What’s In Your Toolbox?

Hi. Hey, everyone. It is a little warm in Phoenix today, so please excuse our lateness. We usually are very prompt, but we are six minutes late because we have a little air conditioning issue. But we've got it fixed, and we are hot, hot, hot, hot to talk to you today. Hot. Coming in, fam. You guys. Hi. We've missed you. Happy Tuesday. We've missed you. We've missed you. We've missed you because we have been at summer camp. If you don't know us. Hi, my name is Mary. This is my best friend and business partner, Jill.

And we own a company called Girls Mentorship. So we teach life and personal development skills to teen and tween girls. And we've been doing that all summer long, which is why we've been absent from this platform as of late. But we've learned so much that we're so excited to be back to share with y'all today. I am so pumped to be here. We're pumped to be here. And honestly, if there's ever. If you've ever experienced anything big, big in your life, whether it be personally or professionally, in your business or professionally, you know that you come off of this celebration cause you're feeling so proud.

You accomplish something amazing, and then Monday hits, and then you're like, it's, what? What do I do now? Now what? What do I do with my time, my energy, my effort? We just spent the last two months pouring into this incredible event, right? So we had camps in June and July, and the lead up to it, all, the preparation, all the communication, the back and forth. And now it can feel like, almost like a goal hangover. But what we want to talk to you about today is celebrating the wins and keeping the momentum going.

Celebrating the wins for us. We have been in camp mode, truly, since last November. Last November until last Friday, we have been setting it up. We've been planning the plan, and then we executed the plan, and we woke up on Monday being like, okay, now what's next? Cause we're gonna take some time to build out what's next and then think about how to elevate summer camp next year, which is already wild to think about. So for us, we need to continue to be in action. Action breeds action. And if there's anything that we learned from last year, we really paused.

It was like we had to take a big, deep breath because we didn't know what was next. And not to say that we have more of a plan this year, but we have a grander. We learned last year if we continue to allow the days to stack up against us. We feel behind the eight ball, and then we're scrambling. So the one thing that we want to gift you all, if you are experiencing something monumental in your life and you're figuring out what's next, be in action. Take those small steps to continue to figure out what is next, regardless if you know the answers or not.

And realistically, when you don't know the answers, that can put you in a state of fear, anxiety, overwhelm, where you're like, what is the next thing? Oh, my gosh. What do I do? What do I do? And when we get in that state, we tend to stay still. So what Jill just said was, we have to be in action. We have to be in action. One small step a day can really help overcome and put that fear aside, because if you are in action, that is literally the direct antidote to what fear is. So, four things we want to leave you with four things.

Four steps you can take in order to really get off or get out of that headspace that you're in after accomplishing something really large, we're right along. We're doing this with you. So this is like a fear pact that we're making together. We're gonna be fear experimenters. We're going to experiment with our fear. So the first thing is, be strong and courageous. Continue to keep track of where you fell down, where you failed, so you can look back on those failures and know that you overcame them.

Right. We need to journal what it looks like to overcome certain things. So when we come up against those same battles a year later, like Jill and I are right now, we understand that we can overcome them, because we already did once. And if we already did something once, there is a pretty good chance that we can do it again. Number two is, don't listen to them. Who's them? Who is them? Them could be your own negative thoughts or your own voice. It could be the naysayers, the haters, the people who are the closest to you, maybe a family member, maybe a colleague.

Those people are going to kill your dreams and not allow you to see what's ahead of you. So don't listen to them. If they're not going to give you advice, you cannot take their feedback well. And advice meant for good. Right. We've talked about feedback a lot on our channel because it's really important to be able to receive feedback with open palms. But feedback can be hard to digest because sometimes it's not meant for your growth. And if it's not meant for your growth, then it's one of those things that we have to be able to put aside.

So I think it's. Don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from. Right. That is so good, because your dreams are easiest to kill. Your peace is easiest to kill in seed form. And we might be three years into our business, but we're still nurturing the seed of what girls mentorship is. So if we were to listen to the people in the cheap seat and in the bleachers, we wouldn't have a seed to see grow, because we would abandon the watering process, making sure the sunlight was hitting just right.

