Wellness Rewrite

Hey everybody. Happy Tuesday. It is 05:00 central standard time. That's where I am. My name is JC. And depending on where you are and what time it is, where you are, I hope you're having a good day. I hope things are bright. I hope you feel in control. I hope you have what you need to accomplish, what it is that you're working on. But also, if those things are not true, I want you to know that it's okay. May not feel super good, but it's okay. You are capable of doing and weathering hard stuff. Our nervous system provides us the gift of fighting, of flighting, of protecting, of saying we need rest.

So wherever you are right now, acknowledge that it's one of the things that Cadre is attempting to do, to invite you to acknowledge what is true. Well, this is wellness rewrite. On Tuesdays, I take a little bit of time to consider the words that we use and the power that they have. Words at base value have no value. A word is a vessel. It's what we place in that vessel that has power. Now, the hard thing about humanity is the words we use. And the words that other people use may not always mean the same thing.

We may not place the same meaning or the same value within those words. So especially in regards to our wellness, our mental health, it's really important to consider the words that we use and the words that we hear. So today I'd like to talk about a conversation I had with a friend of mine named Bradley. Bradley is a phenomenal human musician, storyteller. Just good people. Hey, Joe Pajoy. How are you, my friend? Nice to see you. Well, I was having coffee with Bradley a couple of days ago and he brought up two words that he consciously is attempting to use less yr.

Thomason. Nice to see you, my friend. So the two words at Bradley's like, you know, I'm really being conscious of when I use these two words are should and need, as in, ah, I should do that or ah, I need to do that. What he saw with these two words was he was using them to shift the value of the actions on the other side of the should or the need. Ah, that's right, I should, I should call that person. Ah, I need to, I need, I need to get back to doing that thing. You can even hear it, like, it's almost impossible to not say should or need.

Like, ah, that's right, I did something wrong. Ah, that's right. This thing that I need to do is almost something that if there is any value, it's more of an annoyance or it's more of a struggle or more of a, I should have already done it. All of a sudden, that thing that may bear some worth or some value may be losing it simply because of how we are approaching the action. Like, let's say there's a person you haven't spoken to in a long time. I need to call him. I don't know, maybe you're saying that with a little bit of guilt, a little bit of I feel bad that I have not called him.

I need to, I should. Is that little bit of guilt that you're placing on yourself bearing any, any fruit, any reality? Is it helping you make that phone call with the intent, the joy, the potential positivity that may come out of connecting with that person? If all of a sudden you go, I should, I need what if it's I will. That person that maybe if you're like me and you get anxious and you get nervous and you put things off, maybe you avoid. So all of a sudden, not only are you avoiding the thing, but now you're making yourself feel bad that you're avoiding the thing, which makes it even harder to stop avoiding the thing.

We know these things pile up pretty quick. What if rather than I should call that person, it's eh, I'll call a person. Acknowledging all that is is one thing. Making things ten times worse by giving yourself a really hard time about it is another. Because in reality, what happens when you call that person? They go, oh, my gosh, I've been meaning to call you too. And they throw just as much guilt on them as you're throwing on you, and it washes itself clean. Because in the practice of presence and the practice of maximizing the opportunity, we have to be alive.

When we have those moments where we do the thing that we should or need to do, what ends up happening, we feel pretty good. So why place barriers between you and the opportunity to feel good? So I'm curious right now, what is something that you should do, something that you need to do that you could maybe consider rather than shoulding or needing you do? I got a lot of things on my work list, and all of a sudden I can go, I need to do all this stuff. Then I place myself in my work chair where I raise up my stand up desk and I start doing, and I inevitably feel better.

Or what if you, gosh, I should do this, I need to do this. But your body's saying, actually, you need to stop doing, you need to take a break, you need to clear some time. Because maybe what you really need is something else. Maybe you need a break. Maybe you need some sun. Maybe you need to cancel the meeting or reschedule the meeting. Maybe you need to empower the person who you're supposed to be having a meeting with by saying, you know what, I simply need a little bit of time. And nine times out of ten, what do they say?

Yeah, you know what? That sounds good. I do too. Let me know. Or, hey, that sounds good. Thanks for taking care of yourself on the other side of that. What happens? Yeah, you start shifting the world not only for yourself, for those people around you. So consider your shoulds, consider your needs, and consider if you actually need either of them in the moments when you use them. It's your little wellness rewrite for this Tuesday. And also say if you haven't yet, check out the live stream for earlier on today by new Cadre contributor Nikki Molay.

She's wonderful. m. Central standard time. Check out Nikki. And if anything in this video spoke to you today that you think maybe would speak to someone else that you know in the Cadre world, share it with them too. We'll talk to you later.