Cadre Today and The Outward Facing Clique

Foreign. How's everybody doing this morning? Oh, my gosh. Fifth Dimension and JC's Cadre fidget spinner to wake you up on a Tuesday morning. How's everybody doing today? Shannon, I hope you are doing great, my friend. Everybody, I hope you're doing great. Luke, Jules, y' all crew. But if you're not doing great, that's okay, too. It really, really is. Hey, it's Tuesday here in the Cadre Sphere. If you haven't had a chance to yet, I encourage you to check out my conversation last evening with Darnell Walker, one of the newest contributors to the Cadre Sphere.

Darnell is a death doula and also a writer, a children's writer. So you go, wait, what? Yeah. He invites people of all ages to go ahead and think about how you live life. Really cool, dude. And the conversation was fruitful, as conversations often are. You know, on Tuesdays, we talk a lot about how do we build community or how do we form relationships or how do we move with other people to accomplish the things we want to accomplish. And yet we live in a country that's very, very privy to the idea of being independent.

And you know what? I've always been like, yeah, cool. Independence, Bravo. You did this thing by yourself, great. But interdependence, that's where I think the real cool stuff happens. It's hard to be interdependent for a couple reasons. Number one, we always try to talk about having no ego. I'm like, no, we want to have an ego. Egos are healthy, just like everything else is in the right amount at the right time. Time. But when that ego gets kind of trapped inside for too long, it needs to be seen, it needs to be heard, it needs to be fed.

And all of a sudden, we have this. This pull to being like, look at what I did matched with this. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. Humbleism. What about if we just leaned into interdependence? I'm getting ready to head to the airport in about 15 minutes here, and I think the airport's one of my favorite buildings on the planet. I love. I love airports. I love libraries. Those are the big two for very different reasons. We'll talk about libraries another time. But I love airports because it seems like everybody's doing their own thing, going their own place, but in reality, every single person is helping each other get to where they're getting to.

They are. Think about. Think about the person who walks in, gets in line, has to interact with how many different people the people in front of you the people behind you, the people at security, the people who get you your coffee, the people who check you in, the people who update the screens, the people who clean the bathrooms, the people who put up the little things that say, don't go here, go here. Every single person impacts your ability to get to where you're going, literally, metaphorically, all of it.

But the airport seems to be this, you know, so often this place where you can become a nameless face, a person wandering with, with no attachment. And it's because I think those two things are connected. Independence happens when interdependence is really healthy and vibrant. Interdependence is the precursor for independence. So as you think today about the people you're around, you know, I always inconsistently and religiously talk about this idea of the outward facing click on Tuesdays. You know this, the longer you're part of a community, the less it's about you and the more it's about the people who have yet to be a part of it.

Rather than this click that faces in around the thing that they find special, they form something special together, then turn outward and say, hey, you who are not here yet. Can I introduce you to something in a way that you can pick it up and shake it around and make it your own and maybe change what it is for all of us? Which seems scary, but at the end of the day, that's why we're doing it in the first place. And then all of a sudden from this outward facing click where everybody's innately connected to an idea and then they turn outward, I talk about the anonymity of an airport.

I challenge you to see that that airport is one of the biggest outward facing clicks you can ever imagine. Everybody who walks in that door has a great desire to get to where they're going, to accomplish what they want to accomplish, to be who they want to be. And who are the people who always stand out? The people who are in a tizzy about whatever. They're the ones who ruin the mood, who ruin the environment for people to get to where they're going, be who they want to be. They're the ones breaking the outward facing click model.

So next time you walk into a building and there's other people there, consider, do a little mental exercise. Consider how those people are connected. Even though they may not know each other, they're impacting one another. Even though they're not playing the same game, walking the same walk, they're not touching one another, yet they are greatly impacting how each other exists in that space. Interdependence, y' all. It's my goal every day. Every once in a while, when I need to go ahead and take that break, you know, I'll curl into my hole and live my independent life for a moment.

But then I get back to the dance and the joy of figuring out how we are actually doing the same thing in very different ways, y' all. No matter how you Cadre today in your very different way, I hope you find what you need. And if you don't find what you need, let Team Cadre know because we are continuing to tweak and grow and shift this beautiful outward facing click for people who have not found it yet. Y' all have a great day. I love that note. Y' all have a good one. We'll talk to you later.