A Wednesday check-in that normalizes not feeling springy and invites kinder alternatives to grind culture, as the host reflects on choosing rest, backing away from relentless push, and sharing a perspective shift about doing less.
On Wednesdays in the Cadre sphere, we speak about the big bucket of mental health stuff. We hope that you are doing great, but if you're not, that's okay too. I am in the not doing great category lately.
In a world where we live in grind culture, I invite you to think of kind culture at some moments of your life. Sometimes grind is the right way to go. But hey, if you can't, it's okay to do less too. Who needs to be on their own side this week?
Well, hey, good morning, Cadre. How are we doing on this Wednesday morning? It is April, a new month. New month yesterday, but still a fresh month, and the first full month of spring. All those things may be hitting you in a good way. They may be filling your cup, they may be kind of deflating you, because maybe you're not feeling springy, maybe you're not feeling fresh, maybe you're not feeling rebirth and restart start. Which is why we always say that we hope you're doing great. Beezer Bits. We hope that you are doing great.
And also if you're not doing great, know that that is a okay as well. I will tell you, I am in the not doing great category lately, which I think normally in a very divided, divided world, which, because we all think different and feel different and experience different, divided isn't a. Isn't a bad thing. It's. It's a real thing, right? So I'm even saying to myself today, hey, jc, I hope you're great, but if you're not, that's okay too. On Wednesdays in the Cadre sphere, we speak about the big bucket of mental health stuff.
So throughout the day, you'll see people bopping in live. So if you're always wondering, it's like, gosh, who's this person? And should I listen to them? Every single person has a holistic message. So if you're on a Thursday or Friday, if you're not a caregiver, if you're not going through a journey of fresh grief right now, you may go, oh, that's not for me. Now, I would encourage you to increase the aperture of your camera and your lens and go, no, this all applies. Humans talking about human stuff always hits in some special way, right?
Speak, wonder. Nice to see ya. So, like I mentioned, I'm not doing great. I'm like, I'm ready to throw in the towel. And in a lot of ways, I'm looking for those strategic ways where I can throw in the towel right now, Jules. Where I can go, you know what my body's telling me? I need something different. I need to do less. I need to do different. I need to regress. I need to go backwards. I need to go inside. I need to do different things. And notice my voice didn't go into, like, a pandering or a sad or soft.
I'm like, no, that's part of the game. I just shared in the community feed a perspective shift. So often we're supposed to live the grind life, or we're supposed to grind or supposed to work hard. We're supposed to. Stronger, harder, faster, deeper. We're supposed to never give up, right? I'm a 40 time marathoner, but guess what my favorite marathon experience is? 1 mile marker, which is actually the start line of the half marathon of grandma's marathon. And I said, I don't want to do this anymore.
So I got on the fail bus and I went home and. And I had a great day. I looked at everybody else around me and they were looking defeated and awful and horrible and like failures and humiliated. And again, they may have failed that day in a way that they didn't want to. I'm not, not saying be okay with failing. No. Cause there's sometimes that, that you're not going to be. But on that day, I didn't want to keep doing the thing that I thought I was supposed to do. That's my favorite marathon story out of my 41 journeys.
My favorite one is the one that I decided that I didn't want to do. And that's what I call the kind path. Right? In a world where we live in grind culture, I invite you to think of kind culture at some moments of your life. Sometimes grind is the right way to go. But I never see anybody actually say, yeah, and sometimes kind is the way to go. What do we say? We say this. Kick your a**. Go hard. Fight, fight, fight. But hey, if you can't, it's okay to do less too. You hear how my voice changed? If it's okay to do less, why do we pander and make people feel small?
Yeah, you're gonna go do it, you're gonna win. But if you lose, that's okay. Why don't we say this? Hey, it's okay to win. If you want to win, go win. But you want to know what? If you decide that you've already done enough and you want to go home, that's awesome. We never speak that way. And if you're not being incredibly mindful, it may be really easy for you to go, I need to grind and grind and grind. Even when my body's saying, I need to be kind, I need to be kind, I need to be kind. So my challenge for you today in a culture where grind is the normative, maybe the risky, badass thing to do is to do the opposite of that and say, no, you know what?
I'm not going to grind through this week. No, I am going to. I'm going to give up. I'm going to do less. I'm going to cancel the meeting. I'm going to go home early. I'm going to sleep in late. I'm going to eat that thing that either the world or for some reason we have told ourselves that is bad or that is not healthy. I'm actually going to be on my own side. So who needs to be on their own side this week? And first of all, the answer is everybody. The second question is, do you need to push yourself or do you need to go ahead and push yourself to do less?
Both those things are strategic if you choose for them to be. If you want to get to where you're going, don't burn down the house. That analogy doesn't work. If you want to get to where you're going, don't blow up the car there. If the check engine light comes on, maybe you should actually get that checked out. If your car says, hey, I'm out of gas, maybe you should put some gas in it. If all of a sudden you got a flat tire, maybe you should go, you know what? I'm not going to keep driving on this thing.
Maybe the best thing to do today, this did not do today. Maybe you figure it out, y'all. I want to encourage you to listen back to hit replay on the third edition of you can't say that on Social Media, A civil discourse on social media, which played yesterday 3:30pm Central Standard Time. C. district of Columbia. We had a wonderful conversation, me and Betsy. I'm speaking from a selfish space. I learn so much from Betsy every time I either tune into her life live speaks or we get to have a conversation.
So tune back into that. Otherwise, you got a great lineup of live streams coming today. Check them out. Speak. Wonder gets the last word. Speak Wonder, says Mary Oliver. Poetry. You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees through the desert repenting. You daily need to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Boom. Thank you, Mary Oliver. Thank you. Speak Wonder. Thank you, Jules. Thank you, Bees a bits. Thank you everybody out there, y'all. We'll see you later.
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