What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Good morning, everyone. This is Dr. Jessica Green and we are going to celebrate this wonderful Wednesday. And while we're waiting for some others to come in, I definitely want to ask you if you could rate your day on a scale from 1 to 10 or even let's say you're weak on a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate it? You know, with one we're giving it again. You know, we talk about Hot Mess Express. It's been that type of week. Or a 7, 8, 9, 10 where it has been wonderful. Good morning, Michelle. And I'm looking at everyone chime in.

And I'm so grateful to see there are so many coming in to our safe space into our community. So for some of us who may be joining for the first time, as you're rating your week again, let's go from 1 to 10, 1 being Hot Mess Express and 7, 8, 9, 10 being that it has been a wonderful, fabulous week and we cannot wait for the next end of the week, I should say good morning, Jules, because the best is yet to come for us. But as you all are chiming in and rating yourself and what state you were in, because I know we have individuals from all over.

This week for me, has been wonderful. I was able to spend my weekend with some great friends at a local college that's here because they had a football meet and greet for the new team. I was able to take my nephews, some of my wonderful, fabulous, great friends were able to join us for a movie on the Teal turf, which was wonderful. It was a moment for us to connect, a moment for us to be able to live in the moment. And when we talk about personal growth, knowing those individuals who are worthy to hear your story and those individuals who want the best for you.

But today we are going to. Oh, Jules. Northern Minnesota, thank you for joining us. And today we are going to focus on the importance of the word ready and ready to be able to hit that reset button. So whether you're walking your dog, whether you're sitting in traffic and hopefully you're paying attention and keeping your eyes on those traffic lights or just taking a breather between meetings, this moment is for you. So today we are going to break down what ready means and how we can use it to be able to hit that reset button on life at work, life at home, and even our life in that community when we have that community engagement and that interaction with others.

So let's talk about being ready. So when I say ready, I'm not talking about us running that that marathon and being that marathon ready, which I did last week, and I showed everyone my medal, and I'm going to try to show it again because I'm so proud of it. We ran the mile last. Last weekend. But when I talk about that being ready, it's more of being ready emotionally and mentally to be ready to reassess, refocus, and then realign with our personal goals and. And also our work goals for the year.

So we're going to be using the word ready as our guide. So if you have your pencil and pen ready, if you're in the car, I just want you to listen and listen with intent and listen with purpose. But if you're able to write it down, I definitely want you to. To write this down today because it's going to be some good info for you. So when we talk about R, I want you to think about reassessing your resilience. So January may feel like it was forever ago, and I tell you what, 2025 is definitely rocking and rolling because we're already in the beginning of quarter two of 2025.

But I want you to check in with yourself. So I want you to ask yourself, how am I really doing? Maybe you set some intentions around stress, around boundaries, which we focused on a couple of weeks ago, or even gaining that rest. And are those areas still serving you? And if they're not, I want you to know it's okay to pivot away from it. You know, we may not follow the same structure that we usually do, and if we have to pivot, it's okay. Because ultimately, remember, you are doing what's in the best interest of you and nobody else.

So what I want you to remember about resilience, resilience is not about doing it all we have to remember, we have to take off that six Superwoman cape and take off that. That Superman cape. Thank you, Jules. It was a tough race, but we have to take those capes off. And remember, we're not that octopus where everybody has a stem but us. So sometimes we tend to be everything for everybody else instead of ourselves. So I want you to think about honoring where you are and in being able to adjust with grace.

We're adjusting with grace. We're not adjusting where other individuals become those innocent bystanders, where our husband or our coworker may say, hey, let me grab that for you. And we say, no, I got it. When all they were doing was just asking, can they help us? And we didn't do that with grace. We allowed those individuals to Become those innocent bystanders had nothing to do with what's going on in that moment, but they were the first person that we made contact with. So for E, I want you to evaluate your emotional habits.

So again, evaluate your emotional habits. What are your go to reactions when you feel overwhelmed or when you feel anxious? Are you shutting down? Are you people pleasing? Are we having that tendency to overwork because we're worried about those individuals perceptions of us and us realizing that not and we shouldn't allow that shame to become a pattern but being able to understand your emotions and those things that we are going to when we talk about evaluating, evaluating your emotional habits.

So in the chat I want you to type in there what something in one emotional habit I should say that you'd like to change this month. So what's one emotional habit that you would like to change this month, Michelle? I love grace too, you know, giving ourselves grace because sometimes we have to focus on embracing those imperfections and giving ourselves that grace. So thank you Michelle for chiming in and those wonderful comments. So if we think about one emotional habit that you like to change this month, whether it may be overworking, people, pleasing, shutting down.

For me it's going to be focusing on those things that I can control and the things that I cannot control, managing my reaction to them so they do not get the best of us. So that's something that personally I'm going to work on. But if you want to highlight in the chat those things that you want to focus on when we think about that emotional habit and I'm trying to keep track of everyone to make sure everyone has the opportunity to participate and share their thoughts and share their emotions and remembering that we are in this safe space.

So T. North said, you know, pulling away, you know, let's not pull away, let's embrace it. Being mindful of our actions and reactions and sometimes we have to ask ourselves, should I say this? Should I swallow it? Because there are some things that we should say and then some things we should keep here and swallow them. And I love doing that with my adolescents and the children that I serve. I'm like, you know, we play that game. Should you say it or should you swallow it right now? We sometimes feel like shutting away emotionally and struggling during, you know, we may have those physical ailments that lead to mental ailments and that's one moment where we have to give ourselves grace and say, hey, you know what, I may not be able to do this in this moment, but I'm able to do this and then we can change those words and saying in spite of not being able to do one thing, I'm able to do this.

