Make Rejection Your Redirection

Hello, everyone. It is Risa, your resident style and confidence coach here at Cadre. And today I want to talk to you about moving past no or rejection. Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx, famously said, if you hear the word no, you are simply asking the wrong person. And I could not love this quote more. And of course, who doesn't want business advice from one of the most successful female entrepreneurs? And I actually just want to talk to you about the importance of the message no and how rejection can actually turn into the greatest redirection of your life.

So I'm going to take you through how I feel about the word no and rejection, and then a couple of practices that you can take into your daily routine and your business mindset in order to make no the greatest gift that you could possibly get. So, to me, rejection is just fuel. I actually have an email from a huge store that I was connected to for my product line hanging in my warehouse, and it's the biggest no that I could have ever received. We're so sorry. Your product isn't right for us right now, but we wish you the best of luck.

You know those types of emails that you get from people that are just the gentlest way of saying you're just not good enough for us. That's what it feels like anyway. But I use that as my fuel and something that fires me up to get an even bigger yes. And I want to talk to you about that. So, if things were too easy, I feel like we just got yeses all day, every day. They wouldn't talk about the struggles of entrepreneurism, and they wouldn't talk about how rewarding it is to actually get that resounding yes.

So I want to walk you through a couple of the practices that I think that you can use in order to reframe the no and make it, like I said, fuel to get you to the next step in your life, in your business, into a great relationship. However this plays a role in your life. I want this know to be the best thing that ever happened to you. Okay? So the first thing you want to do to reframe your no and use it as a part of your journey is think about it like this. For every, say, 2345, maybe ten no's. So whatever that number is, for all of those no's, I want you to consider that at the end of that dark tunnel, there is a huge yes just waiting for you.

So, taking all of the no's and putting them in their own little no pile, and just knowing that those little no's are just tiny little rocks as a part of your rock farm for the biggest boulder of a yes that you could possibly get. So all of those no's are just hanging out over here and they're like, oh, yeah. No, no, no, no, no. And they're having their little no conversations. But your big yes is like, oh, yes. It's your heck yes. It's almost like saying no to all of the things that actually don't serve you in your life.

So you can reserve it for the one big heck yes. I want you to reframe all of those no's. Like they're just tiny, tiny little spots, effects on the radar. And they're all a part of your journey. And the big no is the big boulder that's going to push all of those no's right out of the way. So reframe all of the little no's. Don't think of them as big, daunting. Oh, my goodness. These no's feel so painful. They feel like they're going to weigh me down. No. Think of them as tiny nose. Guess what? The word yes is longer than the word no.

And to me, yes just has so. Such a big energy shift for me than the word no. So think about it that way. So reframe it to have your big boulder push all of those little rocks right down the hill. The second thing I want you to do is think about the fact that this no is actually a wink from the universe that there is something bigger waiting for you around the corner. So it's almost like go into it thinking that, you know what? This is just going to be one of my tiny little rocks. Because then you might be pleasantly surprised if it turns out to be the yes.

But if you just chip away and ask the question and put yourself out there, just think about it in that. In that way that the universe is actually just giving you just a little bit of a wink and just saying, I'm just going to keep adding to your rock farm because there is something bigger, and there's a bigger door that's going to open for you just right around the corner. And the last way I want you to look at this is I see no as a gift to pause and there is nothing I love more. If you've watched some of my live streams, you know there's nothing I love more than the proverbial pause button.

They should make a pause button like they made the easy button. I love, love, love a pause. I think it's the perfect time for you to really step back. Evaluate the ask. So evaluate what it is that you are putting out there. Is it? Exactly. Could it maybe have you could have maybe changed the verbiage? Maybe that pitch could have been a little bit stronger? Maybe there were some signs along the way that this really wasn't quite the right person for you. I see this as a big wink and a big message and opportunity for you to push the pause button and really ask yourself, how can I make this better?

How can I put myself out there in a bigger, stronger, brighter way? And is this person really the right person for me? It's almost just that ability to take that deep breath and think, is this 100% what I want to do, where I want to be and who I want to be going after? So I know that oftentimes we get so anxious to make the ask or put ourselves in the room with people, but I see this as a great opportunity for you to just push the proverbial pause. So, to recap, our practice is to reframe your no and think about your little rock farm.

Think about all the little tiny little nos that are just having their little tea party and the big yes boulder that comes along and pushes all the rocks out of the way. And then I also want you to think about the disappointing no was probably that wink from the universe and it was purposeful and it was meant to be there to get you one step closer to your big goal. And then the last thing is that I want you to see it as a gift. That pause button is nothing but a gift. The pause button has always been a gift in my life.

I push it quite frequently and I want you to see this and reframe that no as a gift as time back to really process and really think, is this the right move for me? And did I go about this the right way and is this the right partner for me? So I hope that that rehelps you or, sorry, retrains you to reframe that rejection and make it your redirection. Let me know how it goes. Jump on the community app. Leave me some comments in this video below and I wish you the best of luck with that. It's easier than you think.