What’s In Your Toolbox?

Hey, fam. Hey, fam. How's everyone doing on this beautiful Tuesday? We hope you're well. It is about a bazillion degrees here. Summer is coming. It is. I know the popular saying among. What is that tv show? I don't watch it. The news? No. Game of Thrones. Game of Thrones. Winter is coming for us who live in Arizona, it's. Summer is coming and it's like. It's doing this knock, knock. And then we're saying, no, not yet. Then it's like 95 degrees. And it's like 80 degrees. Yeah. And then it's like, hey, 100 degrees.

It's great. So our winter's not coming. Summer is definitely here. So I hope that you all are enjoying whatever season you're in in your life in terms of whether you have kids. Because if you have kids right now, like, finals are a thing and there can be a lot of stress around test taking end of year. We know schools love to shove 872 activities into the final few weeks of school, which can make you feel like you are running absolutely ragged. We call it May cray. Like, just in. May is crazy. May is absolutely crazy.

So hang in there. Summer is upon us and your kids are just feeling the anxiety and the stress around wanting their school year to be done. There's something around finality and having to. To get to a date that makes those last few weeks before that date feel like you're pulling teeth. So you're doing a great job. You are doing it 1ft in front of the other. This coming Sunday, Jill and I are hosting a mother daughter event for girls who are ten to 13 around growth mindset. And we figured we'd pop on and really talk about the framework in which we're going to be teaching in this mother daughter eventually to you all today, which we're so excited.

And what a perfect conversation around may cray. And how do you not feel overwhelmed when you are in a season of busy? Ooh, busy, busy, busy. What's up, Chris? How are you? Hey, Chris. So we want you to know this framework and it is seed, sow, thyme, work, harvest. We touch on this a lot, particularly because the generation we work with expects things to happen yesterday. Right. We can get on Amazon and order something overnight into our house. If we have Amazon prime, we can get it ordered same day, depending on what it is.

So there's this idea around things happening like this, when, realistically, if that thing is going to stand the test of time and be useful and worth it, it's going to take time for that thing to come to fruition. So when we're talking about mindset, we want to think that everyone has seeds. Everyone is gifted with seeds. Now, how they plant those seeds depends on the crop that is going to come up, right? Because you have a set amount of seeds. You have those seeds. What you do with them is really what matters.

Then that gets into the sow portion, not sew. I'm not out here trying to sow holes in clothes. I'm out here trying to reap what I sow. Meaning the rule of reciprocity. It depends where I plant those seeds. Again, what grows. And when you think about yourself, I think what we need to call out as well is you have everything that you already need. You don't need to seek anybody else's validation or approval, because that totally distracts you from. So. So what does your environment look like? Who are the people in your life?

Are they the ones who are like sunshine? Or are they the ones that kind of feel like you're in the weeds? The weeds of negativity? So really looking and assessing, okay, what is my soil? What's my soil? And really, your soil is a representation of the relationships in your lives and. And who you have in your life, because truly, that makes a massive difference. Planting the seeds and then sowing them, Jess Johnson style. I know that name. And you do. You have what you need, right? So I love what Jill just touched on, because if you're sowing negativity and criticism and judgment, that is what you are going to reap.

Your harvest will be full of negativity, comparison, and judgment. So it matters where you are planting your seed. So I said seed. So, time. Time. It takes time for things to come to fruition. And when you are a teenager, and we reference teenagers a lot, because that is obviously what we work with, but you see this in adults everywhere. They expect results tomorrow, and that is just not a realistic view. Right? We started this work. I'm 35 years old. We started this work 35 years ago. Right? We fail to see that everything we've been through is leading us to where we are in this moment.

We look in that rear view mirror and we can see, oh, my gosh, that happened because this is happening now. I met that person because he led me to this other person. That door closed because that window opened. But if we're not aware that things take time, we're going to miss the meaning and absolutely everything we're doing, and we're gonna be sitting there totally befuddled as to why we are where we are and we're gonna think that life actually happened to us as opposed to life happening for us.

So, seed, so time, what's next? Harvest. Oh, seed sow time. We miss work. Oh, my gosh, we gotta work. How can I forget this? Because you need to plan the plan and then you need to work the plan. So everything that you're putting into the ground to sow, to give time, you have to let it work. Because honestly, work, work the harvest. Rihanna said that. Oh, the prophetess. Rihanna said, work, work, work. Because honestly, we all are super pumped for the harvest, right? We're so excited for whatever we planted to start paying us back.

But you're only excited for the harvest if you're not a farmer, because farmers know that harvest time means work time. It takes dedication and work to bring that harvest out of the ground and into wherever you are taking it. And how true is that? Farmers get up at the crack of dawn and they go to bed right when it hits dark and they do it again day in and day out. And I love that you called that out because let's just use a job. For example, if you get a new job, you have these expectations sometimes around, well, I want to be recognized or I deserve a higher pay grade or whatever that is.

And we forget that, really, it takes work. You gotta work to prove yourself that you deserve or you've earned. Excuse me, let me change that language. You've earned. You've earned that. So work is so important because you are planning the plan and then working the plan. You can expect to go from zero to 100 because. Yep. Overnight. Because, you know, well, I'm better than everybody else. Well, and it takes about five years to create an overnight success. Right? And that's with work. That's with time, that's with all the things.

And I love that example because honestly, you're not going to get recognized. There are going to be situations and chapters in your life where you're working your a** off and people are not going to recognize you. And you got to work anyway. You got to work with the seed that you have and you got to sow in that situation anyway, because what you are sowing, you will reap. Because you literally, you have no idea who's watching you, who's heard about you, who's watching your actions. That doesn't have to be your higher ups.

It could be somebody from a totally different sector of your work that noticed that you're sowing where you're not getting recognized and they have an opportunity for you five years down the road. So we look at situations like things aren't happening for us. What's going on? I'm putting in all this work. I'm not getting recognized. You have no idea what's happening in that time that your seeds are being planted to when they're being harvested. So once again, it is seed sow time. Work, harvest, and you can plant multiple seeds and have multiple harvests.

You don't have to wait. It's not cyclical for you to pick the seeds from that harvest to replant them. Because if you think of all that time that has to pass, you might as well try planting the seeds that you have in multiple locations so you can reap multiple harvests from that seed. So I know we talked a lot about farming today. I can't imagine any of you are raising your hand saying that you're a farmer. But take this, put yourself in this story. Find yourself where you are in order to be able to take your seed and.

And reap exactly what you're sowing with, because what you practice grows stronger. So hone in on how are you showing up? How are you feeling, and are you projecting what you want to sow, that you want to harvest? And if not, this is your opportunity to pivot. Find new soil. To find new soil. It's okay. It's going to take time, and you got to work it. You gotta work in. We're working right alongside you as well. And we're here to listen to our own advice. Because sometimes it is easier to give the advice and take the advice, but we're right alongside you.

So let's go out and finish this month strong. Not get caught in the weeds of overwhelm or busy. You got this. Well, this is where we get to go out and live a transformed life. So everybody go out there and live that way. Because when you start living that way, you're going to impact others to live that way as well. So, Chris, Jess, thanks for popping on with us. Anybody else that was watching and not commenting, we appreciate your time as well. We know that's the biggest gift that you could give us.

So go out there, be the seed sower, be the change maker. We are rooting for you, and we are always, always, always on your team. Peace. Bye. See you later.