So not looking as it as a defeat. But hey, you know what, I may not be able to move my knees, but I can move my arms, you know, and do some curls, it maybe do some lives. But focusing on those things again, that we definitely can control. So when we think about a adjust for the unexpected, life doesn't always go as planned. And I am a true believer of that because sometimes life throws us curveballs. So when it comes to self care, do you have a plan when it comes to self care? You know, what are some things that we're focusing on that we're doing either every week, every two weeks, every month, you know, and it can even be that 10 minute walk during your lunch break.

It can be taking those deep breaths when we're thinking about 446, breathing in 4, holding 4, releasing 6, or texting someone who gets you. So that's going to be your personal board of directors. You know, those individuals that you can call on that they can help us shift in that moment. So what I want you to think about as we're focusing on the a adjusting for the unexpected, I want you to think about building a stress toolkit. And you may say, oh my gosh, Dr. Green, what is a stress toolkit? But these are going to be these things, they can be tangible, they can be individuals that help keep us grounded when we hit that bumpy road.

So think about your stress toolkit and what you would want to include in that stress toolkit. Yes, Jules, I agree. You know about the shutting down and then I love it how Michelle talks about breathing and then making sure we are managing how we respond to others so they do not get the worst of us. So when we look at D, I want you to dream big with purpose. So dream big with purpose. Because mental health isn't just about managing symptoms. It's also about finding your meaning. And whenever you find your meaning and you find your purpose, it can be such a beautiful thing.

So I want you to think about what are some of those things that light you up? You know, when you talk about it, you get excited, you smile and people feel that energy in you as you're talking about it, what are you working towards that feels aligned with who you are? So knowing your worth, knowing your value. One of my values is definitely family. That's an important value of my. Integrity is one. Respect is another one. So making sure our who, what when and why align with our value and our purpose.

So what I want you to consider with the this area when we think about ready purpose fuels peace. So I want you to think about what is one small goal this week that connects. So this week I have the opportunity to attend a ceremony where I'll have some other investors along with myself at a meeting. So I'm excited about that meeting because I get to connect with those individuals, get some updates, talk about family in those things that excite us the most. So that's something that I'm doing for myself, but it's also a notion of self care because I'm putting myself out there.

I'm testing my vulnerability. But I also have the opportunity to connect with individuals that I might not have been able to connect with before. So that's something that I'm doing for me because I love talking to people. I love that interaction like I'm a true extrovert. So. So that is something that helps fuel me because I'm able to communicate with others and talk about my purpose, my passion and those things that mean to me the most. So when we look at why we are saying yes to accountability, so that why is for yes, but to accountability.

So this one is a big one. We're not meant to do this alone. When we talk about personal accountability, and that includes your personal board of directors. And when we say that, I want you to think about who checks in on you. Who's that individual or that person or that group. When they call and you have that group chat, they say, hey, how are things going in your world? As opposed to, oh my gosh, let me tell you what happened to me. Because in that moment, they didn't call to check on you. They called to express how they're feeling.

And in that moment, what I want you to consider as well, whenever they call you and start talking, hey, do you. Are you calling me for me to respond or are you calling for me to listen? So that allows us to know, okay, we're holding this space, but I need to know what is it that you need from me? And it may not be an individual and maybe you journaling, journaling five positive things that happened to you that day. When we talk about personal growth, because for some of us, we feel like our days are not the best.

We feel like those days start off expecting us to fail, but realizing, hey, you know what, I've got this. So what I want you to do is I want you to think about who or what will help you stay mentally consistent and in the moment this month. So whether it is your personal board of directors, whether it is that self care, that 10 minute walk, but I want you to think about who or what will help you maintain that mental consistency, that positive mental well being for the month. So now that we have focused on ready, I want you to realize and come to the conclusion that there is no pressure, there is no perfection, but just progress.

And remembering this journey to personal growth is not a sprint, it's a marathon. Because you know what? It wasn't a sprint for us to get to this moment. It was a marathon for us to get to this moment. So in order to get back or refocusing on those things that we enjoy, those things that we love, it's going to be a marathon towards personal growth. And if no one has told you today, I want you to know that you are doing better than you think. Because sometimes we defeat ourselves before we even get started.

We may wake up and we're just like, oh my gosh, my day is going horrible and our day hasn't even started yet. We just got out of the bed, you know, so sometimes we do defeat ourselves before we get started. But I want us to be able to keep showing up. I want us to keep hitting that reset button. I want us to continue to recharging our mental capacity because I want you to know that your mental health is important and your mental health matters. If this episode resonates with you, I want you to share it with a friend, a colleague, a family member that needs to focus on that personal growth and reminding themselves that they are ready and capable to hit that reset button.

And three things I want you to remember. You can always catch me Wednesdays live at 10:30am Eastern Standard Time and 9:30 CST. I am also on the Cadre app. So if you search for Dr. Jessica Green or if you search for healing with Dr. Green, Dr. G, I should say you will find me with videos that talk about parenting and family and videos that talk about work. And also if you're in the moment and you're looking for some words of affirmation, some best practices, you can always search what you're looking for in the top bar in the search bar and to be able to filter what you're looking for that will allow you to be your best self, but be your true, authentic self.

I look forward to seeing you next week. And until then, take care of your mind and your mind will take care of you. But also remember, as always, be courageous, have compassion, build connections and be true to yourself. See you soon.