Favorite Quotes from the Cadre

Hello, cadre. I'm Cathy Joy. You know me here on the cadre's fear as speak wonder. Today, I'm so excited to share with you on caregiver day. Oh my. I forgot to turn off my goo goo clock. It's also kind of walky. It's not giving the correct time because my granddaughter likes to have me push the button whenever she comes over. So the bird doesn't know what time it is. It's 11 o'clock Eastern Standard Time. I'm in Erie, Pennsylvania. Within easy driving distance of a beautiful bejeweled lake. I say bejeweled because today the sun is shining.

And I get to go see the lake a little bit later today and see the sun shining on the lake. That makes my heart happy. It's about a thousand degrees here in my apartment because my AC officially quit working. We'll have to contact the landlord. So today I'm going to talk about collecting beach glass. One of my favorite things to do. I like to go to one of the 11 beaches on Erie Peninsula and see what comes up on shore. T ostin tumbled, smoothed, and beautiful. And always a wonderful surprise. I love discovering the little bits of glass on the shore.

And so it is with cadre. I love to bring my journal with me when cadre is on live or on the replay and jot down bits of wisdom and things that I can kind of hold on to reread take with me in my own journey of caregiving and life in general. So the things that I see the speakers presenting and also those interacting in the chat are little gems. And they're things that sort of like wisdom washing up on the shore. Hello, jewels. And presenting themselves and saying here, hang on to this. This will sustain you.

And that's what cadre does for me. As a matter of fact, I was asked by a friend, what is cadre? And I was trying to think a really descriptive way to describe it. And I said, you know what, cadre for me as a consumer of cadre as a recipient of its nurturing. I said, cadre is like Facebook wearing combat boots. She said, what do you mean? I said, well, you know, it's like Facebook, but without all the polish and scrub, cadre is people standing in the grit and dirt in their combat boots saying, here's how it is.

This is real. This is real. And I'm reaching out to you as a real person. It's like saying to the group, this is how we got out the door this morning. And we all lived to tell the story. And it wasn't easy, but it was worthwhile. And here we are together. I had a friend gift me this. This is beach glass repurposed into a beautiful art rendering of a bird among the reeds. Cat tails. Each of these is a piece of beach glass that was sifted out of the sand. And then this little bird is one of the more rare finds, which is the blue-green sea glass or beach glass, I should say, because area is a freshwater lake.

So I have this on my bookshelf and I love it. Today, I would like to pick out different gems of wisdom that I have gleaned from the cadre sphere as someone who comes in and joins in the conversations with the other speakers. And I've been at this since last, I want to say last fall. I think I became aware of the cadre last October, November, and then I joined in as a speaker this past May. Do you love this bowl? I think this is like, well, I use it for fruit. It could be for anything. Today, it's for collected bits of wisdom from the cadre sphere.

The reason I folded up each piece after I typed it out and printed it out, I folded it up, and now it's a little mixture out because I didn't want to do this in any kind of prioritized way. I just want to discover with you what has been meaningful to me. And this is meaningful on caregiver day. This is meaningful on any given day. You can't calibrate what you don't already have, J. C. Lippel . And it just lifted it out of the sphere. Can't calibrate what you don't already have. Colleen Lindstrom about caregiving.

We help them manage, we help them, and she's in the sandwich generation. We just heard from Colleen live. We help them while managing our own emotions, particularly when you care give someone who forgets. Stephanie Irwin. You are kind. You are capable. You are worthy. Thank you, Steph. Here's a fact that I wrote down. , 50 million unpaid caregivers. Thank you, J. C. for that statistic. Here's a haiku, and his author is Speak Wonder. That would be me. It's titled The Darkest Mercy, and I wrote it after watching someone on the cad re sphere.

The darkest mercy, kindness, waltzing in the pain, fragile hope will rise. This is where I'm putting these gems. Raw and real equals genuine. Thank you, Jules. Truth, truth, truth, truth. Power is relinquishing awesomeness to others. J. C. True power, relinquishing awesomeness to others. What is cadre? This is my elevator speech. I put this in here, so you could discover with me what I've discovered. cadre is an app, a wellness app, a community of professionals, peers, and poets . We put reminders out there into the world about being human and being accepted.

Oh, Rachel. Here's one from Rachel to have a cost. The groundlessness of being human. She talked about the fundamental ambiguity of being human, and it made such sense, and she dropped in such clarity. Feeling groundless, feeling like we're falling, and experiencing the fundamental ambiguity of being human. Hi, Luke. Good morning. I don't really elaborate on these because they speak for themselves. These pithy quotes. Here's a comment from Jules. Jules, pay attention because I pay attention to you.

You're always wonderfully and vibrantly interacting on the cadre in the comments, and here I wrote in one of my journals, Jules writes, "Slow and steady can show you the beauty in growth." And Jules, you were responding in that moment to Abby Mallard's talk, which was about how we sometimes compare our journeys. It can be beneficial in some times. It can be detrimental. That's worth repeating. Slow and steady can show you the beauty in growth. Thank you, Jules. Aneela was talking about intuition.

