The world doesn’t have it together!

Hi, Cadre. Happy Tuesday night. It's Shannon from Cadre. If I don't know you, hello. I am not a clinician. I am not a mental health professional. I am part of the Cadre team. I'm popping in tonight to tell you something that I was reminded of in therapy today. So I'm a person that lives with CPTSD and anxiety, and I'm also the caregiver of a child with autism. But today, when I was in therapy, it was about me. It was about my trauma, and a lot of it was about some stuff, some stuff that's hanging on from when I was a kid.

And there's two things I wanted to share that I learned, and they kind of come down to what my therapist has taught me is called notices. Right? Just things that I notice out in the world, in my life, that I then apply to my life. And one of those things is a lot of the time I think I wander around the world thinking other people have it figured out, and I don't. And I don't know if that resonates with any of you. I don't know if you walk around the world and see people that look like they have it all together.

There are social media platforms that are not Cadre, where I see that all the time. And there's people in my life that I see that all the time. And I think that person, they've got it together, and I don't have it together always. And sometimes I look at myself, and today was one of those days in therapy where I was saying to my therapist, why don't I have it together? Why? What? What is it about me that makes me not have it together? And so one of the things I wanted to share with you is so basic, but she said to me, shannon, the world doesn't have it as together as you think it does.

People are not walking around with it all together. And I think I needed that little nudge today and that little reminder. And what she said to me was, that is really young thinking. That is the idea that things are either good or bad or black or white. And the truth is, is that none of us are those things. And so it was such a good push and reminder to me, and I wanted to share it with you that if you are walking around in the world and you are thinking, I am not doing a great job of whatever it is, I am sucking at my job today.

I am fighting with my kids, I am not talking to my parents, and I feel bad about it. Right? Whatever it is, I just wanted to pass along that little piece of hope and knowledge that Tracy, my therapist, shared with me today. That is, the world is kind of a mess. We're all kind of a mess, and that is the norm. So, I don't know, it helped me feel good today, and so I wanted to share it with you. The other thing I wanted to share is just a little piece of support to say that every single thing that you do in your life that moves you forward has moved you forward.

A teeny, tiny baby step forward is forward, and it counts. And so whatever that looks like for you, if there's something you're trying to do in your life again, in any setting, in any relationship with yourself, if you do one teeny, tiny baby step forward, it's a step forward. And so I just want to congratulate you on that today and just let you know that you're seen and that we celebrate you here at Cadre. And so that's it. I just wanted to say it. I needed to hear it today, and so I wanted to share it with you guys.

So shout out to Tracy, who will be a single name only. I will not reveal her identity, but it helped me today, so I'm sharing it with you guys. Happy Tuesday night. I hope you have a beautiful, beautiful night and we'll see you soon again here at Cadre.