Rachel Logan, a licensed clinical social worker, explores why people feel repeated frustration and explains congruency—aligning desires, values, and actions—offering practical steps across life areas and small adjustments.
Rachel Logan returns to the Root with a newbie blooper. Come on in to chime in and let's get to the roots.
Rachel Logan is a licensed clinical social worker. Her virtual practice is called get to the root counseling. Come on in. Please like and share and let someone know how to get tothe root today.
Why do we find ourselves frustrated? Repeatedly? People come to counseling when they're frustrated. Can you relate? If you can relate to this, please drop a heart in the chat.
The word congruency means agreement, harmony. And when you think about an area of your life that you want to improve, ask yourself, is there agreement and harmony between what I desire and think as it relates to my actions?
You can build congruency so you can have a symphony and not a band in your life. Break it down to your career, your health, your family, your finances, your spirituality, your relationships. Once you gain that clarity about the different areas of your life, you can make adjustments.
So we had to make adjustments. Know what you truly desire and what aligns with your value system. If they don't align, make small baby steps. And watch if you're less frustrated. See if you gain more peace. Join me next week for another good topic.
Matthews 537 says, but let your yes be yes and your no no. That's how you gain clarity and congruency with yourself. Know what you desire and follow through with that. I see you next week. Be blessed.
Hello, everyone. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to get to the Root with Rachel Logan. I am sorry for my tardiness. It is truly a newbie blooper because I thought I was live and I wasn't. It is all well. It is all good. Come on in to chime in and let's get to the roots. Let's get to the roots. Welcome, welcome, welcome. I am Rachel Logan. I'm a licensed clinical social worker, and I practice in Illinois, in Missouri. My virtual practice is called get to the root counseling.
And so I'm excited to be with you today. Thank you for joining in. Come on in. Please like and share and let someone know how to get to the root today. Come on in. I hope you're having an amazing day so far. This is a new hour. So again, new things are destined for you. New opportunity, a new mood, a new way of living is available to you in this new hour. Okay? So come on in. Thank you for chiming in today. Welcome, welcome, welcome. So today I wanted us to talk about why do we find ourselves frustrated?
Let's take a deep breath on that one. Why do we find ourselves frustrated? Repeatedly? And I realized this sitting with my clients, is that people come to counseling when they're frustrated. They come to counseling when they're over it. And you know what? They're over? Not being congruent. Can you relate? If you can relate to this, please drop a heart in the chat. So I know you with me, and you can relate to feeling frustrated. Because, listen, my clients come, and I can even make this personal.
Me, too, right? That we desire something in our heart, in our mind. We picture it, but the reality does not reflect it. Can you relate? Can you relate to. I want one thing, but my world and my environment doesn't reflect that. So you find yourself aggravated, frustrated, annoyed, because you desire, but you don't know how to materialize what you really want. I can relate. I can relate with my clients, and I can relate to you. And that's what I want us to talk about today. What does it mean to be congruent, and how do we get that?
How do we build congruency in our lives? And so the word congruency means agreement, harmony. A synonym will be balance. And when you think about an area of your life that you want to improve, I want you to be honest and ask yourself, is there agreement, harmony, balance between what I desire and think as it relates to my actions. Sit with it, because I had to be honest with myself where I said I want to be healthy. But I was still going to dairy Queen and getting me a blizzard once a week. I'm being real.
I enjoy blizzards, but it is not congruent with my health journey. Mm mm. My clients gonna test it is, too, right? It's like I want to be less depressed, but am I forcing myself to get up and get sunshine so I can get vitamin D so I can feel physically better? Mm hmm. This is why we need accountability. This is why we go to counseling, and we come onto Cadre, right? So we can learn and be challenged to reflect. This is what I love about this platform is that it's truly a mirror for you to, like, think about this.