Turn the volume up on the whispers. She had me physically leaning in to that live, and I watched it on the replay. Turn the volume up on the whispers. Check your intuition and listen. You think I'm done? Not by a long shot. Luke. Luke is here with us this morning . You listed some vacation goals. I think I'm making you accountable, brother, because I listed all your goals, and I thought, this is so cool. 72 hours tech- free. Did you get a check mark beside that? This is goals during your vacation.

Fitness goals equals one hike per day, and one nap per day. Beautiful balance. Read two books during vacation. Two, three, four. I thought there were five. I might have cut the paper, but anyway, Luke, how did you do on that? How did you do on the tech-free? That would be a challenge, huh? But I wrote it down because it challenged me. C. settle into that. That's a standalone. Settle into that. C. libbled is highly quotable. Enoughness is a springboard to discovery. Settle into that. Evan Lieberman, what a dear heart.

Evan says, "There's a disorder that comes alongside addiction. It's the disorder of missed opportunities." Thank you, Evan. We are in the grit and grind, you guys, and we got to put on our combat boots, and we don't slug it out in isolation. We get to do this together in the support and encouragement of the codosphere. Ford your own pathway, this is from Piab. She says, "If you don't take breaks, your body will do it for you." True story. You don't take breaks, your body's going to shut down. Cadre is a platform for truth and healing.

Speak wonder. I said that. Sometimes I'm quotable. C. let your ears be your coach. Let your ears train your grace muscles. C. did a talk on grace and how listening plays into acts of grace and listening is key. This is Piab. She says, "Create space for a mini vacation every day." This is your time to decompress, detach, and find balance. Decompress, detach, find balance. Ask, "Where am I looking at self-care as a burden or an opportunity?" Dr. Shar ice. "Where am I looking at self-care as a burden and where is it an opportunity?"

She jiggles out some contemplation, doesn't she? I can't possibly get everybody in here, but I did get some quotes that I wanted to share, like so much beach glass welcoming me at the shore, welcoming me at the shore line. Piab, the summer lull is a less stressful environment for many of us. It's a way for the body to take a break. The day I heard this, I just needed to remember not to rush through summer in the caregiving frenzy. I just heard one of our speakers talk about hyperv igilance, and that is so true.

As caregivers, we're always on alert. We're just always. And to conscientiously lean into the lull that is summer, and to look around at the flowers and the beauty that is unique to summer in most of our climates is a choice that gives you a pause and a breath. And it's good. Aneela, this is how she usually signs off, wishing you love, strength, and awareness. Daryl glaze. I listen to Daryl's lives or replay whenever possible. He says, " If the pain of staying the same isn't greater than the pain to change, you're not going to change."

Daryl speaks on addiction and recovery. "If the pain of staying the same isn't greater than the pain to change, you're not going to change." Whoo, in the grit, in the reality. Jules, yeah, raw and real equals genuine. It's quarter past, and I still have a few to go. I was told I get the whole 30 minutes of her lawn in. Should I finish these up? Just a few here. In coffee chats with Dr. D, aka Dr. Leslie Davis, she was talking about imposter syndrome when we feel like a fraud, and she says the feeling can lead to a toxic relationship with yourself.

Wow, that was some good internal thinking, because I think of the imposter syndrome as having a toxic relationship with others in my environment. Never thought about the relationship it could foster that is unhealthy with myself. Thank you, Dr. D. I try to grab a cup of coffee when you're on the sphere. Rachel, have a cost on sitting with the loneliness. She says, "Ask, what is the loneliness saying to you?" You ask yourself, "What is this loneliness actually speaking to my heart?" And she reminds us that loneliness is never the absence of your human value.

No, you are worthy. You are cherished. You might sit in isolation sometimes, has nothing to do with your value as a human being. So thank you, Rachel. In the comments, Recovery Cafe referred to me as Speak Wonderful. I had to write that down. Your pathway is not about doing. It's also about resting, doing, resting, resting versus doing, pious. Tonia, so much wisdom, washing up on the shore of the codosphere. Enoughness doesn't always feel like it, JC. Ah, can you believe? I just picked out another one from JC Liple.

Nuzzle into the thin space. If you haven't learned yet about the thin space, you will at some point here. Look for the little glimpses of goodness in the struggle. That's just from today, from Steph Irwin. Look for the little glimpses of goodness in the struggle. That is digging for beach glass. Dr. Cherise, knowledge is not power without application. Land lightly in this world. Celebrate your enoughness, JC. Guys, that does it. The bowl is empty. And the beach glass has been gleaned and looked at.

The sand and the grit has fallen away so that we can look at the sparkles and the sunshine of our reality. Thank you for joining me. I'll see you next week on Caregiver Day. And be sure to stick around for what's to come. And I personally love the replay feature on cadre. There are times when I'm in a conversation with somebody and I want so badly to cut away because I'm getting a notification that somebody's speaking on the cadre. But I want to honor the space I'm in. So there's always the replay.

Thank you. You are loved. You are treasured. And you are worthy.