Cadre Today and The Outward Facing Clique

Hey there, Cadre. How are we doing today? I hope you're good. I really, really do. I'm sitting on the third floor of a hotel building in San Antonio, Texas, in a corner all by myself getting some work done. What are you up to? Sometimes we feel. Hey, good morning, Maffy. How are you doing? This is Cadre today. Steph. It's been a while, my friend. How are you? Anila. Oh, my gosh. We got some rockstar All Stars showing up. One percent better. This is. This is rolling out the red carpet. Jules. Oh, my gosh, Kelly.

Nice to see y' all. Cadre today on May 6, after May 4, be with you in Cinco de Mayo. It's just a Good old normal May 6th, ain't it? As I was saying, I'm sitting in a hotel room on the third floor of a hotel in San Antonio, Texas, where I'm at for a conference, and people are walking by, doing their thing, and I am one of a million sordid stories floating through the city right now. I kind of love getting to be an anonymous person for moments, but sometimes when we feel like that anonymous person, it's really good to have something like this to come together.

And whether you see names that pop in that are familiar or names that aren't familiar yet, that's what I like to call strangers. We have a gift here. As I always start out our Cadre todays. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. That's the magic formula for what we do in the Cadre sphere. I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad that you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. Feel free to take that into every single exchange that you have with anybody because it's a magic formula.

Sometimes when we feel like we're not enough, we shy away. Or we do the opposite. When we feel like we're not enough, we attempt to assert or insert or amplify ourselves. To be seen, heard. Understood. T North, I'm glad you're here, too. Those words will stick with me. To see someone reflect back, that means a lot. T North. On Tuesdays, I believe today's Tuesday, we often talk about the. What I've been rambling about today so far, right? The building of community. Whether that community is me smiling at someone coming down the escalator.

Whether that community is you saying good morning to your spouse or your partner or your child or your parent or your neighbor that you see every single day or somewhere in between. Whether that building of community is a one on one relationship or a one on million, or a million on one or a million on a million. It all comes down to kind of the same thing. How do we make people feel seen? How do we make people feel as if there is a return on their investment of time and energy? How do we make people feel a part of.

I often talk about this idea of the outward facing click. Clicks by nature are seen as a negative thing. A very small, closed off, more of a noun than a verb. Something that is, something that is rather than something that's evolving. Something that people may want to be a part of and then all of a sudden they don't want to be a part of it because they feel as if there's negative energy attachment to it. But I want to think about why we often create clicks. You know, I am a part of a group that auditions new members every year.

And the group has been relatively stagnant, conservative growth, but stagnant for a long time for I would say for the history of its existence. And I'm now kind of steering the ship and opening the door and outward facing click. So what's the outward facing click? Taking the thing that's special to us and then facing outwards and saying, the longer that I'm a part of this group, the less it's about me and the more that it's about the people who are not here yet. Most people don't like that because they hear that and they go, oh my gosh, I'm going to lose what is special to me.

And in my brain I go, no, it's the opposite, right? If you care about this thing, that means that you understand its power. So of course you want to share it with other people. But when you've lived in a world where you've lost the things that are special to you, as other people have, have maybe taken them or knocked your thing down, it makes sense that you would think that you need to protect the thing that is special to you, otherwise someone else is going to take it. But I'll tell you, last week we had a meet and greet, question and answer, because we have 20 now, 29 people interested in joining this group next year.

And about half of them showed up for this meet and greet. And then the members of this group existing who showed up to answer the questions and the form, the relationships at the same time, they were invigorated and inspired and energized and at the same time, they were deathly afraid that all of a sudden they're going to lose the thing that's special to them. It's my reminder to all of you that the things that move us in the direction that we imagine the future world, if we see that there's a positivity that we can instill an impact that we can have that can make things better.

I'll tell you, it's not going to feel like that all the time. I often say enoughness very rarely feels like it, or balance very rarely feels like it. Balance doesn't feel like balance. Being enough doesn't feel like being enough. Because these things aren't sexy and splashy and flashy and big, but they're like taking your vitamin in the morning or having a gulp of water because you know that it's good for you, or standing and letting the sun bask on your face because we know in that moment that we're doing something that's innately good.

1% better. I know what I know, I don't know what I don't know, but can't wait to learn. 1% better. You are a master at contextualizing, at being inspired by other people and going, here is how this impacts me. Thank you for that. Now I'm going to count the words. 5, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 40, 56. It's still 17 words of 1% better. I love that you took my 17 words, which I borrowed from a mentor of mine on the second day that I knew them, because I will quickly give people the props for when they become a mentor or a teacher to me.

Those 17 words, which I inherited, you've now reconfigured into a way that left you smiling, y' all. We have a nice click here. Outward face, make it less about you and more about the people who are not here yet. And I promise you, even though it may not feel like it, you will find that you will get more out of the thing than you ever imagined. You know, I was one of those kids who I was very young, and I said, I'm gonna have a legacy statement. And this was my legacy statement in fifth grade. I said, my hope is to live my life as much for other people as possible and as little for me.

And through that, I'll find way more for myself than I ever could if I was looking for it. Maybe aspirational, maybe a little pie in the sky. I tell you, day in, day out, since fifth grade, until whatever grade I would be in many years later, being in an outward facing click mindset has given me so much more than I ever could have imagined. Go out world outward face and make it more about the people who are yet to be a part of it and see what you find later on this afternoon, y' all, 3pm Me and dietitian Drew Hemler are coming in for the fourth edition of youf can't say that on Social Media.

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