Harbor Pilots - Finding Beach Glass

I am live on the Cadre. My name is Kathy Joy. This is my vacation face. I've got the geriatric sunglasses that go over my reader cheater glasses. I've got the sun visor, got the jazzy earrings. So I'm Kathy joy. My Cadre handle is speak wonder, and I have some things to talk about from my mini vacation in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Harrisburg is about 7 hours drive south of my hometown of Erie, Pennsylvania, and we have just gotten some respite from a big humid and hot series of days. Hello, Jules.

Good morning. Thanks for joining today. I'm talking about beach glass. And just to dart back a little bit as to why I'm in Harrisburg, I am traveling with a friend. We're both caregivers, and she sadly lost her dad recently. And this is where we would come and visit him. We would drive from erie several times over the last couple of years to see him. And now my aunt has passed away, my mother's sister, and she is from Harrisburg, and my cousin's invited me to come with the estate closing and the writing of the obituary, which they have tasked me to do.

So this is what I would call a vacation grief trip and necessary paperwork trip and combination thereof. Cafe Marissa Good morning, Shannon. Hello, Shannon. I caught you a little bit on your live, most of it. Traveling is difficult sometimes. Maybe I should use the word challenging, because there's always an adventure waiting. I'll tell you about a quick adventure, and then I'll get into my topic of beach glass. What I mean about challenging is there's not always wi fi. So therefore, we've just checked out of the comfort Inn and suites in Camp Hill, Pennsylvania, and they have really good wi fi.

So I'm staying in the breakfast area, which is no longer serving breakfast this time of day. And there's a little bit of ambient sound around me. The television's on, and some people are coming back and forth, and it's fine. This is Cadre. We do what we do, live in our bubble of reality. The adventure I wanted to tell you about is yesterday when we went out to eat, my friend Laura, who's driving on this trip, and myself, and we had a third friend join us at this wonderful restaurant called the macaroni grill.

Maybe you have one where you live. We left the sunroof open, and then while we're eating, the rains came. A deluge, thunderstorms, winds, rain. So we return to a car with puddled water on the seats. So we got our little tushys wet. No harm, no foul. Next morning seats are all dry. All is well. Just one of the adventures when you travel. So, folks, remember to close your sunroof if there is rain in the forecast or even if there isn't. Discovering beach glass. I love to look for beach glass on the shores of Lake Erie, and it's beautiful, and it's broken.

Bits of bottles in glass that have been tossed and turned, and they arrive on the shore polished. Their edges are smooth, and there are several colors. I love to find the blue, and I love the pearly white ones. There is a lot of brown, and there are some other colors and, you know, different colors and different combinations. And I call it the winnowing out, meaning that when we take sand and we winnow out the gems from the sand, we will find bits of shells and beach glass. The winnowing out is what we do in life as well.

So discovering truth and beauty, we need to keep our eyes open for the unexpected. Beach glass is a wonderful symbol of that. In my branding or my template of harbor pilots, JC reminded us recently about the thin space, and that's a wonderful backdrop for my talk today on beach glass and discovering hidden gems, keeping our eyes open to maybe unexpected beauty or a new truth. The thin space, as JC reminds us, is the present moment. The moment we're in, the moment you and I are in right now. Shannon, I'd love to see you, too.

Love to see everybody here on the Cadre. And so the present moment is a place for a divine encounter. And what JC said the other day, that really kind of shocked me, is that statistically, we spend 48% of our time worrying about the future, another 48% fixating on the past, which leaves 4% living in the moment, living in the thin space, living in a place that is sacred, that is charged with meaning and relevance. We need to spend more time in the thin space and the present and dwell inside of it and discover truth, beauty.

Another Cadre computer. Oh, no, no, no. Contributor very much a human is. Doctor Charisse. And I wrote down one of her gems, which I compare symbolically to beach glass. The gem she held up for us to see was this doctor Charisse said, be compassionate and empathetic to the parts of you that are not showing up right now. I held that up and discovered its truth and beauty. Anila, in a past livestream, said, turn the volume up on the whispers. And that appealed to my sense of the poetic. And what Anila was getting at in that live was regarding intuition and listening to our intuition, turning up the volume on things that are whispering to us from our soul and spirit.

So my beach glass today are various and sundry bits of Cadre quotes from the cadres. I leave these in my journal. Of course my journal is a corgi because I have a corgi who has a pet sitter back home. This is called have you ever heard of this? This is called diamond dots and a friend of mine, Cindy made this journal for me. Pretty neat. So I jot down all these bits of beauty. And so for me, my beach glass lately from the quadrosphere includes the ones I just mentioned. And also Paya is a recent newcomer to the quadra sphere.

