut. That's selfish time for your kid. Let's say you, um, eat when you're hungry. That's a selfish time for you to be selfish is to do something that is immediately good for you.

So culturally, how often are we told that whenever we're being selfish, because culturally being selfish is bad, all of a sudden we go. Self disappears. We have to hide ourself and are being selfish. And then let's think about those selfless times. Of course, selfless is the thing we're supposed to be all of the time, no matter what always be selfless and sooner or later, because we're always selfless, ourself gets tired. Ourself literally can't stay with us when we're doing selfless things anymore, because we have nothing left to give.

So in all of a sudden, ourself disappears from being selfless. And ourself disappears when we're being selfish. So if you remove the self from both selfless and selfish, if you've heard me talk about this before, say it out loud. What does it leave you with? Think about the words, remove S-E-L-F from both of those words. You're left with L-E-S-S from selfless. You're left with I-S-H from selfish. Put those seven letters together and what do you get? I feel like I'm on blue's clues right now. And the words write their letters on the screen and we're left with feeling less-ish.

Less-ish. How often have you felt less-ish in this world? I know you all are going, "Oh, shit, I feel less-ish all the time." Yeah, a really bad made-up word that means so much to each of us. Alana, banana. If we think about those two people sitting in the office, they need to leave. They need to leave for a couple reasons. Number one, if they don't leave, they're going to lose their self from the selflessness because they're not taking the time to be selfish. But number two, they oversee so many people, people who are going to go, "I need to keep going because the world needs me to keep going."

And if they look at their leader and their leader never leaves, what happens? They keep doing what their boss is doing. So long story short, my invitation for you today is to go ahead and find some time to be selfless, if you need to be selfless. Find some time to be selfish, if you need to be selfish. And give yourself these times because there's always going to be moments where you're needed and you go, "I need to be needed right now." And there are going to be times where you're going to go, "I need to go ahead and fill my own cup."

Fill your own cup in those moments because the world needs you. Tito says, "Taking the time to recover can feel selfish," absolutely because that's what the world tells us it's supposed to be. And guess what? Tito North, taking time to recover is selfish and selfish is a good thing to be . I'm going to say that again, taking time to recover is selfish and being selfish is a good thing to be. So do it. Otherwise, yourself is going to fly away. Awesome says there's scheduled time to be doing the thing this morning.

Bravo, do it, do it, do it. And now, we're going to go do a day. We're going to go do a day. We're going to go do a day because we don't have a choice. Have a great day, everybody. We'll talk to you later. A little more kinks to play us on out. Here we go. All day and nighttime yours leave me never. These lyrics make no sense, but it's fine. The only time I feel all right is by your side. Peace.