Me Time ✨

Hello, Cadre family. My name is Jean Mitchells. I'm popping in here on Sunday at 1245 today. Just gonna hold space for a few moments to see who else might pop in with me today. It's kind of a luxury actually to be dialing in right now, but also a funny share. I don't know if you looked on the schedule earlier. Hello, pinnacle three. Hello, bronze meadowlife. Nice to see you here today popping in on a Sunday. I don't know where you all live, but I live in Minneapolis. Hi Jules. Welcome. And in Minneapolis today there's a huge snowstorm.

And I say that jokingly because it is snowing behind, but huge is relative because I don't feel like we're getting mass amounts of snow yet. But everybody is already adjusting plans to accommodate for the snow that's coming. And I have to giggle a little cause I like the snow and we live in Minneapolis. Good afternoon to you, Jules. So I'm coming to you today at 1245. It's now 1247 for the second time. So I don't know if any of you follow the moon or moonology, but it's a full moon tonight. It is also an eclipse coming tomorrow.

So I feel like there's a lot of energy in the world. So my first live this morning was actually from the bouldering project. So I'm going to do that one again on a different Sunday. So today my name is Jean Nichols. If you haven't joined me before, I'm really excited to have you here. It's awesome to be with you and hold space with you. And we're going to have a nice lovely conversation about some me time and giving you some tips and tricks on. I don't even know if it's tips and tricks, but at least to share on taking time for yourself.

So today, actually right now, this afternoon, you'll see this big rock your ride wall behind me. I co own an indoor cycling studio. It's one of the many hats that I wear and I teach a number of spin classes in a week. And this afternoon I'm here doing a little painting project because we have some chips on our wall and the team would like to do a little refresh of the studio. So I'm here painting, but it's nice because nobody's here and I get to play loud music, whatever music I want to play. And I am going to paint.

And it's a little meditative, to be honest. I did some big walls last weekend, but why I wanted to bring that up is this space our studio, our spin studio, we create a space for people to come and take time for themselves. So every instructor on the team, every person on the team. Hello, speak wonder. Nice to have you here. Everybody on my team at Psychobar, including myself, we create space for everyone else to take time for themselves and we invite them to do that. And when I'm teaching a spin class, I love it so much.

I put so much energy into the room and into my playlists and to the words that I say to the room. And it's funny, in a 45 minutes class, it's 4% of an entire day. There are 1440 minutes in our day. And if you take 45 minutes, it's just 4% of your day. So doing 315 minutes live streams is a really small percentage of your day time that you can take for yourself. And I'm sure I'm like many of you, we give a lot. And if you dialed in to JC's talk this morning, he talked about selfish and selfless. And I find those words fascinating because as he also mentioned, we live in a space where we believe to be true, that we should be selfless, and we should give and give and give.

And if you heard one word that I just said, there it was, the word should. And if we take things for ourselves, do things for ourselves, talk about our strengths, we're being selfish. But I'd love to help us continue to try to flip that story a little bit. Because if our buckets are empty, if we are drained, if we are not able to show up for everybody the way that they normally expect us to, we need to be selfish. We need to take time to regenerate, to recuperate, to find that space. So this morning I took some time and I tried something new.

I'm not a rock climber and I've never done bouldering, which is where you don't have any ropes. I like to go play sometimes and climb things because I do like to climb stuff. But it was time that I took 45 minutes today, even though I was with my friends, I took that time to just expand my mind, expand my body, and get out of my head a little and be comfortable being uncomfortable. And that 1 hour this morning was magical. I felt like a little kid again. I laughed. I messed up. I fell off the wall.

Now, let's be clear. The walls aren't like 75ft walls, it's like 20 foot walls. And you're falling on a very big mat. So not really falling. Let's say I'm kind of just letting go and landing on my feet. But it was exhilarating to just have some time on a Sunday morning where I didn't have a phone, I didn't have my computer, I didn't have headphones in. I simply got to watch little kids laughing as they were trying to climb the minikid wall. And I got to laugh at myself when I couldn't figure out how to see a path up and when my arms got tired and I just got to let go and just be in that moment for an hour this morning.

And it felt selfish because I knew that I had this big painting job that I needed to complete at the studio today. And I have a sound bath that I'm leading tonight that I need to prepare for. So all these other gifts that I get to give to other people are still going to be there today. But in that one period of time where I simply found pure joy laughing again, it allowed me to have the opportunity to just simply feel and be. Now I would love to hear from you, speak wonder or Jules or anyone else that's dialed in.

When do you find time to simply laugh? Or what is one thing that just brings you pure joy? I'd love for you to pop in the chat if you have anything that resonates with you and why. I have been really focused on reclaiming Sundays again as me time is, I think, even since COVID We've had this spin studio for a long time in almost eight years now. And as a consultant, as a coach, as a spin instructor, a co owner of a studio, a person that does sound bass like. I felt a really strong pull to try to be there for community during a really hard time when so many people were either alone or into or whatever.