As a speaker contributor, she talks about forging your own pathway. She said your own pathway is not all about doing, it's also about resting. She went on to say, if you don't take breaks, your body will do it for you. There's a discovery that I'm holding up to the light like so much precious beach glass. Thank you Payap. And then we heard this one. Vacations are a reset. This is also Anila. She says vacations are a reset, a way for the brain to create space to take a break. A way for the body to take a break.

The summer lull is something she referred to as a less stressful environment. So I like that. The summer lull that invites a poem, maybe a future poem, from my pen. And Anila also reminding us, reminded us in leading with love to create space for a mini vacation every day. And I love that idea. And I'm on it. I'm all about it. She said a mini vacation helps you decompress, detach and find balance. Coffee chats with Doctor D. Have you joined those? I invite you to go on the replay or look at the ones that are scheduled for the future, not specifically always for the ones I just mentioned.

This is a nice smattering sampling of Cadre contributors we heard in Doctor D's presentation. She was talking about how to find closure after a relationship ends, and that was very helpful for me. I've recently, in the past half a year, I've had a friend ghost me for no particular reason, and that's very difficult when there's no closure. She gave me some good ideas and she reminded me to check out why I even want to know and if it's legitimate enough to go back in and do some healing in the community chat.

I love going in there. I read about the ultimate cheat code, and this is by a Cadre contributor who wrote this, that the ultimate cheat code in life is five letters. Five letters. Two words. Say no. This keeps you aligned with your values. It also gives you clarity on what you can say yes. To say no hits my heart in a particular way because I am a recovering people pleaser. Saying yes is my go to because I want to be liked and I want to be helpful, and I don't want to fall out of favor with anybody.

Saying no is also a complete sentence, and it's all right. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for that contribution. So I invite you, Khadrasvir, to visit the community, chat and see what gem is lurking there for you. What can you winnow out and hold up? Like a bit of sea glass or beach glass from Darryl Glaze. If the pain of staying the same isn't greater than the pain to change, you won't change. Yeah. If the pain of staying the same is not greater than the pain to change, you won't change. Thank you, Darryl.

Thank you for that. For us to gaze at and to consider and to revisit. Abby, just recently on her live, said Abby Mallard, she says, I am grateful and slightly overwhelmed. The honesty and the vulnerability right there, that's a gem. Grateful and overwhelmed, that's real life. Matthew Tapp, he was talking about accountability recently in his live, Matt says, the adhesive band bind, I was thinking of a band aid, wasn't I? The adhesive bind in our social systems is what accountability is. It is what holds us together.

He added, it can also be exhausting. So Matthew went on to talk about accountability and how it's necessary and how it holds us together. Hold that gem up to the light. Tiffany. Tiffany Norton is one of our Cadre contributors, who is a comic, a comedienne. She was talking about aloning on the weekends. And in her recent live, Tiffany mentioned a breakup, didn't mention it. It's occupying every fiber of her being right now because it's dreadful and it's hard, difficult. It's painful and it's a big adjustment, a breakup with someone you've been with for a while, which she had.

So she very openly, candidly talked to us about aloning on the weekends. And what does that look like? What should we do about it? Dan Griffin came on the live and talked about how life at the end of his live, I just had to write this down. I'm constantly going on the replay and kind of pushing back the red line, which I guess is the modern version of Rewind, like we used to do with cassette tapes and video cassettes. Hey, Kathy. Dan said, life is the creator's gift to us and how we live is our gift back to the creator.

There is a shiny bit of beach glass to winnow out, to look at, gaze at, and revisit. Have you been in the short videos? I've been going to the homepage on the Cadre and learning where I can find other bits of beach glass in the quadrasphere. And this one is from Melinda Dean. She's a chaplain at St. Croix Hospice, and she talked about the difference between mourning and grieving. I had never really heard that delineation, and so she very clearly explained that mourning is what happens when you express your grief.

So mourning is your expression of grief. I found it comforting. I find Melinda's voice very soothing, very comforting. Sarah also is a St. Croix hospice worker and a chaplain. And what Sarah said is something I've said as a widow to people, gently, I hope, and with lots of love. Sarah said, never minimize a loss. Silver linings are hard to hear for that person. So that person who is grieving doesn't need platitudes or clever sayings. They need your arm around their shoulder. They need the look of empathy in your eyes.

And comparisons don't help. So never minimize a loss. Silver linings are hard to hear for that person. I invite you here on the Cadre to to winnow out the small bits of beauty that are waiting for you at the shore of life every day. Just like so much beach glass. As I sign off on my live today, I would invite you to dig, discover and dwell. Dig for the gems. They're waiting for you. Discover them and dwell on them. That might look like journaling, calling a friend and saying, listen, I heard this beautiful truth.

I want to share it with you. It might be just going into the Cadre and replaying something. Dig, discover and dwell. Your beach glass is waiting. Thanks so much, everyone, for joining me, and I'll see you next time. Enough substance. And so if you find enough, even a half decent performance.