You cannot take criticism from people that you wouldn't take advice from. So don't listen to them. Whoever them is in your life right now, it could be your haters. It could be your closest friends and family. It could be yourself. How do you put them aside to continue to tread forward for whatever your big dream is? And I see some people we would take advice from. 100%. Hi, Luke. Hi, Reese. Risa. Of course. Everyone at Cadre, we know that you have our best interests at heart, so we would absolutely take advice from you.

And we want advice from you. We have our blinders on. We have our heads down. And sometimes when we're in that go go state, we don't see some opportunities that are right in front of us that other people do. Number three, you have to keep your focus on the right perspective. Your focus is so powerful, we liken it to light. Light can be a nightlight or it can be a laser, depending on how you focus it. Cause be honest, how many of you, as children, went outside with a magnifying glass, got the sun focused, that light, and it became the utmost powerful.

You were burning things. You were trying to burn those weeds, those leaves. I was. All of it. We're from Colorado. We were doing stuff like that, for sure. So your focus is of the utmost importance. You have to keep your focus in your lane. Is it easy to look to my left and to look to my right and to see what other people are doing? H***, yeah, it is. But is it just as easy to stumble and fall on my a** when I'm looking at what other people are doing? H***, yeah, it is. So if I can train myself to stay in my lane and keep.

Keep my focus where it needs to go, then I can train myself to block out the haters, block out the distractions, and continue to put one step forward in my goals. And one thing that we like to say around this is, quit shoulding on yourself. I should be doing this. I should be here, I should be farther along. I should be in this relationship. I should be making this much money that is going to keep you from moving forward. That's gonna kill your dream totally. The dream that's in seed form. When you begin shooting all over it, stop shooting.

You are going to kill that dream faster than that dream came to you. Lastly, last point that stacks on all of the last three. Get out of your own way. Get out of your own way. We know that there are giants. We know that there are battles to fight. But realistically, it's not about the battle. What I said a few minutes ago was that you need to be able to look at your past and the giants that you've overcome and the battles that you've already won in order to prove to yourself that you will win more battles, including the one you are currently in.

I was gonna say, what else do we want to say around? Oh. Remind yourself often. You have to remind yourself often that you are enough, that your dreams are enough, that where you are is exactly where you're supposed to be. Because if you continue to get distracted, other people are going to dictate your dreams. And that little seed or that little whisper, that little nudge on your heart is for a reason. It's for a reason. And we need it in this world. Whatever that dream is, we need it. So go after it.

And realistically, we want to leave you with this. Right. Failure is inevitable. Feeling anxious or overwhelmed or not enough or comparing yourself, those things are inevitable. But quitting because of those things, that's optional. That's a choice that you make in order to not stay the path because of the way you feel about those things. All of those things are inevitable. They are going to come and try to tear you down along the way. But it is choice for you to quit and quit on yourself and your dream.

So if you are in a similar position as we are right now, and the future is looking a little unknown and we are feeling overwhelmed because of that, you are feeling overwhelmed because of that. It's okay. Give yourself good permission to know that it's okay. Yes. Keep going, though. Keep going. Use these four points to continue on. Because what Jill just said, we need you. This world needs you. You don't have a single clue how many people could benefit from your idea and what positive impact you'll leave on this world.

It's awesome. I mean, we were talking about it the other day at summer camp. Like someone created Gatorade. Gatorade is a household name. Someone had an idea to put a liquid that tasted good, that served a bigger purpose, and now it's. I mean, everyone knows what Gatorade is. You're the Gatorade. Being the Gatorade. You are. You are. So go after your goals. Embrace the fear. Be a fear scientist, because that's all it is. Do something every single day, every single day that scares you, and let us know what that thing is.

What are you working on next? How can we support you? How can we hold you accountable? We're in it, too. So just know that you're not alone and we're on this journey together, fam. Until next time, we will see you back on our regularly scheduled programs. Tuesdays.