Me Time ✨

Hello, Cadre family. Hope you're having a good day today. Sorry, I'm shaking a little bit. My name is Jean Mitchells. Just gonna give everybody a hot second or two to come on in today. I am popping in 30 minutes early today, so my apologies for jumping in sooner than normal. And if you're listening to this on replay, feel free to type replay. But as you dial in today, my invitation to you is to simply, hi, Danny. Simply take a breath. As you pop on in, I'll ask how you're doing today. A little check in.

But mostly I would like if you could type in the chat one thing that's bringing you joy right now, whatever your day is, sometimes finding that thing of joy can be a struggle, can be a challenge to figure out what that might be. But there's always the possibility of shifting our mindset. So if we focus on one thing that's bringing us joy or one act of kindness, maybe something that brings us peace, it's not an in the moment right now, but I will share that One thing that brought me joy yesterday.

I have a joy for today, too, but yesterday is I was at my studio. I have a little healing practice, and I rent a studio apartment in a friend's house. And I went to open up the windows, and I'm in the basement, and in the egress window, one of them is frosted. It's in the bathroom. I went to open it up, and I almost never opened this window. And there was a little bunny in there. It had fallen into the egress window, and I screamed. But then I also figured out really quickly a way that I help that bunny and scoot it out.

So I captured it in this little. I didn't capture it. I coaxed it into this little soft, cushiony bowl that I had that I used for my crystal bowls as a protector. And then I took it up outside and set it free. And it looked at me with just these kind, gentle eyes. And I still hold on to that. Danny, I'm celebrate your mom by doing things she loved, one of which was antiquing. I love that. And I love that you brought in your mom today. So I do want to recognize and say happy Mother's Day to all the moms that are out there.

If you're a pet mom, if you have a dog or a cat or a goldfish, you're a mom. If you have little children, Mini yous, adopted Minnie yous, maybe you're in a unique family where they're your stepchildren. You're a mom, you take care of them. But also I would like to just honor all the moms that we've lost. My mom is no longer here today. And so today, it's funny. I'll share in a second what I'm doing today. But honoring all of that and also recognizing that not everybody maybe had an official mom in their lives, maybe they lost their moms too soon when they were still young, and maybe some people didn't have great relationships with their moms.

So I want to recognize that too. Today, Mother's Day can bring a whole lot of emotion. So whatever that is for you today, honor it, hold space for it, give yourself some grace. There's so many things that happen with, like Mother's Day sales and all these things. Get your mom gifts or whatever, and not everybody has that ability to do it. So today I just really want to hold space for the. Just the simple act of being human and holding all of that space. It's interesting. I lost my mom just over a year ago, probably about a year and a half now.

And it's my second Mother's Day without my mom. And I just miss her. You know, I saw dandelions. We used to pick dandelions and see if the yellow under your chin would show up because apparently if it did, you like butter. Anybody else know that to be a thing? But when I woke up this morning and I looked at my calendar for the day, usually on Sundays, I make them pretty unscripted. I like to not have things planned on Sunday, but somehow I seem to have over scheduled today. So when I get off, I taught a spin class that brings me joy.

So my joy this morning was teaching a spin class, which is where I'm still at today. Right now, I'm sitting in our lobby of the Spin studio and we had tulips for all the moms and all the people grieving moms, so everybody got to grab one of those. But after this, I'm going to do a private sound bath at the salt caves. Then I'm going to an event for people who have lost their moms. And then I'm hosting two more sound baths today. So I literally am NonStop until about 5pm today. And I was really kind of a little frustrated with myself this morning when I woke up, if I'm being honest.

And then I realized that my mom was a nurse and that I wanted to cry. Sorry. I realized that my mom is a nurse, and my mom took care of everybody. She took care of little babies. Her last job as a nurse was taking care of babies with in home health care and they had trachs and she loved taking care of people when she was alive in her nursing home. I would get so mad. So I was her caretaker and I would order everything for her. And every week, I swear to God, almost every week or every other week, she would ask me if I could order her more of these Ensure protein shakes.

And I would be so frustrated. I'm like, mom, they're like $40 a case. Like what are you doing? Because she got all her meals and then I would get the request for withers, candy and M&Ms. And I was like, what the heck? Like, so I would go see my mom every Sunday. That was our, that was our day. And I would bring her this stuff. And then one time when I moved her out, I had to move her out of her care facility and move her into her long term care facility. And there were boxes of stuff, boxes of shampoo, boxes of stuff that I had ordered her and I found out from one of the ladies that lived on her floor.

