Monday Motivation: Rule #11 Of 13

Good morning, Cadre family. Luke Wentland here. How's everybody doing? It's a great day listening to a little boss starting off. My Monday doesn't get much better than that. Well, we're back on a beautiful Monday. My body's feeling a little crushed, to be honest. I ran a marathon Saturday night, some 20 plus miles on the treadmill. That was interesting. But it was good going through that four plus hour, nearing five hour treadmill. Good for me and it was good for my mental health and for all the things for sweet Luke heading into the week.

And then last night I had an opportunity. m. Sonic cold plunge, which was fantastic. We did a sonic cold plunge right in the lake. The moon was out. It was almost a full moon. The stars, it was just out of this world. Gorgeous. It was so, so beautiful. Ja pajoy. Hi, Luke. Hi to you. Speak wonder. Always good to see you, junk food junkie. Anytime I see you on a live, it always makes my day. So we're heading into a Monday. We're feeling ourselves, we're feeling good. But today I wanted to wrap up.

This is going to be an exciting one. Rule number eleven of 13. In order to change one thing, I needed to change everything in regards to my mental health, my anxiety, my relationship with alcohol, you name it. Some of the things I talked about in the past were musogi something so hard one time a year that it's on your schedule or on your calendar and you got to push yourself. Passion and purpose for what I do. Medical medium, book, music, no alcohol, saying no. Who's in your inner circle? We're getting down there and now we're on number eleven, which is I needed to focus on my mental health and anxiety.

I needed to focus on my mental health and anxiety. That seems really, really, really broad, which it is. Need to focus on my mental health and anxiety. So what does that actually mean? I want you to get a pen and paper out. I'm going to give you these four tips, right? So I'm going to give you a minute. Go get a pen and paper. And I'm going to give you four things that really, really helped me when it came down to focusing on my mental health and anxiety. So I'll give you 1 minute here. Grab a pen and paper wherever you are.

I'm just going to add a little top to my coffee here. Okay. All right. So if you got a pen and paper handy, these are some things that when I'm talking about my focus on my mental health, and anxiety. That has really, really, really helped me. Okay, junk food junkie says, got mine. Ready to go. All right, ready for this. So the very first thing is, I need to talk about it. I need to talk about it. And what I find is I could be going to get my hair cut. I could be talking to a contractor that's at the house that's giving me a bid on something, an electrician.

I could be talking to the random individual that's doing snow plowing. And before you know it, when we start in and we start talking about mental health, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, you name it, before you know it, you're going to get a lot of me, too, and not in the Harvey Weinstein way. And before you know it, you're gonna start being able to connect on these conversations that are rather deep from hairstylists at a great clips. That's where I go, anyhow, to have now kind of a relationship that's focused in mental health.

When we meet an individual that's opened up about being a cancer survivor, that's our electrician, being able to help support and coach a contractor that's dealing with alcohol problems. Like, before you know it, when you start talking about it, you know, you just, you get into just helping others, which, you know, in turn helps me. Number two. So, number one, I write, I talk about it. Number two, I write about it. I write about it. And what you're gonna find is there's a lot of about it. So I write about it and I express my feelings, and whether that is in blogs, LinkedIn, speaking engagements.

Right. So I just write, and I consistently write. And if you go to Cadre IO and you go to the blogs, and you say, you go to the very first one, it says, it happened to me. Excuse me. It happened for me. That's kind of like my coming out party, if you will, to Cadre. And I wanted to share, like, really me, the true me, all of me. And when I write about it again, I'm finding myself in a space where it allows me to connect not only with other people, but myself, and also trying to gauge, like, where am I?

I mean, I went through a decade of h***. Why not share that to the world? So somebody else can either connect with me or understand me, or what's even better, help somebody else. That's the dream, right? So when I'm talking about it, when I'm writing about it, before you know it, you know, I'm connecting with individuals that, you know, again, serve others that. That honor these feelings, and it's just. It's super, super important. Ooh. Risa told us to journal about her feelings and thoughts. Yes, yes, please do.

I think it's really, really important to take that out. I'm actively looking for a mental. For a mental health counselor. Awesome. Speak, wonder. I love it. So, again, number one, talk about it. Number two, write about it. And number three, learn about it, learn about it. I don't think that there is a book, an article, a YouTube clip that I haven't listened to to learn about what's actually happening when I have anxiety, whether it's exposure therapy, whether it's this or this, you need to be dangerous with all the things that are happening in your brain.

