Get To the Root with Rachel Logan

Hello, Kaiju. Hello. Hello. Welcome in. Welcome in. We are jamming today to Stevie Wonder. So get you some water, pen and paper and let's chat. Today. I give you guys a few minutes. Come on in. Give me some hearts as you come on into the room. It is Love month, you guys. It is February. It is Black History month. It is love month. So today I just want us to jam and just high. Speak, Wonder. Just, you know, take it easy. Happy February. Happy February. Come on in. We are celebrating Love month. We are celebrating Black History Month.

And today we are jamming to Stevie as we just kind of just rhythm. I know. Doesn't it feel good? Speak, Wonder. Yes. Welcome to February. Welcome, welcome, welcome. Hi. Sweet, amazing human being. Thank you. What's up, Luke? Glad to see you. Welcome to February. Yes, I like good tunes. I love a good melody in my background. Come on. And how you guys feeling today? How are you feeling? We are embarking into a new season. And with new seasons come new graces in new topics, right? So guess what we're talking about this month?

We are talking about how to. Okay, so just bear with me. Do you ever sometimes just like sit and think? Like, I wonder how to. Like, do you ever Google, like, how do you do this? Like, I am a fan on Tick Tock of how do you make a chicken pot pie? How do you fix this? How do you screenshot on a Mac? Right? My kids are always asking me, how do you do this? Can you help me do this? And I was just thinking about it. How to relating to mental health. How to, how to. And so it's interesting because I googled how.

What are the most researched questions related to mental health? And it is mostly about anxiety and depression and how to handle stress. And so I want us to, you know, begin our series with how to. So before I start, put in the chat if you have a question that you would like for us to answer. Okay, so the how to question. So if you have a thought, a wonder, maybe an issue, maybe something that you are personally going through or maybe a friend or a loved one and you just want to get some other insight, okay, jot it down, put it in the chat and let's talk about it.

So I'm a pause. Stevie, we'll come back to you here. But I just want us to center ourselves and let's begin to answer this question. How to? How to, how to. So let's think about this. When we think about mental health and I think about the clients that I serve here through telehealth A lot of times they're coming because they are wondering how to handle negative thoughts. Okay. If you can relate, drop it in, drop a heart. How to handle and overcome negative thoughts. And I wanted us to process that today and activate how the how to.

Okay? So we're going to answer the question how to and then we're going to activate, okay, we're going to find that solution. We're going to work into our day to day. So how to overcome negative thoughts. So the other day yesterday we was at church, me and my daughter, she had practice praise dance rehearsal and they were talking about. It was a young man who was recently shot by his younger sister accidentally. Okay. And my daughter felt so uncomfortable just even talking about it. So I'm sorry, I did not give you disclaimer.

Please bear with me. I'm sorry. That was a very sensitive subject. So I just wanted to acknowledge that it was very hard for her to process that. And for my daughter, her thing was I just keep thinking about it. I keep thinking about it and I don't want that to happen to me. And if you and I can relate, we can relate to that. Like how a thought or an idea can kind of get in our head and we can find ourselves like ruminating. Remember last one we talked about how to empty it by journaling? Well, what can we do practically, right?

Like in this case, my daughter's at school and she just can't get up and walk away, right? Or just bust out her journal pad while the teacher is instructing to process her thoughts all the time. And so just like for us as adults, sometimes we may be in the middle of a meeting and they might say something that's triggering or you know, a co worker may do something, something might happen on the news and we still have to perform and show up. And the thought and the fear can keep coming up and we might find ourselves with negative thoughts.

And so we have to learn how to overcome it in real time. So that's kind of how I got this idea, right? So just googling and then just recently going through with my daughter, how do I overcome this fear? How do I overcome negative thoughts? And it's something that we have to work at daily. But just a little tip, okay? We first have to acknowledge that it is a negative thought, right? Because every thought is not the same. Every thought is not one that's beneficial for us. Every thought that pops up may not be something that we should focus on or ruminate on.

Some thoughts are good, some thoughts are negative. And only you can Determine what is, what is good and what's negative. But we know negative thoughts produce negative emotions, right? Or strong emotions. Let me not say negative, because I think emotions are neutral. They can feel good, they can feel bad, they can be strong, or they can be light. Okay? So when we have a negative thought, it can produce in us some feelings that we don't want to feel. So we first have to acknowledge it. Right. For me, I recognized I was having negative thoughts about my husband traveling, and I had to check myself.

