Me Time ✨

Hello, everybody. It's Sunday. We're here for some me time. My name is Jean Nichols. I'm popping in a little early just to hold space for people as they join in. And I can just take some time to say hello, make sure my sunglasses that are popped in my head are correctly. Hello, good morning. Hello, jewels. Happy Sunday, happy Easter. My name is Jean. I popped in just a little early today just to hold space. Let people join in, settle in. It's a beautiful day here in Minnesota. Minneapolis. I don't know where you guys are all from.

Where are you from, Jules? If you popping into the chat here, maybe type in and tell us where you are from so we can see how vast, how broad we are. I am excited to be here today. I don't know if you. Good afternoon. Happy Easter. Thank you. I don't know if you popped in earlier today to hear JC. He had a conversation about being on road trips. I listened in and brought me to a place, Lake of the woods. Ooh, I love that. Oh, it's afternoon. That's right. I feel like I'm, I'm still in like a swirl.

We have a lot of energy that's coming at us right now. I don't know if you, if anybody pays attention to some of the moonology, but we had a lunar, we had a full moon last weekend. On Monday we had a lunar eclipse. And an eclipse always comes in twos. And so next Monday on April 8, we will have a solar eclipse. And this one is pretty big. There's actually a pathway that you can travel to. I think the closest for us in Minnesota would be in Illinois, possibly Chicago, where there's a beltway of where the solar eclipse will be the most powerful.

But if you take that even one step further, tomorrow starts a month of mercury in retrograde. So if you are a high energy person, somebody that's very sensitive to energy. Hello, Samia Santi. Then you might be feeling a little extra last week, and this week you might feel, I don't know, I gotta explain it in a way that maybe makes sense to me, but I've been a little more spacey. I feel like my thoughts just aren't connecting or firing as quickly as usual. I have walked into a couple of stationary objects.

Like, I know it's stationary. I know that it hasn't moved since the last time I walked past it. And then, bam, I slam right into it. So today, on me time, I'm kind of just gonna allow us some space and time to think about, you know, how outside forces might impact us. I happen to be coming to you live from my little studio. So I'm a coach. I do executive coaching, one on one coaching, team building. I am a business consultant, but I'm also a Reiki master and certified sound therapist. And I do a lot of work with energy.

I do a lot of work with sound tools. I posted a video earlier this week with one of my instruments, which is a hand pan. But today I'm coming to you from my actual little shop where I have walls of crystals. You'll see some of my sound bowls. I have some chimes in the back, a little infrared saunas. So I do one on one breath work and sound bath sessions with people in my little studio. And I have a lot of crystals that I help to connect people with. So I've given you a little tour of my space for today and why this is important and why I'm bringing it into my me time for today is, as JC mentioned earlier this morning, we are really busy and we forget about how might we take a little breath for ourselves.

Earlier this week, I was telling my team I have. I co own an indoor cycling studio. I'm a true gem. And I am kind of busy. But I told them that. I told some people vulnerably this week that I. On Tuesday, I was just having a mental health day. I was really in my head. I was exhausted. I'm not sure I slept great. And my brain just was like, I was fried. I was really fried. And there's probably a whole lot of reasons I'm still pulling through, grieving the loss of my mom and my dad. They died about a year apart, almost exactly, and my mom passed away just under six months ago.

And so I've been going through just bouts of grief. And you never know when it's gonna hit you, right? All of a sudden you think you would wake up and it's gonna be a great day, and you're like, woof. I don't know what just happened. So on Tuesday of this week, I'll finish my story. I got up, I started doing my work. I was going to go take one of my team members spin classes because it's a spin studio. And I. I literally just lost it. I got really emotional. I didn't feel like working out. And usually working out for me is my way to process all my emotions.

And I literally went back. I put my fleece pajama bottoms on, I pulled on a hoodie, and I shut my laptop and I sat on the couch and I allowed myself to feel whatever emotions I was feeling. My dog was laying on the couch with me, like, I don't know what's going on, but this is where we're gonna be. And I binge watched a tv show, and I'm so beside myself that on a Tuesday, I just sat on the couch and I just binge watched on Apple TV this tv show called Loot. I don't know why. It was 30 minutes episodes, and it just made me laugh and cry and all of the emotions.

And by, like, 02:00 in the afternoon, I took my dog for a walk. We went to a coffee shop, and I, for the first time all day, felt like I could finally just be present. And so Tuesday was kind of my me time day, where I had a lot of work to do, but I just. I couldn't do it. I just couldn't do it. So I gave myself permission to have that day. And then I was embarrassed. I was like, I can't tell anybody about this. And I. I was just like, gosh, what just happened to me? I have a team that relies on me.

I have a client that needed some things done, and I stayed up later, and I got. I got the things I needed to get done done. And I have a text chain with a couple of girlfriends. They ride at the spin studio. They take my classes. But over the last eight years, we've become friends. And I. I sent them a text, and I was like, guys, I just need to put this out into the universe. Hold space for me, please. But here was my Tuesday, and I sent this note to them on Friday. It was about 2 hours after I had taught a spin class.

They were all in my class, and we had the best time, the best class. People were singing. We were dancing on a bike. I know it probably sounds a little crazy, but it was, like, what brought me joy. m. So I teach a few classes in the week. So Tuesday was a day I hit the wall. m. I had to teach a spin class, which means I have to be in front of 25 to 30 people, bringing a lot of energy to create a space for them. And I woke up on Wednesday morning, and I was like, I don't know if I have it today. m.

