Things We Aren’t Supposed To Talk About: Not Knowing Everything

Cadre friends, happy Friday. It's Shannon from aloud. So I am in St. Paul, Minnesota. You can see it's beautiful here, right? And then it's not so beautiful up there. Welcome to what you will, what will be the change of seasons in this beautiful place that I'm actually dreading. And so it's Friday morning, and so we are coming live to you from St. Paul. And what we're going to talk about today on aloud is something that came up in conversation with me with a couple of different people this week.

And that is the idea of thinking we're just supposed to be good at roles that we have in life just because. Right? Just because that's how it is. So I had a conversation this week with a friend of mine, and I've mentioned to you all I have a son with autism. So I was talking to another special needs mom. She was telling me about her life, and she said, I just feel like I'm not good at this. Like I'm not good, right? And these people, this family are. They're educators. Right? And they are in our communities in Minnesota, and they're people who others look up to as.

Hey, good morning, Luke. They're people who others look up to as sort of examples, right? If I'm an educator, I should know how to be a good parent, and that's not always true. And why it's not true, good morning. Speak. Wonder why it's not true is that getting your child diagnosed with a special need that you don't understand is not something you should know how to do. Right? That's been her experience and that's mine. And so we all have those situations in life where something new happens to us as humans that we don't know how to handle.

And so what I want to say today to you all on this Friday as you go into this weekend, and something that you can practice, I guess, in your life and just in general, is to give yourself some grace when something new happens that you don't know how to do and then know that you're not supposed to. So when my son got diagnosed with autism, Wyatt was diagnosed at two. And I remember thinking, I'm educated, I should know how to do this. Why don't I understand this? Being in target at the line and my child was having a meltdown and thinking, people think I'm a bad mom.

Like, people think I don't have control of my kid. And I heard that this week in my conversation with my friend. People in our community think that because we are leaders in this community, we should be good parents. And so I'm just reminding you that as humans, we aren't. We don't have the book of all the things. I'm not a psychologist. I'm not a mental health professional. My friend isn't either. I'm a person who does my best every day, and so are you. And so whether that's that special needs child that you don't know how to manage, whether it is socially.

Right. You might not know. You might go to a party and not know how to talk to someone you don't know. Guess what? That's okay, too. You might not just know how to do that. And so you're doing a good job. That's it. Whatever happens to you, whatever. Whatever role you take on, whatever happens to you this weekend, if you have a moment where you feel like, I'm not good at this, I just want to tell you, Luke, thank you. I just want to tell you that you aren't meant to be amazing at everything inherently.

You are not educated in every single thing that happens in the world, and that's just being human. And every single one of us that we see in this world, every single one of us is the same in that we are all equally unqualified to do this thing called life. So thank you so much for being here. I just want you to remember that this week, I hope you have a beautiful, beautiful weekend. And if you encounter something that you feel bad at, just remember you're not supposed to know everything. So I hope I can survive this winter that's coming upon us.

You know, we've got Garrett, our other Cadre contributor, who lives in San Diego, and he's going to, you know, continue to have these green backgrounds, and we're going to watch this go gray and white. And that's okay, too. All right, everybody, have a beautiful weekend, and we'll see you soon at Cadre. Bye. Oh. Countdown. Three, two, one.