Monday Motivation: Rule #9 Of 13

Good morning, Cadre crew. It's Luke Wentlandt here. I hope everybody had an incredible weekend. It's always an honor. Every Monday in the last x amount of Mondays, it's called 100 2130 plus. I've been here basically every single one of them, except, I think, two or three. And those either had to be pushed to Tuesday or. I was on vacation one time with my wife. So as much as our earth rotates, I am going to be doing the same thing. I'm coming here. I'm gonna be here on Monday. I'm gonna be here on Thursdays.

And as our schedule continues to morph and sprinkle, you're gonna continue to see me, which is always exciting, and it might be in different days that I can provide value to you, your families, your loved ones, your workers, your colleagues, people that matter in your life. So I'm gonna continue on the train of this 13 rules. Good morning, Costas. Good morning, junk food junkie again. It's Luke Wendtlandt here. I've been with the organization since day one. Morning. Fist pumping. Let's go. I love it, Beth.

So am I heading into the week? This is going to be a good one. So again, I always talk about my 13 rules. In order to change one thing, I had to change everything. This is a big one. And I'm going to give trigger warnings right now because this one might hurt. This one might sting. This one might bring you back to different things. Good morning, Nick. Nicki. Milette. It's always good to see you. This one might hurt. Okay, so we talked about the musougee passion and purpose. Medical medium. No alcohol.

Music. Power of the inner circle, the finish way. This one is all on you. This one's all on you. Because the world can be a tough place, right? You can make it in New York, you can make it anywhere. Well, guess what? That type of stuff, whether it's to your face, behind your back, you name it, people are going to say things about you. Maybe your family, your kids, all of it, right? So this rule to me is, do not care what others think. Let me repeat that. Do not care what others think. I know somebody on this this morning that already commented, there's 25 different people telling this individual how to run her business.

You should do this. You should go this. You should do this. You're doing it wrong. I'm sure there's another individual maybe that's listening in right now. Well, it's me for sure, that have said, you know, you're fat. That was 6th 7th grade, right? 6th, 7th grade. I got called chubby and fat. My teacher in 9th grade told my parents basically in our conference that he's not going to amount to much. And again, I can't stress it enough that I let those moments really, really, really bug me when I was young and through, like my twenties and probably even my early thirties.

But today here's always like this really, really, really good litmus test. Let's say, for instance, you're on a zoom, okay? Let's say you're on a Zoom call and there's 4567 individuals with you on this call. Okay? Ready for this, on this call. And you can tell that people are texting, right? You can tell that there may be messaging in the chat. You can tell all those other things, right? Does your mind go to, are they talking about me? Are they saying stuff about me on this? Is that what's happening?

Or are they just connecting on the background? Whatever. I've seen legitimately individuals go into panic, like on calls because you can tell, like, they think that there's people that are talking about them. So I cannot stress this enough. I have been told that I miss the mark often. I've been told that I am a liar. I've been told that I don't show up the way that I need to. I've been told that your anxiety is creating anxiety for others. I've been told, I've been told, I've been told, I've been told.

There's this select circle, there's a select group of individuals that when I meet with and I connect with on the regular, that group of 5710 people, when I meet with them and they tell me, I know that what they're telling me is in love. And it's not manipulative, it's not conniving, it's not about making them feel away. It's all about one thing and one thing only, making me better, encouraging me to continue to do what I say I'm going to do, driving my self discipline, because they know where I really want to go.

They know truly where I want to go in this life. I want to make a massive impact. I want to change and help individuals and support change a lot of lives. I want to drive a new rhetoric around mental health and wellness. I want to change the paradigm of the way that we view each other in this world and why. And it starts with self belief. It starts with our own self belief. They're like, we can do this, I can do this. It doesn't matter what anybody says, so, when you start changing, when you start changing, let's say, for instance, okay, you guys ready for this?

Let's say, for instance, you start moving the needle in your life, and you start taking your physical fitness really up to speed. You take your physical fitness and you meet with those five girlfriends and those five girlfriends that see you, right? You're going to go up to them and they're going to say, oh, my gosh, you've lost so much weight. What have you done? What's happened? Are you okay? What's going on in your life? Are you not eating? And I really encourage you to be prepared for those moments when you change so much that people are going to ask you basically, what is going on in your life?

What are you doing? Why? What's happening? Risa, you're absolutely right. Like, use their negative words as fuel. And then Nicki Mudd said, conviction is beautiful. That is correct. And one other thing that I want to share with. Don't care what others think. Seven, eight years ago, I'm sure a lot of have heard about this, but North Star behavioral health started. That's a substance abuse and mental health organization in our backyard here in Minneapolis st. Paul. Starting it, I really didn't know much about the space at all, except for I wanted to help people.

