What’s In Your Toolbox?

Cadre, Cadre, it's Tuesday. It's your girls. It's Tuesday. We weren't here last week because. Two reasons. One, it was Jill's birthday, but we wouldn't have used that as an excuse not to show up on a live. We were in fact running an entire day retreat for a group of 6th graders starting their school year. And we led this entire retreat on the premise that grit don't quit. And it was so fun because we weaved it into everything because, you know, you have to hear something quite a few times in order for it to stick.

By the end of the day, these kids were chanting it as like this mantra. It was so cool. And what was even more special was we had a mom actually slide into our DM saying that her daughter was a part of it and that, you know, that mantra, that cheer, really resonated with her. And the conversation has continued at home. So we were going to talk about something else, but I feel like this is a good spot to sit at. Hey, Risa, what's going on? Junk food junkie. So in our conversations, in our presentations, we really try to anchor in on a topic that we can just continue to flesh out.

And this one was grit don't quit. But we love a good acronym. So grit stood for good growth, mindset, resiliency, integrity and tenacity. And the reason the school brought us in was because they had had troubles with their 6th grade class, which in a little. I'm shaky, I'm shaky. We worked out. So our arms. Our arms are a little shaky. They had had issues in the past, over the past few years around the 6th grade class being really the class where they noticed a lot of friendship disputes, a lot.

A lot of cattiness and backstabbing and talking behind each other's back. So the intention was to come in and lay a foundation for an incredible year for these kids to really jump off of. However, I would be willing to bet, simply because I am an adult, that you have probably experienced something similar in your adult life. To need a refresher, if you will, on these four things. And grit is. It's a word that we throw around a lot. And when we think of grit, especially, I think what Mary and I can really share around the whole grit, don't quit mentality or mantra is that you can have grit when things feel good.

Like when you're going after goals and dreams and it's working. I am gritty today. I'm getting things done. It feels good. And I think the season and what we're experiencing right now is where we are digging deep in our grit. And that is when things are just. It's hard. There's clunky. Clunky. That's a great word. Challenging. And this is where you get to pull your grit out of your tool belt and really have it support you in continuing to remind yourself that your goals matter and that you can't quit on a bad day.

Chris, you are gritty. You just. You show up with grit. I mean, you're edgy, pretty. We agree. But what we want to challenge y'all to kind of take away from this conversation is the four areas we just talked about. And what we know is we can't fire hose people. So I don't want you to leave this conversation thinking, well, I've got to work on my growth mindset and my resilience and my integrity and my tenacity, and how do I do all of those things? I want you to ask yourself where you could improve.

Where is there an area of opportunity in your life to work on one of these things? And then when you've got one plate spinning, how do you add another plate to the mix and continue to improve your overall grit factor? And something Jill and I just talked about on a podcast right before this conversation was the whole aspect of personal growth and development. Right. In order to leave a seminar or a workshop, something like a landmark or a Tony Robbins or a Psi, and feel like you're putting something into play, it starts with questioning where you could put those things into play in your life.

So it doesn't mean that you need to be starting a business or totally revamping your whole life. But Jill brought up something in terms of applying these things to her life in order to make her life better, rather than leaving it in the room and then not doing anything was integrity. So establishing more of a value around what integrity meant to her and then being able to notice where she was lacking it in not only her life, but where other people that she had brought into her life were lacking as well.

And then she was faced with a decision to do something about that because it wasn't in alignment with a value that she had established. And just curious, for those who are tuning in, where or what? What area in your life are you. Are you looking at to explore? So are you looking at the g for having a growth mindset? Have you been a little fixed in, in your ways and potentially your way is the way or our wonderful ego? I always like to say our ego is not our amigo. Is he stopping you, or is she stopping you from having the conversations that you need to have or the relationships that you want to build?