Or 550. m. And we're sweaty. It's funny, but I sent them all a text after our Friday class, because, again, it was really fun. And I shared with them my Tuesday, and I told them that Wednesday and Friday morning were the two mornings that got me through the week and what brought me the most joy and helped me rediscover myself again, because I felt like I just. I felt conflicted. I had a mental health day, then I felt conflicted about taking a mental health day. And so I shared the whole story with them in a very long text.

And one of the girls wrote me, note back, and I'm gonna read it to you. She said, I love your vulnerability so much. Can we normalize confessionals, please? And then she said a bunch of other things that were really nice and shared that she was also gonna take a day off the following day. And that struck me. So when I think about self care day and I think about us being here, dialing into Cadre on any given day of the week, to tap into whatever message any of these beautiful authors have to share, contributors have to share.

It's like we're normalizing the opportunity to find space. We're normalizing the opportunity to find somebody that has something to say that might hit home to help us reset. Maybe not even just feel alone. Like, even as a Cadre contributor, it's like, oh, I need to be on and give you guys something amazing all the time. And sometimes that amazing is just telling you that, hey, earlier this week, hash, I'm human, too. I called it quits for the day. I took what I needed. I allowed myself to cry. I allowed myself to have really dramatic thoughts.

I took very much an alone day, which I don't get a lot of alone days because I work with clients and I do sound baths. The week prior, I had done sound bass. I calculated it for some reason, for over a hundred people. And I taught spin classes to almost 100 people as well. So that was 200 people in one week that I got the joy of being able to hold space with and for and be with. But also, I recognize that I need to be able to refuel my bucket if I'm going to be able to do that for people as well.

And we're not gonna always have great days. So I would love to know from you, when you're taking swimming time or allowing yourself a self care day, what do you do for you. Like, what is it that you feel like when you hit that wall? You can give yourself permission to do and then insert x. Whether you're on replay or you're with me live today, I would love to hear a comment from you of a time. You took me time unexpectedly. What did you do? Or if you are taking time intentionally, what are you creating space for?

So I'll give you a couple of things that I learned this week. I learned that I can give myself permission to just confess, to talk to my friends and share with them. I've been grieving for a while now. It was really hard when I lost my dad and then when I lost my mom. It was really hard, too. Not gonna cry. Not gonna cry. And this grief period has been something I hadn't experienced this intensely for so long. And I haven't been talking about it a lot to people I'm close with because I don't want to feel like I'm that burden.

And what I've realized time and time and time again is that people also want to hold space for us. And so it's important that we feel permission to be able to share, to normalize confessionals where we just get to be vulnerable and raw. And who are those people we can do that with? Maybe we can't all do it on a live video stream, but we don't all have to, as long as we feel like we have a couple of people that we can do that with. And if you feel like you don't have anybody, find me on instagram irainbag 30.

And. And I'll normalize it with you. I'll be there for you. We will be in this together. Because I find beauty in that. I also find that when I'm doing some. Taking some time for me, I love to play with my crystals. I love to find one that maybe resonates on a given day. And what I love about it, and I'll show you this one a little closer, is I just love seeing the detail. I love observing and seeing what I can find inside of here. And it allows my brain to just create space. And I get to see that maybe there's some cuts in here or some shifts in colors or rainbows.

And I get to just imagine, like, how this was created and crystals were created on earth. They've been in creation for over 10,000 years, 5000 years. Like, it takes a long time to make a quartz crystal and somebody digs it up and creates a beautiful shape. I'll show you another one. This is one of my favorites. I've got this beautiful one here in my little shop, but I work with it in meditation and it helps me to just find calm. So on the day that I was taking me time on the couch and I shut my computer unconventionally, on a day where I had a lot to do, but my brain wasn't there, I couldn't do it.

My heart wasn't there, I didn't have it. I literally phoned a crystal and I held onto it pretty much in my hand the whole day while I was watching loot on Apple Pay or apple plus tv, hanging on the couch with my dog. And then I got the energy up to walk my dog cause he needed to go out. And I walked to the coffee shop. And it was that moment that I started to laugh. Because my dog walks into the coffee shop, to the counter, sits down and is like, I'm here. I would like to order one dog biscuit, please.

And I just laughed because he was so silly. It was so funny. And giving myself those 4 hours of time, 5 hours of time was probably the best gift. So whether you do it today, on Sunday, you take some time for you, or you do it on a day when you least expect it, give yourself permission to normalize. Right? Normalize taking time for you. And even normalize sharing with one person. Doesn't have to be everybody, just one person. What you did that day. Because when I opened that door with four of my girlfriends, each of them shared a story back that none of us knew and we were all going through something and it allowed us to hold space for each other in a different way.

So a little different me time this week. Next week I am hosting retreat. So I will be in Bayfield, Wisconsin. So I will live stream some me time with you from the retreat that I'm hosting in beautiful northern wisconsin. And I'll bring to you some really good energy and we'll talk about taking time with breath and finding time with breath. So thank you for joining today. I hope you all have a great day. If you have comments, anything you'd love to share, type it in the chat. I would love to hear from you.

What do you do for you when you're having a day? And also just pay attention. Mercury in retrograde if that's your jam, starts tomorrow. It's the month of April. It goes till the April 25. If you're curious to know more about mercury in retrograde, happy to share more. Very highly energetically sensitive. April 8 is a solar eclipse. So jump in. Hi Timothy and check out the solar eclipse. It's going to be really cool. So I hope you all have an amazing Sunday. I look forward to talking to you soon.

m. Central standard Time. And check out today Daryl, where he talks about where is rock bottom. We have Jason with three powerful words. And later tonight, if you want to just ask anything to Evan, go for it. I hope you all have a great day. We'll see you soon.