Rachel’s Room🛋️HUGE NEWS!

Happy Wednesday Cadre crew. Hello. Hello. I'm gonna give folks a few minutes to trickle in per ush and then I have exciting news to share. Very exciting. Again, I'm gonna wait a few minutes to let people enter the live and then I will, then I'll get started. Hello. Also look at my new nails. I did them some silly fun nails for spring. I've got little like little diamonds on them, which I think is pretty cute for my inner child. So my exciting news that I cannot wait to share with you that I hope you'll be excited about as well.

Hi Jules. Is that my new poetry book that I've been working on for about a year is finally available for pre order which is pretty amazing. I'm very, very, very excited and I wanted to celebrate and this is something that I used to not ever do for myself. So I like anytime something good happened in my life, I didn't tell people about it, I didn't talk about it. I thought it made me self serving or egotistical. I also thought nobody would care. And in the last several years I've done a lot of work in therapy and with my friends around, rewiring not only being proud of, but also this notion of celebrating joy.

I think so often as a culture we don't, we don't allow ourselves moments of celebration in the same ways that we don't allow ourselves moments of rest or play. And I think it's really important to celebrate not only ourselves, but the people in our life. I think, I think it really is a big deal and it is important for our well being for us to honor and sit with and enjoy moments when things are going well. Because oftentimes when we don't do these things, we don't get to have memories of times when things are good.

Instead our memories become formed around when times are really difficult. And so I think it's important to carve out opportunities for ourselves to create bigger, longer lasting memories surrounding joyful moments. Because it's almost like journaling or writing in our diary or taking photos. We get to go back and remember and look on all these wonderful things that have happened in our lives. And that helps reinforce this narrative for ourselves that things actually do go well sometimes that good things happen.

So I'm hoping to set an example for that by celebrating this with you. And also I am really excited and proud and I want to share it. And I also wanted to read some, some pieces from it with you because I hope that they might resonate. So if you want to pre Order the book. The link is available on my Instagram bio or you can just search for look up by Rachel Havocost and it should pop up online. I'm just going to read you a couple pieces and hopefully some of them resonate. So a quick thing about this book.

So it's a. It's a book of poems and short reminders for navigating uncertainty, for navigating grief, and for navigating change. So it has seven sections and it does have a flow and it moves through sort of the series or phases of navigating great change or uncertainty. So the first section is about being stuck or holding on. The second section is about letting go. The third section is about kind of being in this lost space, of not knowing where we are, what's happening. The fourth section is about starting to discover more about ourselves and who we are and start to really integrate all the things that we've learned in that lost space.

The fifth section is about branching out and reaching back out into the world. The sixth section is about maybe doubting ourselves or regressing in some kind of way. And then the final section is about embracing the mess and accepting. Accepting life and moving forward. So I'm going to read you a few different pieces from different sections and hopefully they resonate. Okay, so let me find finding my favorite ones. I don't have a physical book yet. I just have my manuscript because it's still. They're still working on all the print and stuff.

That's why it's available only for pre order. So. Okay, I'm gonna read some of the like, longer ones because there's like some really short ones. But I think the longer ones are better for reading. Okay, this is one of my favorite ones about being lost. You will feel lost in life. You'll say you don't know what you want, that you don't know who you are. You'll say this with some veil of shame, as if it's a bad thing. But most people are lost. Most people have no idea what they're doing. For the most part, people are making it up as they go.

As soon as you think you have a grip on life, it will change in ways you could never have predicted. The older you get, the more you'll realize it's fruitless to hold on to what you think life should be or how it will go, because you'll know it only leads to disappointment or feeling like a failure. You'll stop berating yourself for feeling lost and cherish your outlook, for choosing curiosity. You'll Try new things again and wonder what this life thing is all about. You'll have deep chats at bars and read philosophy in parks.

You'll feel more comfortable with your life. You'll say you know what you want and that you finally know who you are. You'll say this with some veil of hope, as if nothing is bad or good. As if you finally realize that lost is not a place to run from, but the place between what's known and unknown. A sign that you were brave and that you're on your way. Okay, that one's about being lost. I'm gonna read another one. I'm just gonna. Okay, this one's about friendship. I don't think you understand how much you are loved.

They might not say it outright, but every grin, every I'll wait till your Uber comes, every bathroom check in, every baby you look so good is love. It's how do you take your coffee and remembering the next time. It's wake up calls because your alarm didn't work and you can hang onto the jeans a little longer. It's this rounds on me and reading the same book. It's borrowing lighters and teaching each other to knit. 3am phone calls because I'm drunk and I want to text him. It's don't forget your meds and I'll go to the pharmacy for you.

It's questions to ask at doctor's visits and the same broken heart will always help put back together. It's finishing film and endless selfies. It's sharing the pasta. And I have something kind of deep I want to talk about tonight. It's booking flights and meeting parents. It's. My dad can help you with that. It's your hair. Looks good. Any color. And I'll watch your dog while you're away. And don't forget to hydrate. And good morning, good night, I miss you. It's love. Okay, I'll read one more.

Okay, this one's about regression or self doubt, about our growth and healing. It doesn't matter how much therapy you've done, you will still have days when you're convinced you'll never be good enough. That you're too hard to love or that you're not able to love. You'll get scared and overwhelmed. That your heart is too weak or worse, too broken. That no amount of compassion will give you the courage to trust good things. You'll believe that you're not cut out for love. That you're not somebody who knows how to do it right.

Or that you'll always screw it up, that you'll get too attached or be too distant or want too much or give too little. You'll worry that no matter how much therapy you've done or how much you do, you'll always be this way. You'll fear nobody knows how to love anymore, or never did, or that they don't try as much as they used to. You'll fear love is simpler than you're making it, and maybe you're thinking yourself out of all the good parts of love. You'll fear growing older and think you're still too irresponsible to be an adult.

You'll wonder how many people, how so many people seem to have it figured out while you're making it all up. As you go, you lose sight of what's important and get sucked into materialism. You'll judge yourself and feel ashamed and often get embarrassed of things you've said or done. But no amount of therapy will strip you of your humanness. You'll learn this well, and learn your health and wellness aren't dependent on perfection, but on acceptance of the mess and uncertainty of it all. Because life is messy and uncertain and uncomfortable and scary and overwhelming.

And sometimes it's all too much. You'll remind yourself you're not the only one, that these fears and feelings are part of being human. You'll wish you could swap minds and bodies sometimes, or trade brains for a day just to know for certain you're not alone. Or find out how others see the world and learn from their perspectives. Instead, you'll write. You'll share your fears and lovers and friends. You'll make art and cry in public and ask hard questions. You'll find ways to connect so you know how not alone you are.

You'll find ways to remember that being alive is the wildest ride you'll ever be on. And despite the great unknown and belly full of doubt, you'll hold on with a loose, tender grip and see it to the very end. Okay, thanks for celebrating with me. I'm so excited and nervous, but also excited. I haven't worked on a project like this in a really long time, so it feels really good to have something that I worked on for a long time come to fruition. So again, that's from my new poetry book, look up and yeah, it's available for pre order right now.

The link is in my Instagram bio and I think if you just Google I don't know, let's actually see what happens if I google Rachel Habicost look up that comes up with databases of Rachel Havocost Lookup. So maybe don't look up that. Hang on. Rachel Havocost. You could add thought catalog if you're going to Google it, because there we go. That's funny. I didn't even think about the fact that if you Google look up in my name, it'll, like, look up, like actual, like, looking up the person. Okay, my loves, I hope you have a wonderful rest.

Wonderful rest of your day, and I will see you same time, same place next week.