Me Time ✨ - The Pause

Hello, Cadre family, Jean Mitchells coming into you here live, wishing all of you a happy Easter if you celebrate. Hello. Hello, Andy. How are you today? I've got my trusted colleague here with his Easter bunny saying hello. I'm also going to put in my headphones so you don't hear him moaning and wagging. So my name is Jean. Happy Easter if you celebrate. I'm here today to talk about me time and specifically the pause. Now, my invitation to you if you're listening to it on replay or you're listening to it live.

Also, Andy, I don't think we've met yet, so it's nice to have you here. Where are you from, if you don't mind typing in the chat? Where are you calling in from today? At least maybe you're somewhere different than where you live. I am calling in from Minneapolis. I just got done taking a spin class and I'm here with you now, taking a breath. So my intention for this morning's chat is to talk about the pause. You know that part where. Oh, nice. I love it. Fellow. Minneapolis, you know that part where you are so busy doing fun fact.

When I was a little kid, my nickname from my brother was doer. And he would tease me a lot. I mean, he was 10 years older than I was and I was probably annoying, let's be real. But he would be like, doer, doer, doer. Genie is a doer. And he would say it on repeat and I would scream at the top of my lungs that he was wrong and that I was not. And he would do it more and more because he would see how agitated I would get and he would laugh. And my poor dad had hearing aids, so he would have a little bit of a heart attack because my voice was high pitched.

And if you think it's high pitched now, it's probably higher pitched then. And it would be just this whole thing, right? And as I got older, I started to recognize that this childhood nickname that my brother gave me on a whim because I was such a busybody, truly, I actually stuck. And it's. It's my way, it's my path. So if I need to learn something new, I don't usually read the manuals. If you are a manual reader, God bless you. I need more of you in my life. I don't. I usually just start by trying it and then I learn what I need to learn along the way until eventually I learn all the things that are needed to know.

Same thing when I put together furniture out of a box. I'm like, oh, these pieces look about right. And I put them in their little categories and I try to put them together. And the number of times I've had to flip a shelf because it was backwards or upside down is probably more than I would like to share. But that's my way. I don't know how to be any different. If you read manuals, maybe type in the chat. If you're a start and do or if you're a sit and process and read the manual kind of person, there's no right or wrong.

It really is about what's preferred for you. So I'll go backwards to come forward. I'm leaving next Wednesday or this coming Wednesday to go to London to run my fourth marathon in eight months. I've been doing these world six major marathons, all of them for charity. I've done five of the I'll have done five of the six assuming I complete this London marathon next Sunday. And I say that because I Two things. One, I started this challenge as my way to process my grief for my mom and dad. I was too busy to slow down probably, and wanted to do something doer that would keep their memory alive, give me some purpose or meaning.

And I did all of them for charity by choice. There are ways to get into these marathons. You can do them by lottery. You can do them by qualifying. I chose to do them by fundraising a lot of money. So I've raised so far over $20,000 for different charities. And that was my way to kind of keep the legacy of my mom and dad alive, my connection to them alive. I take their photos. I have a little mantle that I create for them, and it helped me to process. So it's really funny because. Not funny, but it's kind of funny.

In the last two weeks in preparation for this particular marathon, I've fallen on a run and I like. I've played a lot of sports. I'm pretty sturdy with my step. I was running in a rain. I've done that before. And I jumped up on a curb to not run on the streets because there were cars and the curb was uneven and cracked and broken and my foot clipped it and I fell on one of my sides and I cried and people tried to help me. And then I got up and I stumbled my way back to home base and. And I was super frustrated and just disappointed.

So two days later I got out and I ran just so I could make sure that my legs were okay and I could run. Fast forward to that following Saturday. We Did a team building event and we went roller skating. So I co own an indoor cycling studio. We have an amazing team. We like to hang out and do fun things. So we went roller skating and I fell again. I haven't fallen in years, but I fell on my right knee and I fell hard enough that it's still swollen today. It's still bruised today. They did an X ray to make sure I didn't crack it.

So why am I calling this the pause? Because I've realized that in the past year and a half, I've done these marathons, I've done all of these things, but I haven't slowed down and I haven't given my body a chance to rest. And I firmly believe that the universe will tell you sometimes, if you're not listening, what it is that you need. And it will put an obstacle in your way so that you need to overcome the obstacle to do the thing which is most likely rest. Maybe it's plot twist. Think about all those times you applied for that job and you just didn't get that job.

But then you stop trying. You reflected a little and maybe you applied for something new and you got that. So sometimes the path that we are so sure that we need to charge down, that we need to race down, is the right one. And we keep trying and trying. And you know, how does that phrase go? You keep trying and trying and you get the same results. Or I don't know, I'm definitely botching it. But the point of the. The phrase is like, you need to try something different. If you want something different, you need to try something different.

