Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning. Or afternoon, depending on where you are tuning in from. I messed up my lifetime somehow, some way. So if you thought I was going live at 710 pm tonight, I am so sorry. Hopefully people will join in and join me for my little message this morning. It's not going to be a long one, but I've got my trusty notes and I know what I'm talking about today. Thanks for being here. It is 120 degrees in Phoenix, where I live right now. So it's a little crazy. It's hot. It's really hot. And it's hard to think in that kind of heat.

It's hard to get anything done. So if you live in a climate. Hey, Katie. Hey, Alec. If you live in a climate where you have water near you, enjoy it, go in it, live your best life, because there's a no water in Phoenix and it is a million degrees. So be grateful that you are near a body of water and please jump in it for me because it is just so stinking hot. Hey, Marissa. Oh, my gosh. Okay, great. Everybody's here. Loving it. Okay, so today I'm talking about going with your gut and standing in your convictions.

And, you know, every Friday I talk about making your big dreams come true. And I just love this theme so much because I am in the thick of it every single day. You know, I live in dream stasis. I live in a place where I never leave this idea that my big dreams are just one step away. And I just kind of live in a place where I'm working toward that every single day at every single moment. And I think it is such a beautiful place to be. So I always want to encourage you guys to go after your big dreams and stay there and don't get out of that place where you know it's happening for you and you know that you are on your way and you see it.

You see that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. So I wanted to give you just a couple of tips for making decisions that will serve you and standing in your conviction and listening to your gut, because I think this can serve you in any situation, whether it's somebody new that you're dating or making a really hard decision at work, or maybe leaving a situation that isn't serving you anymore or just making it in your job and making a decision as an entrepreneur. What's up, Luke? So standing in your convictions and really listening to what your gut has to say can serve you in more ways than just in the workplace.

So I want to give you some tips for how to stay in that space, how to stand in your convictions, how to listen to your gut that will serve you across the board. So, number one, don't seek outside opinions unless they are in your inner trusted circle. And you probably heard that quote, don't accept criticism from anyone you wouldn't take advice from. I think the same thing goes the other way as well. So don't take advice from anyone that you wouldn't accept nice criticism from. It means basically, stay with your trusted inner circle.

Don't go asking people for their opinions about the big business idea that you have or whether or not you should make a decision on something that is for you to sit with and decide and go to your trusted advisory panel, whoever that may be in your life. Maybe it's your friends who are in their eighties, like Bev and Tony. My really good friends, like, I go to people like them, who don't have an agenda and who aren't trying to manipulate me in any way, who always have my best interest in mind, who have already made it in their career.

So if you don't have a Bev and Tony in your life, or if you don't have a Luke Wendland in your life, somebody that you know and trust, any of these people here on this live stream, you know, people that are in your trusted inner circle that have your best in mind, always figure out who those people are and don't seek outside opinions from people that you wouldn't, you know, gladly take constructive criticism from or advice from, and flip flop that as well. That will help you stand in your conviction and stay firm in what your gut is trying to tell you.

And I think we underestimate the power of our own gut decisions. And I know, as a chronic people pleaser, if there are any people pleasers on this live stream, you probably know that it's really easy to go with the flow of what you think other people expect of you and need from you, want from you, and what you think that they need in that moment. And it's really. It's hard to stay true to what you think that you need. So don't seek those outside opinions unless you trust them. Number two, limit what you share and keep it close to your chest.

This is with anything. I keep a lot of my personal life off of Instagram. People don't really know if I'm dating anyone. They don't know what's going on in my life. They might get some snippets here and there. I keep a lot close to the chest. I do like to share some of my big wins, but I wait until they're really in a good place and the public's going to know about them anyway. But when you are trying to stand in your own convictions and listen to your own gut, when you start sharing things too soon and they're in that infancy stage, people can really crush it, and they can really take you out of dream stasis.

And I don't want anyone stomping on you at any point in time. So keeping things close to the chest and really keeping it protected by your little bubble is so important while you are trying to make conscious decisions and listen to your gut. So keep that in mind, limit what you share, and keep it close to the chest. Number three, when you're trying to make a decision, this I practice all the time. When you're trying to make a decision, close your eyes, really think about the first thing that comes to your brain.

Let it kind of come in, channel it, let it sit there and think about what your gut tells you to do first. I think the power of taking a second and closing your eyes and picturing how things could go, picturing, like, the first thing that comes to your brain and really listening to that, and then writing it down. Right. Write down immediately what pops up for you. Because I think most times, more often than not, the first initial thought that you have is typically a right one. Not always, but if you can close your eyes, think about it for a second, let it process, and sink in, and then write it down.

You're giving yourself a form of therapy, I think. And you're also really, like, listening to what your body is telling you, what your mind is telling you, what your heart is telling you, and you've started this process that I will go into next number four, which is waiting 24 hours before you make a really crazy decision or a really tough decision, or maybe a really excitable decision. I get really excited about things, and sometimes I just pop my own bubble too soon. So one of the things that I practice all the time, that helps me with listening to my gut and really standing in my decisions and my convictions really firm, is to really process and think and sit on it.

Go to my advisory panel. Like, these are all things that I do before making a really crazy decision. So write it down, sit with it, close your eyes, write it down, and then wait 24 hours, which is number four, before you make any rash decisions or really big decisions. I think it's important because it's all part of the process of, like, listening to your gut, listening to your heart, listening to your mind. And then, number five, this one is really important. And I think a lot of times we forget to do this because we are people pleasers, or we do things with other people in mind and not ourselves.

Trust yourself always. Even if it doesn't end up working out in the way that you wanted it to, there's a reason for that. So trust yourself. Learn to listen to yourself. This is all, like, kind of a practice of self trust and building your inner trust with yourself. Because a lot of times, we know what's best for us. We want to seek outside opinions, right? We want to know what other people think, think about our decisions. We like that validation. We love that validation so much. But a lot of times, we already know the answer.

So oftentimes when people come to me with a question, I ask them a question back, like, well, what do you think? How do you feel? What does your gut tell you? And I let them answer their own question. And it's a great thing if you are a sounding board for someone to ask that question right back to them, as opposed to inserting your opinion, which is what we all want to do in conversation, want to give our opinions. But I encourage you, as a listener and as an advisory board for somebody or an advisory friend, if you are that sounding board for someone, I encourage you to bounce the question back to them.

Be a wall that the ball bounces off of and allow them to answer it for themselves and work it out. A lot of times, people will do that, and you'll hear them work it out. And it's such a beautiful thing. So trust yourself, trust your gut, and build that inner trust as often as you can so it becomes a daily practice for you. So I'll run through them one more time for standing in your convictions and going with your gut. But don't seek outside opinions unless they are in your trusted circle. Limit what you share and keep it really close to your chest.

When you're trying to make a decision, close your eyes, sit with it, record it, and then process it for 24 hours. And then always trust yourself as number five. So I hope that this helps. I love it. 24 hours is vital. Night to sleep. Hard for me to do. I just want to go learning. That's so true. We just want to go. We want to be fast decision makers. We want to process things really fast. We want to get to the next right. If you have a little bit of add like I do, you want to get to the next decision, and it's really hard to wait, but you're always grateful that you did if you do.

So, I love you guys. Thank you for being here. I hope this message helped you today and I hope you have a great weekend. And please jump in a body of water on my behalf. Love.