I didn't know the stigma within the space. I didn't know that individuals that used suboxone, methadone, Vivitrol, etcetera, were viewed almost as, like, redheaded stepchilds of a non abstinence based only. Like, I didn't. I didn't know any better. My whole thought was, let's look at data and science. Let's help people. I didn't know that it was almost frowned upon to go get people and pick people up and bring them into treatment because they're not motivated. I was like, who gives a s***? Let's go get them.

Let's go help them. Let's bring them into our program. Let's love them and care them and figure whatever we can do to support individuals. And it's the same thing with Cadre, right? Early conversations with Cadre, like, are you sure you want to do this? Really? Like, there's already. There's already a this out there. Why are you doing it? Do you think you can really make that big of an impact? Are you sure you want to be spending your money on this and then even think about this? Even within the paradigm of mental health and wellness, don't let other words affect you, because the only person you need to be accountable for.

You're dang right. That's absolutely right. Self discipline, self joy, self love. I'm with you, junk food junkie all day long. But even talking about the Cadre business like we were saying, there's this mental health and wellness rhetoric even in this space of, you got to do this or it's got to be this way, or we're not here to tell you how to live your life of mental health and wellness. That's not it. We're here to share some things that have worked for each of us. There's an individual on the app and platform that speaks from a very different light than me.

And that's okay. I'm never going to be that. Ever. I live into my goals. My goals are what is going to be the trajectory of my life. I'm going to do what I say I'm going to do. And if I don't hit the hundred and some odd mile run, I'm devastated. And that's okay because that's me. And I'm not going to let what somebody else thinks about that affect me. So I'm jumping into this week. I'm ready to grind. Why is because I'm not going to let or care what others think about me. I'm 40. I'm 40. Turning 43 in May.

Who cares what Sam do? John Doe has to say about Luke Wendtlet. If I'm taking brain space in their head from wherever they're located in the United States of America. Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for you. To the kids that call my kids names in the third, 5th, 9th grade, like, I just feel so bad for them. They must really, really be struggling and being so unhappy that the only joy that they can find is to put somebody else down. Like, imagine that. Imagine that world. That that's the only love that you can find in your life is to make somebody else feel like s***.

So again, going to stress to you, do you really, really care what other people think about you? And if the answer is yes, that's, that's okay. But I'm here to tell you today, like, that ship has sailed. I have my inner circle, which I already talked about. My inner circle is so small, it is so tight. And that group of individuals are my accountability core. My accountability group starts with my wife, starts with my kids, and then from there is my circle. And I know that circle is not manipulative.

I know they're leaders. I know the only thing they want is for me to go after my dreams and my goals, that they want me to take bigger leaps and steps in my life, and they want me to push even harder because that's what I'm destined to do. So, again, for all those individuals that are on this live today that have shown up, I encourage you to take a step back today and say, I'm no longer going to let the words of other individuals affect me as much as it has. Even that little dial might work. Even that little tiny dial.

And then from there, sky's the limit. Sky is the limit. You're going to start seeing, like, whoa, this is freeing. Like, the negative talk of three, five, seven individuals, and are they talking about me or something bad being said behind my back or why? Why that hamster wheel that might be going in your head when that thing gets shut down? I'm just going to tell you guys, sky's the limit for you. Sky is the absolute limit for you. Do you think the greatest in the world are sitting here wondering what Sam, Joe, Sam Doe or Tom Doe is?

Sky's the limit. Let's go, Heidi. Nicole, you're one of those people. Heidi, you are one of those people. I just. I love you. And I know that deep down in your heart, like, the only thing that you really, really care about is seeing the next steps of your life and the progressions of your life. And you've already left base camp and you've left those people behind that are like, oh, I wonder what Heidi's doing this for. Oh, I wonder what? And then you're on, and then you're at step one or phase one and the next one, and the next one, the next one.

And before you know it, the rarer error you get, the more you realize less and less people are like you. Less and less people are like you that forget about all that stuff that's going on in the past, that's going on in the cooler talks and the life like that. You start realizing, like, that bullshit has got me nowhere. It will continue to get me nowhere. So I'm going to leave you all today with this. I hope that that was triggering. I hope that this had the opportunity for you to take a step back and think about this and go, man, I don't want to be that anymore, man, I don't want that.

I want to go after my dreams and goals and not let people's feelings and affect me. And going back home and I'm 43 years old, and going back home and seeing some old friends from the past, all we would do is talk about what we did in our teens and twenties and whatever, that ship has sailed. I don't want that. I don't want to laugh about some of these things that we did. That's over. That's gone. My life is progressing and proceeding far beyond that, and I hope yours does too. So with that, do you let others and their thoughts and navigating through all that always have positivity about yourself all the time to let the negativity bring you down to their level 100%.

Jfj I love it already. All right, you guys have a great week. Think about this one. Really take a step back and ask yourself, do I let the feelings, the communication, the talk, a bad email? Do I let those things affect me? Okay, go win the day. Go win the day is absolutely right on the money. Take care, you guys. Bye.