Is it r. Is it the resilience? Are you needing to foster your resilience muscles so that you can bounce back quicker and not stay down for too long and have that bad day turn into a bad week, et cetera, et cetera, or integrity. What? Mary was just talking about integrity with yourself first before you look for integrity in others. Like, are you keeping promises to yourself? And if not, is that a recommitment that you can have? And then finally, tenacity, not like, not letting the world tell you who you get to be, but, like, what are you going after, and how are you doing it?

Every single day is an new day, and really, every single moment is a new moment. m. Workout class. What can you do right now that's gonna support your health? Because that matters to you, being tenacious and going after this? We're fine. Oh, we're fine. Okay. Just a little battery. Just a little low battery are important to you, but curious to know. I know. Oh, thanks, Risa. Your ego is not. Our amigo is epic. Yeah. Curious to know what you guys are working on, because we're also in it with you.

We're really getting to flex our resilience and tenacity now, for being honest, those two are. What you know about us is we just through an epic summer camp, girls ten to 13. And now after coming off of that epic summer where we got to, you know, infuse us into so many girls lives, and they walked away being better and learning so many lessons, now we're at a place like, now what? Now what would it be easy to give up right now? Like, where it feels hard, it feels clunky. Like Jo was just saying, like, it's always easier to give up.

It's always easier to uncommit to your commitment, right? I want to, you know, beginning of the year, I want to work out seven days a week, and then you miss a Tuesday, and you're like, well, I guess that one's down the drain, right? It's always easier to quit. So where do you really get to flex the muscle of resilience and tenacity in your life? Like Joe was just saying, it's easy to have grit when the going is good. You have to dig deep for your grit when things are in a valley, as opposed to you standing on top that mountaintop.

So we're asking you to hold us accountable to make it through the season that we're in. That feels hard. And to really flex our grit and our promise, then, to y'all, is we're gonna be those supporters and cheerleaders for you, as well, because we can't do this alone. Nor should we. This is where this app comes into play perfectly. All of the creators on this app are human, just like you are. I know it's wild to think, but we have no AI bots, everybody. We haven't hired any of those yet. But we experience the same highs and lows that you experience.

We go through the lived experience that you experience, and it's fun to tune into these and just be able to relate to the person on the other end of the screen and then continue the conversation in the community feed. So, love this. Hi. Feel love over worry. And that is such a beautiful reminder to tune in. Right? So we have to take a moment to take a breath. Maybe that's your grit is reminding yourself that a big, deep breath in the middle of your day can help you reset where you're at and remind yourself that love is the most important thing that you could give yourself in the valleys that you're in, as well as the mountaintops that you are on.

So, with that said, Cadre fam, we'd love to continue this conversation in the community feed and hear a little bit more about where you feel like you could flex the g, the r, the I, the t in order to be your most gritty self. Yeah, gritty. Get gritty with it. You guys aren't alone. And just know you have two girls over here on this side of the screen that are rooting for you. We're cheering you on. Your big ideas, those dreams that you have, they are so valid and worthy and important. So dig deep, baby.

We are, too. And be honest with yourself, because you cannot lie to the person staring back in the mirror and junk food junkie. Amen. Well, and I want to just add, you totally can lie to the person in the mirror, and that's not actually having integrity with yourself, because you can tell yourself a story over and over and over again. And guess what? You're gonna get faced with. And over and over and over again, the same result every time. Because if you don't face something, if you don't work your way through it, that thing is going to continue to show up in your life in different forms, in different people, in different problems, until you're able to look yourself in the mirror and be honest with the things that you need to implement or the steps that you need to take in order to not try to go around the issue but move your way straight through it.

So thank you. Thank you for that last call out. That is a great call out. And we did do a video on the grass isn't always greener. You know, those things just follow you. We can do a whole nother live on that. All right, y'all, happy Tuesday. Thanks for hanging with us. Thanks for hanging with us. Keep being awesome. Keep being you. And we will see you guys next week on another toolbox talk. See you later. Bye.