So the first thing about overcoming negative thoughts and how to is to identify our thoughts. We have to write them down. I'm a fan of journaling. So we have to acknowledge. You can use your phone, you can put it on a sticky note, but literally, I feel I'm thinking, period. No judgment. After we acknowledge and we challenge it, we have to say, okay, is this true, is this factual or is this emotional? Because every thought is not the same. Every. Some thoughts can be rooted in like a legit fear, and some thought can be legit true based on current events.

Okay? So we have to overcome it by acknowledging and challenging it. Right. Thanks for the heart. Awesome speak. Warner said today at Bible study, our latest discussed the doctrine of suffering. Deep, meaningful conversations. Absolutely. So some thoughts are right. If this negative or positive, if it's rooted in something that actually happened, if it's rooted in something that you project or fear, we have to acknowledge them, period. No judgment. We just have to think in process on the very thought we're having.

Like my daughter thought was, I don't want this to happen to me. Well, that's legit, daughter. That's legit. I don't want that to happen to you too. I don't. I don't. Right. But the fear of it is what was crippling that negative thought of this could happen was a crippling thought. So process and identify the negative thought. The how to. To overcome the negative thought is to think on things that are true, that are noble, that are praiseworthy, that are uplifting, that are positive. We overcome negative thoughts.

Yeah. By acknowledging it, but also finding a solution to the problem and thinking on things that's positive. Right. So speak wonder. I love that you guys are having this conversation that you have a safe place to talk about the suffering, the deep meaning of it. Right. I love the fact that, you know, you can find you can have that place. So overcoming negative thoughts is truly about exposing. It's exposing. And when you have small group conversation and when you come on Cadre, you get in A safe place where you can expose it.

Because a lot of times people are experiencing negative thoughts alone. They are experiencing negative thoughts all alone. So in a safe place, answering that question of how do I overcome it, expose it, share, let somebody else know this is what you're thinking. Someone that is safe, that is non judgmental, that has your back, so you overcome by exposing it. I personally expose negative thoughts to my heavenly Father. I journal and I talk to God about it. Like everything. And what is cool about it is there is no condemnation.

Like he doesn't judge me, I just tell him what I'm thinking in that I feel so much better afterwards. Not to say that everything changed in my life, but this is what I'm thinking and I know it's not right. So just like speak, wonder and Luke and anybody else that chimes in today, the way we overcome negative thoughts is acknowledging it, challenging it and exposing it. Let somebody else know. Why does that matter? It releases you from that. It releases the weight that's on your shoulder and the thought that's ruminating.

So as you release it, rather it's through prayer with a friend, through journaling. Find a positive scripture or a positive quote that instead of that, you focus on something that's positive and solution focused. A lot of time a negative thought is because there is no solution. So create one, Think of one, Google one. Ask a friend. Post it on Cadre in one of the groups, one of the chats. People will answer. People will answer. Post it on Facebook. What would you do about how would you handle this?

You're not alone. I want to encourage you. You can overcome negative thoughts by realizing and accepting you are part of this world and you are not alone. There are spaces like Cadre, Facebook where you can ask the question and receive good support. So overcome negative. How do we do it? Identify it, challenge it, expose it and tell somebody about it. Find a solution. So I'm gonna challenge you. This is the challenge for the week. I hope you up for challenges because for the next four weeks you will get a challenge from me.

If you have a negative thought, literally write it down. Literally expose it. Ask yourself, is this true or is it based on an unanswered question? Then I want you to either tell a friend or go pray about it. After you pray, find you a quote or a scripture and meditate on it. That's it. If you up to the challenge, give me a heart. I'm going to do the challenge because you know what? I refuse to be wrestling with negative thoughts. Nope, not this year. So if you up for the challenge drop a heart I will see you next week as we talk about another we answer another question on the how to if you have one that you want us to talk about and process together drop it in the chat and let's figure it out together.

This is a community. Cadre is a community where we don't have to do life alone. Listen when I have days those rough days and I need a pick me up I just come on Cadre and I literally just skim and I listen and I make a post or a comment like this is a community and that's what I love about it. So listen I'm part of your community Kadre is a part of your community so if you have a how to question let us know we will answer it together and we will win. So we overcoming we are more than coppers and we are overcoming negative thoughts.

You got the challenge. You up for the challenge I see you next week. Peace out.