And she would tell me that there were so many people that didn't have a daughter that would visit her all the time and bring her stuff. And so my mom, even though she was a retired nurse, she was always taking care of everybody. She would get in her little scooter chair and she would drive around to all of her friends and when she found out that they didn't have something, she would give them something from her supplies which would be all the stuff that I would order her. That I would get so frustrated that I kept having to order stuff all the time because it was, it magically would just disappear.

And I couldn't understand what was happening, but I felt frustrated. And then I felt like a total jerk. It was like, there's my mom. So when I moved her into her long term care facility, I didn't have to buy any of the shampoo or the protein shakes because they had plenty of supplies for everybody. But I'd bring her candy every week and I'd bring her flowers all the time, every week. And every week she'd be out of candy and I'd look in her cupboard and I didn't know what was going on. And then I.

Until I would see stockpiles of candy starting to happen and I didn't understand. And then she would have these stacks so these plastic cups. So they'd bring in her medication, they'd put it all in the plastic cups and I promise I'm getting somewhere with this. And I didn't know what was going on. And so then one day, the nurses came in. And then one day one of her friends stopped by, and my mom was sick that week, and they were like, carol, we didn't see you today. And I was like, what's going on here?

And I learned that my mom would take the candy every. Every Sunday when I would come. One of the nurses told me, every Sunday when I would come, my mom would take all these plastic cups that she had a stack of, and she'd stuff them in this little bag that she had in her. In her chair. And if it was wrappered candy, she'd just stuff handfuls in it. And she'd scoot around and she'd hand out candy to everybody, and everybody would light up and it would make their day. And so today I'm doing all of these things, and I realize that the things that I'm doing today are what my mom would do.

My mom would take care of everybody. So I'm doing all these some bests in honor of my mom today. So for everybody that's doing something, whether you're antiquing or maybe you're going to do a workout with your mom or a walk for your mom, or maybe all you can do is just simply call them. Maybe you can't call them anymore, whatever that is. You know, if you have someone who is a mother figure in your life, a mentor who gave you that nurturing doesn't have to be blood. I'm adopted. I don't know my birth mom.

I haven't ever met her. When I reached out to try to meet her, she has a family and. And then moved on, and I wasn't a part of that. And that's okay, because that's hers. But no matter what, it's like you have someone in your life that represents someone important to you, that's a female. And whether they're an official mom or not, maybe someone who's older that you've just embraced as a mentor or somebody that you've connected with. Celebrate them. Celebrate the women in your life today. Because at any point in time, we're all taking care of someone, right?

So celebrate all of that. And whatever you're going through today, just remember you're not alone. There are so many people that have great relationships with their mom. There are so many people that don't. It's just a lot of emotion today. So whatever it is for you, lean into it, journal about it, write about it. If you're a mom and you've lost your children too soon. Maybe they died too young or maybe something happened. Just honor that. Honor that you still have given a life. You know, you brought a life in.

And whatever that life is, you know, we can't control any of that. So today is a day, and it's a day that you get to just honor and hold that space. So whatever it is that you do today, today I'm a doer. That's my nickname. I kind of wish it wasn't my nickname sometimes, but today I'm just gonna do a lot. And. And I realized also, and if I'm being really transparent with you guys today, on me time, I'm really good at filling my time, so I. I don't have to slow down enough to take the time I need to.

To feel everything. And. And I recognize that. So later today, I'm just going to take a little bit of time. Hi, Jules. And I'm just going to sit with all my own emotions. I'm going to put up my little altar. I have a little candle, crystal altar, and I'm going to put a candle up there. I'm going to just sit with my mom and hold space for her today. So wherever you are at today, recognize. Recognize what you're going through. Recognize that if you are like me and you're being really busy, so you don't have to take that time to grieve and pause, honor that, too, because we can't run from all of it.

I've been running marathons all over the world, and I realized I can't run away from my grief. I can celebrate life, but those are the things that we do, right? So today I'm sending you a heartfelt love. Whatever you are, wherever you are, wherever you are, in your healing journey and your journey in this moment today, whatever today represents to you, just remember that you are loved. I love you. So many people on Cadre love you. So take what you need today. Do the things that you need to do. And if you're listening on replay, thank you for showing up today.

I so appreciate it. I'm grateful every time you do because that means that you are choosing to invest in you and you're choosing to lean into whatever you have that day. Sometimes the messages will hit, and sometimes you're not ready for them, or sometimes they're really off, and that's okay, too. But you chose to invest in me today, so I celebrate you. So sending you all a big kiss. Sending you all big love. Hope you have a great day. Antiquing today. And Jules, have a great day. Momming today or celebrating you today.

And I will see you all on Monday. I'll be on my regular time at 9am Enjoy your day and don't forget to get outside and move a little and catch a breath.