Monday Motivation: Get Over Feeling Embarrassed.

What's up, Cadre fam? Luke here. Happy Monday to you and yours. We'll give it a second until the notification beeps and I'm going to say hi to y' all. And I got a short and sweet one today. It's got a short and sweet one. This is all of our family puzzles and some of the kids stuff back over here. How's everybody doing today? Happy Monday to you and yours. Taking a little walk about. I went all black and white today. So I got my Cadre shirt, got my Cadre, went all black and white. White. You gotta like that.

Hope everybody's having a wonderful start to your day. So I just wanted to quickly hit on embarrassment. Growing up teens, sometimes I would even have a tough time saying my last name. Luke Wendland. When I was growing up, you know, you'd have like all these things would, would happen with your voice as a young adolescent male. So like those things would happen. You know, there's a lot of different things in my life where I was embarrassed. Early in my teens I was embarrassed, especially in my 20s.

I was so worried about wanting to be liked that I would care about everything I did, how I represented it, how I showed up, the car I drove, what my dad's vehicle would pick me up in if my dad would. I remember this one time, it was in high school and there was a kid like messing around during the national anthem and my dad went over there and talked to him and I was so embarrassed. Like my, my life was just always worried about like how I looked, how I was portrayed, how I was perceived, all those things.

And then finally you get to this age. And I'll never forget when my father in law said this to me. He goes, when you turn 40, you just kind of like don't necessarily care what people think as much. And not only did that hold true, I would say for me it was probably about 35. When I was about 35, I hit this like I don't really care what people think of me. And I'm going to get over this fear of embarrassment. And what it's allowed me to do is it's allowed me to grow at an exponential rate. I just don't, I just don't have fear of like what people think.

I don't, I don't really care about what someone's saying behind my back. I'm not worried about the embarrassment of the miss. I'm not worried about something may not go my way. Like that's life. And what I think it does is it's made me, like, literally bulletproof by getting over that fear of embarrassment, by, you know, if there's something that somebody feels a way about, you know, they can always just come forward and talk to you about it. And I think those. Those are really some beautiful things, you know, that ultimately end up happening.

When you get over that fear, if you're still stuck in the rut that you're so worried about, what, Tommy, Johnny, the embarrassment of the miss, all the feels of caring what people thought growing up, those words hit home. Oh, my gosh, do they ever. It's my life. Um, but if you're still stuck in the rut that you're really worried and cognizant of, like, is somebody texting about me? Maybe it's at work and you're in a meeting and somebody's, like, texting during the meeting, or you're on a zoom call and you said something and all of a sudden two screens go off.

Right? Those are things that would always have crossed my mind in the past. And then I'm always like, let them. Let them. Let them have those conversations. Let them have that. I mean, it's a show of their character, not yours. And then ultimately, the goal is that someday those individuals would be able to come to you to say things like, hey, you know, I think you missed during that meeting, or, you know, I think that this is, you know, it was off track. Or I think that you, you know, didn't represent yourself the best there.

You know, when you get to that point as not only an individual, but as a work culture, oh, my gosh, it is an absolute game changer. It is a true, true game changer of being able to represent not only yourself very, very well, but living, eating, and breathing into the values of the organization. And then last but not least is you don't have to worry about what somebody's thinking. They'll come to you and they'll talk to you about it and they'll share and they'll be honest and real. That's the dream.

That's the dream. I think of every work environment. But if it's not working for you or you're having some of those issues that exist, you know, I encourage you to think like, why? Why is that happening? So with that, the fear of embarrassment and getting over, the fear of. Fear of embarrassment, when you can catapult yourself and your life and you can forget about that, I'm telling you, you. You will grow so much faster. You will overcome fear and obstacles and challenges with great resilience and last but not least, your sky and your ceiling has no limits.

So I really, really encourage you to take a step back and check yourself and say on a 1 to 10 scale, how do I do with embarrassment? I'm going to give you one last example. So my daughter is in fourth grade, and I have this big van. Actually, it's that big Cadre van. Do you see it? You see that big. That big Cadre van? Okay. And when I drive to drop her off, she's like, can you. Can you park way over here? Can you park over here? To ensure that my friends don't see me getting in this big van. And.

And I kind of press it a little bit. You know, I press it a little bit, say like, you know, like, why? And then she'll say, well, you know, it's just one of those things where, you know, my friends. And I'm like, no, but why? And then I just keep asking whys? And before, you know, it's like, well, dad, you know, you have a big van. Love seeing the Cadre mobile around town. Oh, my gosh, that's so great. But it's something that, you know my kids, and I'm trying to stretch them on that embarrassment because, you know, if that's something that embarrassment, they might have be embarrassment of failure.

They may be embarrassment of missing the shot. They may be embarrassed of a bad test score. So I just want to make sure that we start working on those on a one to one. I'm probably about a one now. Less afraid. That's great. I love it. I love it, I love it, I love it. Well, that's good stuff. Healing with Dr. Green. You're amazing. I love listening to your lives. Jules speak. Wonder always good to see you. J. Doe test all the fields of caring what people thought growing up. Those words hit home.

They sure do. They still sometimes hit me. But like one, maybe one time a year or two times a year, not as much as they used to, which was like a daily occurrence. In my teens, in my 20s was a lot. And it was always about being like. Thought about being liked, you name it. I asked myself, how is this going to impact me and my family? Does it bring value? Is it serving me? If not, put a pin in it. Either pop the myth or take it out of the brain or, ooh, I love it. I love it. That's really good. That's phenomenal, by the way.

And thank you, Dr. Green. Yeah, you're the. You're the real deal. I appreciate you so much. It's always good to listen to your live streams. I learned so much from you. That's for darn sure. Pop the myth. Yes. Speak wonder. That's right, everybody. Dominate the week. Have a wonderful week. Have a phenomenal Monday. Be good to each other. Lift each other up. And most importantly, what's there to be embarrassed about? We only live once. Take it in. Live it up. And that's all I got to say about that.

You guys have a wonderful day. Peace. Bye. Bye.