What’s In Your Toolbox?

Hello, Cadre fam. We're coming at you live from the Girls mentorship mobile hq. The mobile mom whip. This is the 2011 Arcadia Acadia GMC Acadia edition, and it gets us to and from in style. In style and grace. We live. If you don't know who we are. My name is Mary. This is my best friend and business partner, Jill. We own a company called Girls Mentorship, where we teach life and personal development skills to teen and tween girls, which is really poignant because we live in Scottsdale, Arizona.

And if you don't know anything about Scottsdale, Arizona, it's one of the wealthiest zip codes in the United States, which can make you feel less than. So when you're driving around. I have a 2011 Hyundai Sonata. We have the 2011 editions. It can make you feel less than, and it can make you want to compare and keep up with the Joneses, especially if you're not confident and comfortable in who you are. So, a little tangent, but honestly, that ties in. I was just gonna say that was a perfect t up for what we were gonna talk about.

And just to go off of that really quickly, it's. We had a presentation here in Scottsdale on Sunday, and we did pull up in the mobile hq, and it was nice car after nice car after nice car after nice car. And then here we come. And then I, you know, immediately said something out loud around, well, my car is gonna stick out like a sore thumb. And I didn't want to put that out there as we were gonna go and speak to these moms and girls at this organization, at this church, actually was at a church.

Stick out like a sore thumb in the best way. In the best way. So I had to catch it and reframe it. But, yeah, you can get stuck in it, man. You really can. And that when you get stuck in something. So what we want to talk about today, let's role play a little. Let's say you are on the brink of leveling up or investing in your business or yourself. What's going on, Cadre? Best duo this side of the Mississippi, best threesome. With you involved, I would say. Let's say you're making a decision to invest in yourself or your business, and it's not a small investment.

It's a couple thousand dollars. And you're nervous about it because what if it doesn't pay off? Right? We often go to what if it doesn't work out? We go to that mentality, and you're on the fence and you're waffling back and forth on whether or not you want to make this investment in yourself. There's all we go through, the Rolodex, all the reasons why not. And a lot of those reasons have something directly to do with where we lack or us tearing ourselves down. Right? I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough.

What if it doesn't work out for me? Those questions are on repeat in our brain, but we want to really hone in on the reframe. So Jill said reframe earlier, which was also perfect. What if you were to look at it based on your history? So, what cool things have you done in the past? Where have you succeeded? Where is the evidence that if you make this investment, it will work out for you? So I would love if you would type in the chat. What makes you a badass? What are three reasons that make you an incredible human being?

What do your friends say about you? I am loyal, loyal, loyal. I am a ride or die friend. I am truthful, super authentic. I don't mince my words, whether you like that or not. I'm never gonna lie to your face about how I feel about something. And I'm funny. I'm super duper funny. Those are all amazing reasons as to why I love myself and why I feel like I'm a badass. Therefore, why I feel like I'm gonna succeed in any venture that I choose to embark on. Jill, give me three reasons why you feel like you're a badass.

I'm a badass because I deeply love people. Hunter P. I am a helper, and I just love people. And that can serve me in so many amazing ways. And I also know when, you know, I don't have some boundaries, it can serve me in the other way. But I will say it's a superpower of mine. The second thing is my go with the flow attitude. I rarely get riled up. I can bounce back from hardships or challenges really fast. Super optimistic. So I would definitely say that is something that makes me a badass. And then, honestly, I would say fun.

The last thing is fun. If we're doing something honestly at anything, whether it's in what we're doing with work, whether it's in my parenting, in my marriage, with my friends, we're gonna laugh. I just like to have fun. And if it's not fun, that's a moment for me to check in around. Well, what can I do in order for it to be fun? Oh, and I think that's such a great question, because we automatically usually shut situations down, kind of like investing in ourselves when you're trying to grow, when you're trying to grow, regardless of where you are.

So maybe you've automatically relented that the situation you're going into or the thing that you committed to that you don't want to necessarily do isn't going to be fun. How do you make it fun? Does it have to be stuck that way? Because that is not necessarily a growth mentality. That's a fixed mentality. Hi, junk food junkie. We're just talking about all the things that make you a badass. Because when we need evidence towards what we're doing, something big we're going after, we tend to err on the side of I can't do it, or it's not going to work out.

And we would love for whatever situation you're going into next, whatever investment, wherever you are trying to grow, we would love for you instead of going to that negative place, to go to a positive place. So what are all the reasons as to why it could work out? And the big one is starting with you yourself, me, myself, Jill herself. What are all the reasons why it's going to succeed based on how awesome and amazing you are? And honestly, I love this trick around asking friends because we don't often like talking about ourselves.

