What Kind of Dreamer Are You?

Hello, it is Risa, your resident style and confidence coach and the master of achieving your big dreams here on Cadre. In this video I want to talk to you about the types of dreamers I have this concept I like to call do dreamers and don't dreamers. Are you a do dreamer or are you a don't dreamer? I'm going to unpack that for you here and talk to you about the difference between the two and how to really look with a critical eye on whether or not you're working toward achieving those big dreams.

So first off, I want to start with do dreamers and the qualifications and the qualities of a dewdreamer. What is a dewdreamer? A dewdreamer is someone who takes small steps every day. They don't feel stuck. They know how to chip away at their big dreams. They understand that baby steps and forward movement is better than sitting stuck in the mud. If you can take these baby steps, you are a doer. You are action based, which is what doers are, and you're somebody who understands that even making small progress is better than staying in one place and just feeling paralyzed.

Another qualification of a do dreamer, an action based do dreamer is somebody who isn't looking for overnight success. If you are somebody who just looks at other people and says, geez, they seem like they're, they've got it all together and it looks like they just all of a sudden blew up, really, what you're not thinking about is what it takes behind the scenes to actually get to that phase. I like to say, don't compare your chapter two to somebody else's chapter 24. These things take time. Overnight successes are not those things.

Unless somebody is handing you a huge chunk of money or you win the lottery, or something extraneous happens, chances are people are building a lot from what you don't see. So if you are an action based do dreamer, you understand that overnight success just does not happen and patience is where progress is made. Third off, if you are a do dreamer and you're action based, you are not necessarily driven by money. You understand that your passion was already inside of you and your passion chose you.

And money is not the driving force. Rather passion and soul and how committed you are to seeing something through to the end is. It's all about believing in the end and believing in your end goal and visualizing yourself at the end of your story and at the end of your journey also. Lastly, do dreamers believe in abundance? They believe in an abundant mindset. They believe that it's coming to them. They believe that they are already surrounded by and fulfilled by greatness and success. And the just this idea that it's already happened for them.

They have an abundant mindset. They don't feel scarcity around their big dream. So those are the doers. That is the action based side of dreaming toward your big goals and working toward your big dreams. All right, now let me talk to you about the don't dreamers. Don't dreamers are fear based, okay? They are living in impostor syndrome. Imposter syndrome. They look around them and they think, that person has it all together. How is it that they have this and I don't have this? Don't live in imposter syndrome.

Don't compare yourself to others. Don't necessarily spend time and energy looking at what other people have and just thinking about it for yourself. Don't dream or sit in that space. And it is one of the worst places that you can be if you want to see yourself at the end of your story and if you want to achieve your big goals. The more energy you spend thinking about what other people are doing and less time investing in yourself, less energy on yourself, the more stuck you're going to feel. The other thing that don't dreamers are, they are spectators instead of active participants.

So you're on the sidelines of something or you're in the audience of something. Perhaps it's that you have a goal to be a speaker on stage and you're always in the audience. Now, it's one thing if you're doing your research and learning from those people, but if you never actually take action toward becoming that speaker and you don't put yourself in the room as that speaker, even when you don't have the experience, you're never going to get there. So really become an active participant in your life instead of a spectator.

And last, let me tell you the last one, don't dreamers feel frustration when they don't have immediacy? So going back to that overnight success, the building blocks, understanding that it takes time to build something, don't live in this. Of course we want to have immediacy toward achieving our big goals, but I'm talking about immediacy and seeing the results. You're not always going to see those results right away. So understand that these things take time and every little small step does matter.

So I ask you, really take a critical look at yourself and how you approach your big dreams. Are you a do dreamer? Are you action based or are you a don't dreamer and are you fear based? Really? Write down the ways that you take action and then write down the ways that you live in fear, maybe the things that are stopping you. And see which side of the scale tips heavier. And I would encourage you to start taking a more do approach and a more action based approach toward achieving your big dreams.

Let me know how you do.