Cadre Today and The Outward Facing Clique

Hey, good morning, Cadre. How are you? Lydia? A little India Ari to play us in this morning. You are definitely light. I need something calm like this right now. Hey, Steph. Nice to see you, my friend. Steph, I'm actually going to be reaching out to you in about, literally, like 15 minutes when I bop off here, so expect an email from me in just a short moment, my friend. I am light India Ari to play us in this morning. On depending where you are, it's pretty chilly no matter where you are in the.

In the US of A. Today, I have a friend who is kind of South Florida, and it's 50 this morning. I have a friend in Dallas and there's snow on the ground. And if you're up in Minnesota where I am, well, if you're. If you got kids, there's a good chance they're not at school because most schools shut down today. So as we always start off, Cadre, today, I hope you're doing great. Jules. Jules, I hope you're doing great as you walk in the room. But even if you're not doing great, know that that is okay, too.

It may not feel like it, Kelly. It may not feel like it if you're not doing too great this morning. But the good thing is this is what life looks like. This is where Cadre comes into play, right? The prerequisite for being a part of this Cadre, this special group with a special intention. The special group is all of us humans who are on this journey. And the special intention is to create a space where no matter where you are, no matter what's going on, you can find something that'll help you feel better.

A little bit better. A lot better. Ray. Ray. It is nice to see you, my friend. So my name is JC if we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you right now. It is a gift. And if it makes you feel a little uncomfortable to know that you are a gift, I am okay with you being uncomfortable with that truth. We will remind you of it like a squeaky door every single time you come on in. So, Tuesdays. We often talk about how. How we exist together, how we build community together, how we form relationships together, how we move around big ideas together.

I just saw in the community feed, Betsy Hodges, who goes live in one hour and 12 minutes, shared her topic. She's going to be talking about thinking of good questions. What are good questions to ask when you're trying to make a tough decision? Oh, I love that. And think how much that impacts how you do things together. What happens when we have a tough decision to make or when things are kind of dark and stressy? We often isolate Augustine. Augustine a hippo. So a thinker and a writer, long, long time ago, always wrote about the times that they would incurvatus.

Say Latin. They would curve in on themselves in the moments of failure or humiliation or stress or not knowing. And the act of uncurling from oneself, opening up, is where they found joy and light and direction and peace. So maybe you're feeling curved in on yourself today. Right. Kelly says, you know, rough morning with the, with the kids. You know, Jules, kids two hours late. Yeah. Hard to get up in the dark days of January. And no matter what's going on, any day could provide us that kind of feeling.

So, as you can see in the title of this live stream, I love talking about this concept that I came up with when I was youth directing back in the day, and it's this idea of the outward facing click. The outward facing click. So a click traditionally is a group of people who have a shared passion or a belief structure. And because they have that shared structure, they face in, they look at each other and they get excited about what they have together. And it's really hard if you're on the outside to be become a part of it.

Well, we always talked about with this group of young people that I was creating space for and fostering growth in was, hey, it seems like we have something special here. It also seems like you have a desire to invite other people to be a part of it. And it's kind of culturally prime right now to say, hey, all are welcome here. But to not actually build any pathways for anybody to be able to access it. Say, hey, all are welcome here. If you're willing on being the outsider who doesn't know what's going on, who doesn't have access and agency and understanding.

So if you're willing. Hey, Shannon, nice to see you, my friend. If you're willing to be the one on the outside and figure your own way in, yeah, sure. Then you're welcome here. The outward facing click says, what if the longer that we are a part of this thing that we care about, the less it is about us and the more it is about the people who have yet to find this thing that we care about. So in other words, rather than facing inward, we face outward and it becomes a doorway for others to find the specialness that they can find in the thing that we have found specialness In.

So here's a story. Last Thursday, if we've shared time together, you maybe heard me talk about a show I'm working on right now. It's the area premiere of Don't Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus by Mo Willems, the musical. And our bus driver, one of the two main characters, was going to miss rehearsal. So all of a sudden, our understudy, who had never, never spent one second in the track, in the role, but had done, done her homework, she jumped in and took hold of this role so we could do a run of the show.

Now, the interesting thing is we could say, wow, that understudy did all of the work. But no, every single person in that cast, understanding that they have something special together, realized that if they wanted to still share this story, which they are passionate about, with people outside of the cast, with people in the audience, that they too needed to go ahead and be ready to call an audible, to shift, to do the things to allow the show to continue on. So all of a sudden, this young actor who stepped into a new role had a big job, but so did everybody else.

The interesting thing about community development, the interesting thing about all of these opportunities that we share together, is that when something gets hard, like, you can look at the world and there's a lot of people who are struggling right now because there's a lot of things kind of changing quickly. If it's not directly affecting us and we don't do anything to help alter and shift and move the dance, then maybe we're not really, really a part of that click, or we're not actually facing outward and realizing that if something shifts for somebody, something is shifting for everybody.

So the call to action today in our outward facing click is when you see someone who is a part of this thing that you care about, they're dealing with something. How can you deal with it, too? Because if one person has to deal with the thing, but the other people don't, are you really a part of the same thing? I heard this once, actually. I think I've heard it a couple of times. So I think in the office, there was a moment where.