So this last week, instead of doing what I crave, which is teaching my spin classes, going out for a run Today, the last 10 days, I've had to just pause and rest. And I've slept more than I think I've slept. But inside that window of possibility, I've also just found spaces. Not gonna cry. Gonna cry. To reconnect with my mom and dad because I miss them. You're never prepared at any age. I was lucky that my parents lived into the 80s, right? Like some people I know have lost a parent at the age of 10 or 8 or younger.

You know, so we're lucky. But it doesn't change that. Grief is hard. But what I want to try to instill in all of us is when we allow ourself to take that pause, when we take a break with our bodies and allow it to reset, to relax, allow our minds to reset. Relax. I do sound baths for a Lot of people to help them relax and meditate. But the funny part is, is I don't go to them. And it's not because I don't love them. It's because I'm not ready to pause. And I'm honest about it. I'm really super honest.

I will always be honest with you. I'll always be transparent with you. I love holding space for people to heal. It's really hard for me to have the same happen in return. But I've recognized with my team this week who has graciously picked up all of my classes to te. Even when I'm being stubborn and think I could teach a class, they're like, nope, we're taking this one from you. They're helping me to take that pause. They're checking in with me, and they're making sure I'm okay because they know this is really hard for me, and they know how important this marathon is.

But what's great about it is I also get to share back with them. Okay, when I'm done with this marathon, I need you all to take a break. You have to take a pause. And we've all come to an agreement that we would support each other through that. So I feel very grateful and blessed that I have a team that does that. We do that for one another. But I'll ask you, feel free to type in the chat or just reflect. When did you charge ahead? When is the time that you charged ahead and you didn't take the pause?

Did it work? Did your body feel good? Did your spirit feel good? Did your mind feel good? I'm seeing a lot of people right now that are in transitions, and they're struggling with the pause. Oh, thank you, Andy. I will. I will. It's funny about this marathon. I'll finish my thought, and then I'll come back to this. Andy, you know, I will invite you, though, to consider taking a pause for you and seeing what you can find. Maybe it's going to a sound bath, meditation. Come if you want. If you're in Minneapolis or St.

Paul or this area, go for that walk. Don't sign up for that marathon. Apply for a different job that you never think that you're going to get, and then allow yourself that time to just sit and not have the TV on. May not listen to music. Just sit outside, listen to the birds, whatever it is that you're charging ahead into. What if you took a step back and looked around instead? So this last week and a half, I've been taking looks around I've been crying a little bit. I've been icing my knee a lot.

And I'm so grateful that I didn't break anything. And I'm so inspired by how our bodies can heal, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally. We have all of the tools that we need if we're willing to listen. I'm not great at slowing down. I'm a doer. But I am really grateful for this last week to do just that because my body needed rest and to the point of the marathon. It's funny, I was so excited after coming off of the Tokyo Marathon, which I ran at the beginning of March, that I was like, you know what?

This next race, it's going to be, I'm going to be able to run even faster, and I'm going to hit whatever this goal is that I think I have. And what's funny about that is my whole body and everything is like, nope, you're not. And every person that I've talked to about the London Marathon is like, you got to go slow. This race marathon's the best. Like, people wear costumes and it's really fun, and you get to see really cool parts of London. And so I am going to do exactly that, Andy. I am going to get on that plane, however bruised my knee is or isn't.

I'm going to start the race. I'm going to do whatever I can do that day. I'm going to take a lot of photos. I'm going to be that annoying runner off to the side, and I'm just going to celebrate being there and what London has to offer. So my invitation to you, whether it's today or tomorrow or this week, is to do a check in. Where are you pushing ahead? Where are you feeling the resistance that's pushing back against you? And how might you take that pause to really just understand what's going on?

What do you really need in that moment? What do you need mentally? What do you need emotionally? What do you need physically? I know that the universe has sent me a message. It tripped me the first time, and when I fell on my run and I didn't listen then, and so it smacked me one more time until I actually physically couldn't not slow down. And I had to rest a lot. I've slept a lot. So don't get hurt. Don't trip and fall. Don't do it my way, but do it yours. And invite yourself out on a date. Invite yourself into a moment where you have unscheduled time and just check in lean into those resistances.

Not to push harder, but lean in to understand what do you need to change and what do you need right now? That's my invitation for you. I hope you all have the best day. I need to get to London so I can look at the calendar to adjust my Cadre time for next Sunday so it's the right time. It might be later in the day, likely after the marathon. So I look forward to seeing you next week. I also will be here on Monday and I will be here for a little bit of leading with authenticity tomorrow morning, I believe, at 9am So I hope you have the best rest of your day.

I'll see you soon. Have a good one.