It feels kind of gross. It feels a little narcissistic. It feels a little self centered or boastful. I love asking a friend what makes me cool. Because if I look at Jill and I say, why do you like me? She's going to spout off 15 different reasons when I have a hard time sometimes coming up with three. So if you're ever stuck in a mentality where it's like, I don't think this is gonna work, because me, ask a friend. Phone a friend. Regis Philman Philbin would say, phone a frickin friend and ask them, who wants to be a friend?

Why it's going to work. You have evidence from your history, from your past as to cool things you've done before, places you've succeeded, places you've fallen down and picked yourself back up, hurdles you've overcome. There's enough evidence for you to be able to make an decision to grow yourself without s******* on yourself. And shout out to Luke, because last week I did this with you, Luke, when we were texting one another. And I just needed. I needed exactly what Mary was sharing. I needed you to pour into me to remind me why we're doing what we're doing.

So thank you have a circle of people, we like to say, like your board of directors, right? And whether you have a business or not, look within your family or your friendships. But the people who just love you and will champion for you in the good and the bad, those are the people you call. So in moments. And this is real. This is real talk from what we're experiencing right now in our lives is we get down on ourselves, too. It makes us want to quit. It makes us question who we are and what we're doing.

And then you reach out and somebody else pours their belief into you for you to remind yourself of why you're a badass. And then you're like, d*** straight. D*** straight. I am d*** straight. And I'm going to operate from this place moving forward because we're humans, you guys. We are human beings. And it is okay for us to have days, to have moments, to have sad and bad days. We have a joke in our relationship, business partners and best friends, that we both can't have a bad day at the same time.

One of us needs to be able to breathe belief and life into the other one when the other one is down. That is not always the case. We definitely have bad days around the same time every once in a while. But this is where you get to pick from your list. So maybe it's something you write on your phone, maybe it's a folder in your emails. It's your badass list. When you're not feeling like your best, brightest, most confident self, you get to go to that list and look at the examples from your life as to exactly why you are a badass, why you can do hard things, why you will succeed, why nothing is going to get in your way in terms of what you're looking to accomplish.

Whether, like Jill just said, whether it's in business, whether it's in parenting, whether it's in your personal life, your relationships. Where is the badass list? I want to see some reasons as to why you're a badass and we're going to put it in the community feed. Are you? Are? And one last thing before we wrap up this beautiful conversation. Confidence is based off of the skills that you have. So when you are feeling like you're not confident in whatever goal you're working towards, that's where you got to look back.

You got to look back on proof that you've done it before or you've done it in a different way. And this next step is something bigger for you. So the skills that you have and that what you're garnering is going to continuously foster that self confidence. So if you're not feeling confident, remind yourself you're a badass. We believe in you. Borrow our belief. Borrow our. Every time you can borrow our belief. And that should be an indication to you that you shouldn't be doing this alone. You need that community, like Joe said, and we want to be part of that community for you.

Which is exactly why we know you're on this app. The rest of the week is chocked full of incredible creators as well. We're also really excited because there's going to be some new creators joining the app next month, which is in like a week. So let's, let's go to the crowd here. I have found out in the past your cousins are the best resources to ask about yourself because they won't sugarcoat things. That's true. That's a. You bring up a really good point, junk food junkie. You want to ask people who you know aren't going to blow smoke up your skirt when you don't need smoke blown up your skirt.

Now there is a time and a place for smoke blowing. However, when you're looking for real, raw, authentic feedback on maybe it's a mannerism or something that you're doing where you're getting in your own way, you need somebody to be real, raw and genuine for you and family in that can definitely serve in that regard. So absolutely, your board of directors can't just be all people who are going to love on you in a way that is all sugarcoat. It needs to be, they're going to love on you in the good and the bad and give you probably advice and opinions and feedback that doesn't necessarily feel good to receive but is meant to make you grow.

Feedback in love is meant to make you grow. Feedback that's not meant to make you grow is feedback where you can boop, boop. We can do another live on that because I could go for another 20 minutes talking about that and today was all about you, you being a badass. So I want to see, I want to hear, we'll put it in the community feed. How are you a badass? I want three reasons. Come up with three reasons for me and I can't wait to read them in our feed. Other than that, y'all, you have a wonderful Tuesday.

You have a wonderful Tuesday. Thanks for hanging with us in the mobile hq. It's like, you know, it's like you're back here with us. You're in the front seat with us. Us. And we'll see you on the next episode of Toolbox Tuesday next week. Bye, everyone.