Giving Yourself Care

Hey, everyone. Good morning. It's Shannon from aloud. I'm a couple minutes late. Thank you for your patience. We. I'm gonna give 1 second for people to join. We have a break. Regularly scheduled programming, as they say in tv. As you can see, I'm in my car. I am wearing my red jacket and my red hat. And what you'll learn in today's live is that this is my go to outfit when I'm. When I'm just trying to make it through so you will see that. Okay? So, good morning. It's 849. I'm Shannon. I am today to be talking.

Supposed to be talking about how to take care of yourself and why you deserve care. So today's message is coming to you from the midst of that. I've got my Starbucks, I've got my outfit that I only wear, like I said, when I am in caregiver mode or mom mode. I mean, I wear it to the gym sometimes, too, but it's my go to jacket and it's my go to hat. When I have to, I still want to feel like me. I still want to feel like I'm myself. And I love red, so I wear bright colors. But it's when I'm going into, like, mode of doing something typically for someone else.

So why today is a break in regular programming is because it's about forgiving yourself. And I. Today was supposed to have the day this morning to myself. I was planning to have a curated list of things for you to do to care for yourself that was more thought out. And I was planning to put makeup on, and I was planning to not be sitting in my car. And I wasn't supposed to have my children today. So I have two boys and they were at their dad's divorced. And I was deep in asleep. I was going to let myself sleep in today because it's been a long couple days.

And then my son came to my house and knocked on the door and said, mom, take me to school, please. Not really. He didn't really actually say please. He didn't say please first he said, why is the door locked this way? Why do you double lock it? And then said, please take me. And then just said, take me to school. No. Please. Anyway, my point is, I. I was not ready to go into caregiving mode. I thought I had this morning. I thought I had this time to rest and look. Nice to see you all in the Cadresphere, which, you know, it's fine because it's reality.

And then I made the choice to go get a Starbucks, which I knew that if I did that, I would not be prepared in a beautiful, fancy way to do this live. And I made a choice today to say, I'm gonna go get the Starbucks. I really want it. Forgive the garbage truck that's next to me. And so I just got it. So I think my message to you all is that taking care of yourself might be getting the Starbucks. It might be showing up in your outfit like this that now I know you all have seen me in 100,000 times, which also means that, you know that.

That means that you can see how much I'm in that mode by looking at my clothing. So that's also a little tip. So I think for you all, do the thing you need to do for you in the midst of all the care for everyone else. Don't sacrifice yourself for trying to look good. You all can receive me this way. You can receive me from my car in the exact same way emotionally and as a human as you could if I had mascara on and I was sitting in a better setting. We don't need those external things. Good morning, Beth.

I'm so glad you're here. We don't need those external things to receive care and emotion from someone else, to connect with someone else. We don't need to look a certain way. So if you're someone that takes care of a lot of other people and you're struggling because you're also trying to maintain something for yourself, a look, you know, if you want to be x version of whatever good is in your life, right? If you want to look pulled together, if you want to do all the things that we do, I just want to say today, give yourself permission and forgive yourself for the times when you don't, because sometimes you can't do everything, and that's just true.

You were one human being with one body and one set of resources and energy, emotional energy and physical energy that you wake up with every day, and that's it. You're not superhuman. And so I just want to remind you that if you have a day like I'm having this morning, where I am not showing up in the way that I intended to, it doesn't matter how I show up, because I can connect with Beth, and I can say, good morning, Beth. I'm so glad you're here. As a first time viewer, we're thrilled to have you, and I can do that.

And it doesn't matter if I'm wearing my. My. My red hat and my red sweater. She doesn't she hopefully doesn't care. So that's. That's it today, guys, I just. How to take care of yourself, forgive yourself, give yourself some leniency, right? Give yourself some grace to say I can still show up in this world as a beautiful, perfect, 100% human and connect with others. And I don't have to look a certain way. Alright, friends, that's it. It was so great to meet you, Beth. I hope everyone has a beautiful day.

I just want to say you're doing a 100% great job of being who you are. So keep doing that and I will see you next time here on Cadre. Alright, friends, have a great day. Bye everybody. See you soon.