JC reflects on caregiving, personal development, and barriers that keep people from joining conversations, naming topics from grief to miscarriage. He shares a mentor's mantra and mentions his continuing education trip in Chicago.
On Thursdays, we often talk about caregiving. How often do we not see ourselves as a professional so we don't think we're developing professionally? Join Speak Wonder and her grandchildren for Speak Wonder's live stream later today.
A mantra is a vehicle for the mind. It says, I'm glad I'm here. I know what I know. And I care about you. For all the caregivers out there, I think that's a hell of a great mantra.
Hey, Cadre, how are we doing today? I hope you're doing great. I really, really do. And if you're not doing great, guess what? I wish you were. But I bet you're still going to be able to accomplish some pretty amazing things, even in a less than great state. My name is JC if we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time right now with you. Jules. Dr. Green. Cre always so much fun when the ticker tape happens and you just see names popping on in.
If I didn't get to say hey to you bees a bits. I see you just popped on in. Nice to see y' all this morning. I'm still sitting in Chicago, Illinois. Right next to the river, right next to the lake. I bet it's a beautiful morning out there. It looks sunny at least. I'm sure it's chilly, but I'm from Minnesota. Chilly's okay. What are you up to this morning? I'm in Chicago for some continuing some continuing education and I'd love to know what you are up to. Up to today, up to the rest of this week, up to in life.
You know, on Thursdays, we often talk about t north speakwander. Nice to see y' all sneaking in. On Thursdays, we often talk about caregiving, right? People who give of their time, their energy, their focus, their priorities to care for other people. And we all do that in different ways. One of my big missions in the Cadre sphere is to poke holes in the walls of all the topics so people can enter. How often do we feel like we're not grieving enough or not dealing with enough stress that we don't care for people in the way that the term caregiver is often set up.
How often do we not see ourselves as a professional so we don't think we're developing professionally? How often do we think we're not interesting enough of a person or worthy enough of a person that we don't consider our personal development? How often are we not taking good enough self care of ourselves or we don't think that we deserve to be cared for. So all of a sudden we don't enter into conversations. You know, I was sitting with someone yesterday at lunch at this training I'm doing. I was telling them about Cadre and like, ah, you know what you should be be, you know, talking about because I hear it a lot.
And then they raised up miscarriage. And I go, yep, yep, yep, yep and yep times a million on all of the things because Humans deal with human stuff all of the time. It's rainy up in northern Minnesota. I see. It's beautiful in South Carolina. And Speak Wonder gets to hang out with her grandchildren. No matter where you are, no matter what's going on, things are good. And hey, it is Thursday, so you can join Speak Wonder and her grandchildren later on today for Speak Wonder's live stream. I want to share a thought with you today.
I guess that's what I do every day. One of my facilitators, his name's Mark, he shared a mantra yesterday from a friend of his who has passed on. Her name was Dottie. Y' all know any dotties in your life? When I hear the name Dottie, I think of one, one person. And it was Pee Wee Herman's girlfriend in Pee Wee's Big Adventure. Dottie. Dottie. If you've never seen that movie, watch it. It'll make you smile. But he shared a mantra that Dottie gave him. What's a mantra? A mantra is a vehicle for the mind.
That's the translation from Sanskrit to English. It's a vehicle for the mind. So as the mind moves and grooves and changes like a kaleidoscope, a mantra is where you can kind of navigate through. Through your mind with. So this mantra is, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. For all the caregivers out there, I think that's a h*** of a great mantra. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. Hey, I know what I know and I care about you. Think about each of those parts.
Hey, I'm glad I'm here. It allows that person to know that you are not imprisoned within this caregiving. I'm glad you're here. I don't care. Give blindly. I care. Give. Because I care about you. Hey, I know what I know. It's liberating. How often does the caregiver need to be the one who has all the answers, all the energy, all of the emotion, all of the strength, all of the stuff? What this mantra says is, I got what I got. I know what I know. I am who I am, and that's it. And then the punch at the end.
And I care about you. I think if you take these 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 17 words and bring them down into one, it's caring. The baseline for caring is that you care. It's not that you're superhuman. It's not that you have the right skill sets. It's that you are the one willing to show up in the way you can show up when you do. So from Dottie to Mark to me to you. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know. I care about you, y' all. I say that to each of you, too.
Because part of me feels like my call. Part of my call in this world is to care for you. So if you ever feel like you don't got people who care about you, put my name on that list. I'm right here with you every single day. And when I'm not, I am. Have a good one. We'll see you tomorrow.
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