Our darker seasons are never wasted. When you're able to assist, you're 100% correct. Again, helping others helps me. So, again, learning about it. Who I surround myself with, the events that I participate in, the articles that I'm willing to read all the time. Learn, learn, learn about it. In turn, you're learning about yourself, and you're learning about the decisions you make and why you do it. And before you know it, you're going to start finding some things that are really advantageous to the decision making for your future.

And also, maybe looking in retrospect of your why. So again, talk about it. Write about it, learn about it. And last but not least, and this is the most important one, is be about it. Actually be about it. You know, you've heard me talk a lot about this before about, you know, where you spend your time and where you spend your money is what you value. I would even put your chips farther in, is, do you do what you say you're going to do? Are you showing yourself self love and discipline by being about it?

Whether it's the food I eat, whether it's the places I go, whether it's the things I do. So, again, being about it is pushing yourself to really, like, am I choosing a life of service with this, too? So I just. I really feel in my heart of hearts, I need to lean into these four for me, not only to be my best self and to understand what happened to me, why it happened to me, but to consistently ensure that my anxiety. I'm always going to have generalized anxiety disorder with panic attacks. That's never going to change.

Be about it, meaning just not say, but do the walking actions of it. 100% junk food junkie. Talking about it and coming here for me is hard. Like, if, you know, it probably feels like, oh, he just comes and he hits play and he goes, and a little charismatic and da da da da. Like, this is from Monday when I go live to my next Monday going live or Thursday with tales of leadership. Like, I struggle. I struggle to be able to make sure that I'm prepared, that I'm ready to that anxiety. Right? But that's why it's so important to me to do this, and I want to make sure that I can share my story to the world.

So other individuals like me, a younger Luke, my son drew, right. My son Drew has generalized anxiety disorder. We talk about it all the time together, whether it's the sugars at night and keeps him up, and his mind keeps racing and focusing, too, you know, before a basketball game for him, you know, what is. What's going on, man? Well, my stomach's fluttering. I got a lot of things going on. I'm like, that's awesome. That's a great excitement. That's a great energy. We talk about our feelings, and that's really critical.

So I need to be about it in every space I do. If I'm in a meeting and I'm feeling anxious, maybe I had a little too much coffee, a little caffeine. I try to always drink decaf, but you never know, right? I have no problem stopping a meeting saying, hey, guys, I'm feeling a little anxious right now. Just give me a minute. Let me walk around like it's okay to be about it and actually show up as your true self in all phases of life, whether it's being a business owner, whether it's in a meeting, if somebody meeting stops right now and says, hey, I don't feel safe, I'm feeling a little anxious right now.

I'm going to say, awesome, let's take a break. Right? Let's take a break. And for us, as organizations and people working in companies, I think we need to normalize this and we need to normalize that people are feeling stuff. Why? Because the numbers indicate, right. It's what it is. Like, how many individuals, you know, have mental health conditions? What does this look like? So this is happening. So let's be about it, right? So, number one, talk about it. Number two, write about it. Number three, learn about it.

And number four, be about it. So I want to really push you today with your own mental health anxiety, your conditions, whatever those may be, to be able to say to yourself, like, I want to push myself on these four different levers. Men talking about feeling showing up as your truth, though, this is what we need. Yeah. Speak wonder. But I'm also going to let you know that that is literally hit to my face a lot of the times too, right? Like where I'm in a meeting and it's like, this is emotional.

These are all feelings that, this intuition and gut and blah, blah, blah, right? So you gotta be, you gotta be, you gotta be careful with who you're surrounding yourself with, too, because a lot of this feeling talk and talking about mental health, you know, also comes across as emotional. People being emotional. And so you just got to understand, like, there's a yin and yang to all of this. And, you know, knowing when's the right time and when's the right place to push your chips in, if you will.

So, you know, again, I just want to talk about this one more time. In order to change one thing, I change everything, you know, what is happening to me to now. I talk about it, do I write about it, do I learn about it until I be about it? So those are some things that I really want you to think about as you continue to move forward with rule number eleven, on focusing on my mental health and anxiety and what that looks like. I hope that helps you all to be able to go into the week and say me too, in the most loving way.

And we'll have the boss take us home now. Okay? So you guys take care. Make it an amazing week of.