That I forgot to take more time for myself. And it's not that I forgot. Let me reframe that. I didn't prioritize that. I find that I'll wake up in the morning, I'll put something, I'll start making something for breakfast, and I'll get distracted with my dog, walking my dog, logging into emails, whatever. And I'll come back an hour later and I'll still have not eaten. And so I really try to find new focus, reclaim that back. And Jules popped in here. I have a friend that sends me morning badassery TikToks that make me laugh out loud and smile during the work week.

I love that. Having kind of that little buddy where we can tag team each other and send each other funny stuff. I will find funny memes of animals doing silly things. I have a cat or I have a dog. And my close girlfriend has adopted my mom's cat and so I'll find those too. But in the last year and a half I have lost both my mom and dad. And I was the caretaker for both of them. Well, I was a caretaker for my mom, mostly my dad for a long time. And then some situations changed because he had Alzheimer's.

And in the last six months, which it was about six months ago that my mom passed away, I felt really lost. And so reclaiming some of my me time again to find joy, it's like also refilling time that I would invest spending with my parents or doing things or errands for them. Oh, speak. Wonder if you're in Minneapolis. I host some bass very often, so send me a note. And so it's just been, you know, my way to find my way through grief. I've been really sad for a while, but I love helping people and I love helping them reclaim their me time.

And so I felt like in order for me to help people more, I had to figure out how to do it for myself. And so today on this beautiful Sunday where it's snowing in Minneapolis, I mean, if it's gonna snow, give us like 6ft or something like this two inches stuff, it's like nothing. Spoken like a two Minnesota I'm guessing. But on this beautiful Sunday, it was just pure joy. I took 45 minutes to just go boulder climbing with friends. I went and did a different workout for me because my way to work through grief and emotion is to do workouts and move my body.

It's not everything that I do, but it's the one thing that I can do that I can find that it's strictly for me and I can be with friends, but I can still do that for myself. But I think it's really important that, you know, on a Sunday morning or Sunday afternoon, you know, as we start to think about our week ahead and know that our schedules are going to be super busy, is there the possibility? Oh, pure joy bubbles up when I finish a poem. I love that speak wonder. Is that reading a poem or is it writing a poem?

I would be curious to hear which one it is for you. But what I love about doing these on Sundays is you can look ahead into your week and maybe consider yourself as a third person. And maybe it's scheduling time on your calendar. If you're somebody that likes to do lists, many people like to make a list and plan ahead. Maybe you block time off on your calendar or maybe you make a list and you add on your list something that is strictly for you. And if you aren't a list maker, I'm not a list maker.

For me, it's more about reaching out to a friend and maybe finding an activity or giving myself permission to take a time out in the middle of the day and take a nap. I am not a nap person, however, I wish I was. But I did my best this last week, that when I felt like I hit my wall mentally, I allowed myself, I gave myself permission to just sit on the couch and I set a timer for 30 minutes. I think it was actually 15 minutes one day, but I gave myself permission to just sit on the couch and breathe and do nothing.

And I pet my dog, and I needed that 15 minutes. I think I ended up taking 30 minutes because I recognized that I need more. And towards the end, I started to feel a little bit of the panic of, gosh, I didn't get x done yet. But here's the beauty in it. A lot of us, or many of us, can work remote, or we can take a pause to find some time to catch a breath. And what happens, and there's a lot of studies around this, too, what happens when you allow yourself to take that pause versus charging through?

It actually allows your brain to reset. It allows your body to reset. I love speak. Wonder where you said, also the voice of a loved one on the phone. Reclaim me time. You're welcome. I'm so grateful that you're here, so I'm going to bounce shortly here. My name is Jean, but my invitation to you is reclaim. Ten minutes today, 15 minutes tomorrow. Maybe one other time between now and next Sunday when we come back together that you can get to have strictly for you and do anything. Finish the poem.

Call that loved one. None. Texting, typing. Call them. Hear their voice. I love that. Send somebody else a meme or a TikTok. Jules, I love this. You get up 30 minutes before you wake up your kids in the morning. Enjoy your coffee. That's amazing. Always speak wonder. I love that you write poems. I'd be curious if you're ever willing to share to have one in a comment to see what you write. I love poetry. I'm not good at it, but I love reading it. So on this lovely Sunday, I am going to just invite you one more time, three times a charm, to just reclaim a little bit of time for you.

Find one thing that you need today and do that. Find joy, find a giggle. Find a laughter that you haven't claimed for a while and bring that back to you into your system, however big or small that feels for you. I am here on Mondays on professional development day. Besides being a sound therapist and a spin instructor, I am also an executive coach and business consultant. m. Central standard time to think about being your bold self at work and really pulling out your strengths and bringing them to life.

So I hope you all have a great rest of your day. If you're in Minnesota, grab a coat and go play in the snow like you're a little kid again. Ooh, speak under our naps. I'm glad that you give yourself permission for those. I'm gonna have to work on that. Have a great day, everybody. We'll see you all soon.