Do I truly have congruency? I want you to think about it. Am I living my life in symphony? Hmm. That's a good word, isn't it? I know, right? I. Symphony. Are all the instruments in my band, are they working together, or are they clashing? Is my drum, is my bass, is my rhythm solid? And my flute and my. My daughter plays the sax. Is the saxophone in sync with all the other instruments, or are it. Or is it, like a hot mess? Be real. Drop a heart if you feel me. So, let's talk about how you can build congruency.
What are some baby steps? You can build congruency so you can have a symphony and not a band in your life. That's a hot mess. Okay. Right? So all the parts of you, all the pieces. So your mind, your will and your emotions, your mind, your spirit, your body, rather, you break it down to, like, actual things, like your career, your health, your family, your finances, your spirituality, your relationships, are they. Are they balanced? Do they have harmony? Are they in agreement with what you truly desire?
So let's break this down. So, step number one is to be clear. Be clear. Once I know what I desire to, I can execute from there. Be clear, get clear. Gain clarity. Truly sit with yourself and ask, what do I want in my career? What's the highest level that I personally want to achieve? Not what everybody else say I can achieve, but what do I want to achieve? Do I want more or do I want less? Ask yourself, what do I really want? Once you gain that clarity about the different areas of your life. So you got health, family, career, finances, personal development, spirituality.
And if I'm missing one, drop it in the chat. But when you sit and you break down the different parts of your life, ask yourself, what do I truly want in these areas? So, once you gain that clarity and you know what you value, you can become aware of your actions and if they are aligned or not. You know, just a few minutes ago, I said I wanted to be healthier, right? I wanted to tone my body. I wanted my gut health to help with my mental health. So eating a lot of dairy doesn't match well with my body.
So once I had that awareness, I was able to adjust, right? Because I value having solid mental health, having a solid mental health and a good, good health. Okay. And so once I realized and I became aware, hey, what I am desiring and what I'm doing doesn't match, I had to make a choice. And two things happened for me. The adjustment that helped me was I reduced how much I consumed and I've selected a different type of ice cream. Okay. You know, they got all kind of stuff out there now, so I had to just be real.
So make adjustments. Hello. Thanks, bar, for joining in. So we had to make adjustments. I had to make adjustments. So, step number one is be clear. Know what you truly desire and what aligns with your value system. Two, stay aware, be aware and adjust. Adjusted. If you know you desire something better and you're not doing it, adjust. So how do you adjust? You make small baby steps. So, for me, I mentioned good health, gut health, and just being healthy. I was eating a lot of ice cream, so I had to reduce how much I was consuming, right.
And as I reduce it, I noticed a difference. That was my baby step. I didn't cut it out completely because it's something that I enjoy. I just had to be real and honest with myself. So I want to challenge you to truly, truly think about this, right. This is how you get to the root of why you're frustrated. I really want you to get this so you can have congruency and peace. That's what you gain. You gain congruency and peace, and you won't find yourself in those undesirable cycles. You know what I mean?
Those undesirable cycles. So you gain peace, you gain clarity, you gain congruency and balance. So I repeat, I really want you to get this and apply it. This is why are we here? If you're not applying, you gotta apply it. So step one, be clear. Gain clarity, be clear. Step two, be aware. Be aware of your actions. Adjust. If they don't align, make small baby steps. That's step three, make small baby steps. And watch. See if you're less frustrated. See if you gain more peace. And let me know. Drop in the chat.
Let me know. You make your own posts. You journal it in your journal. Share with a friend. Praise yourself, because you don't have to be frustrated. You can have a lot more peace by gaining clarity. So I hope this is helpful for you. Join me next week as we get to the root for another good topic. I want to leave you with a scripture, and that is Matthews 537. And it says, but let your yes be yes and your no no. Okay. Matthews 537 says, and this is. I'm reading just the first part. It says, but let your yes be yes and your no no.
Okay. That's how you gain clarity and congruency with yourself. Know what you desire and follow through with that. All right. I see you next week. Be blessed. Peace out.
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