Host offers a warm, nonjudgmental welcome that affirms belonging and encourages curiosity and persistence. They reflect on how the music people hear at 14 shapes identity and how letting go helps communities grow.
Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you are great. If you're not great, we're still here and you still belong. Cadre is telling your brain, your body, that you are on your side.
The most influential music in a person's life is the music they listen to when they are 14 years old. If we want the thing we care about to be cared about by more people, we need to let it fly away. That's how we grow community.
I'm broke, but I'm happy. I'm poor, but I'm kind. I'm short, but I'm healthy. Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you are great. We'll let Alanis sing us in a little bit this morning, everybody. And what it all comes down to. Fine, fine, fine. High fives, y'all. Bo, Bo, how are you doing? You want to know something? I saw so hand in my pocket, Alanis Morissette from the very, very famous album Jagged Little Pill. Well, it got turned into a musical back in 20, 25 years ago already, by golly.
But right around that time, that album was in its 25th anniversary of entering its existence. I remember when that album came out. Now, I didn't listen to popular music when I was. When I was a kid. I kind of grew up in older music. And then I've fallen in love more and more with music for my generation as I've gotten older. But we'll talk more about that in a moment. Hey, how are y'all doing? I hope that you're great. And if you're not great, notice that my demeanor didn't change right now. I didn't go to going, oh, I'm so sorry.
Because we know that if we fly felt bad, every single time someone's life went up, down, up, down, up, down, we would spend all of our time feeling, feeling bad. And I think the courageous act that we engage in here is we say, hey, you know what? If you're great, we love that. If you're not great, we're still here and you still belong. And if you need the virtual hug, if you need the. The let's sit in that, that's awesome. And also, if you are in the space like, so, what do I do? Simply coming here, simply going, I'm going to open.
Cadre is telling your brain, your body, that you are on your side, that you are in that constant battle of curiosity and courage of. Of what the next page of your story looks like. So keep it up, y'all. You're doing it. So the most influential music in a person's life is the music they listen to when they are 14 years old. If we think about how the human development process works, when we hit puberty, when we start developing frontal lobe, that gives us things like patience and logic and calm and rational thought.
14 is. Is that we got all the juices flowing, but we still don't have a lot of control and impact over where those juices go. So, so often the music of our 14 year old self is the music that sticks with us the most. And for me that's music like Alanis Morissette, that's music like the Cranberries. Zombie Zombies. Zombie. Right. Like for me that's the music that sticks. But funny enough, and I mentioned earlier, I was one of those kids who grew up listening to not only my siblings music, I'm the youngest of seven, but also my parents music and music from lots of different generations.
Because I was a theater kid, I didn't do theater, I didn't have the confidence to do theater, but I loved listening to story. So I didn't grow up with the music that was surrounding me when I was a kid. Why? Because I didn't feel cool enough. I wasn't in the inn. You know, we often talk about how, how many young people struggle and deal with mental, mental health hurdles and realities and, and surprises today. But I go, yeah, imagine how bad it was 25 years ago when we didn't have like talk about stigma today.
No talk about stigma 20 years ago. Resources, we don't have them today. Think about how few resources we had 20 years ago. So on Tuesdays what do we talk about? We talk about building community. Part of the reason why the Alanis Morissettes didn't stick with me 25 years ago is because I was on the outside of the click of popularity. I didn't watch MTV because I didn't think I was cool enough to watch mtv. I didn't listen to the music of my generation because I didn't feel like I was a part of being in my generation.
Here's the funny thing. All of a sudden I got older and I started diving into the music of my 14 year old self and it still resonated, it still stuck with me. It still is very much. I am a child of the, of the 90s. Yeah. Graduating 2000. Like I grew up in that post modern, modern world where like feeling was something that we didn't necessarily see value in. But I wasn't there when everybody else was. Here's the headline for today. So the outward facing click. It's this model where if you are part of something that you care a lot about, you have the opportunity to say, hey, you know what?
The more I care about something, the less it is about me and the more it is about those people who have yet to become a part of it. That's how we grow community. If we want the thing we care about to be cared about by more people, we need to let it fly away. We need to let it sit in other people's hands and let them go. Huh? Here's how I see this thing. Here's how I appreciate this thing. Here's how I use this thing. And when we allow that to happen, our movement, our clique, our community grows.
And yet, even those people on the outside of the clique, which may be you, which may be me, which may the person you're walking down the street against, they are still picking up on all of that goodness that exists within that group. So why aren't you tapping into their excitement, their joy, their love for whatever that thing is? Because I'll tell you, I grew up in the 90s, in the 2010s, and even though I was a Barry Manilow, Karen Carpenter, Moms and the Papas Jefferson Airplane fan when I was 14, I'm still a fan of those things now, too.
How much happier of a world would it be if we could enjoy all of the things, if we could, if we could be a part of all the things that we feel called to be a part of? If you are someone who has the autonomy, the agency, the power, the privilege within a group of people, perhaps, and I'll go ahead and say, please for my 14 year old self, can you be the one who's courageous enough to be curious and go, huh? Hey, everybody. I wonder if we created more doorways and less hurdles for people to be a part of the thing that we are a part of because we love it.
We know there's power here and how much more powerful would it be if we had more people excited about it? So if you're like, who's Alanis Morissette? Alanis Morissette was the best friend that I had at 14 years old, that I didn't even know that I had when I was 14 years old. Why? Because I thought Atlantis was on the inside and I was on the outside. I'm so glad that Atlantis and I have caught up in these last couple of decades because I have something really, really valuable that comes from Alanis.
And the beautiful thing is that I can go ahead and send that back out to the world. Y'all have a great rest of your Tuesday. I will see you tomorrow morning. We'll do one more verse. Young and underpaid, y'all. Welcome to 2025. But I'm really gone. Here we go. And what it all comes down to to be quite all right Because I got one hand in my pocket. See you later, y'all. Have a good one.
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