Cadre Today: The Outward Facing Clique

You can be amazing. You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug. You can be the outcast to be the backlash of somebody's lack of love. Or you can start speaking up. Nothing's going to hurt you. The way the words do when they steadily skin kept on the inside. Sometimes the shadow ends. But I wonder what would happen if you say what you want to say. Good morning, Emily, Jules, Rickram, Maffy A. I want to see you be brave with what you want to say and let the words fall out. Honestly, I want to see you be brave.

Good morning Cadre. How are we doing? I hope you're doing great and if you're not, that's okay too because as a reminder, I'm glad that I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you. That's the starting place of, I think, how we grow, how we connect, how we learn, how we risk, how we try, how we be brave. On Tuesdays in the Cadre sphere, we quite often talk about the idea of not our own personal or professional development, but how we do things together in community with others, whether that be one on one, one on many, many on one.

Later on today, you'll go ahead and see the one and only Betsy Hodges talking about Betsy's rules of engagement. Betsy is a, is literally a world shifter and a world leader at the, at the highest of heights, looking and going, how do we impact and create space for many? That's always kind of where I like to leave you. It's like hey, what's next in the Cadre sphere story, you know, after that you'll see Dr. Leslie, you'll see Jen later on today, early evening, there's always another kind of monkey bar to hold on to to swing forward.

But if live streams aren't always what you're craving, check out the community feed. Jump into a community, literally click join. So then all of a sudden your algorithm pulls up things that are most front of mind for you right now. On Tuesdays in the community conversation I talk about the idea of the outward facing click. We all want to. I don't use universals like that often, but I do think that this is a right use of all. We all want to be a part of things with other people that we couldn't create by ourselves.

I was really careful in how I said that right. Some of us are more introverted like me. Some of us are more extroverted like others. Some want to be around of a bunch of people, some want to be a part of the big thing. Some people want to be a part of the little thing, but everybody wants to be a part of something that has greater capacity than they would have by themselves. And that's kind of the formation of clique or mob or gang or right? These groups that often have a negative connotation or a non progressive, creative mindset connotation.

But if we take what a clique is, a group of people who have a shared interest and quite often are facing inward, but then we face them outward. When you say who's not a part of this group yet and how do we create pathways and doorways? How do we clang pots and ring bells? So people hear and learn and know and not only get curious, but have ways that they see they can exercise their curiosity. Today I offer the idea of having some really great questions to ask when they think that the best answer is outside of themselves.

Here's what I mean. So often in moments of insecurity or in doubt, people will ask someone else, hey, what's the answer here? Or hey, what should we do? Or hey, I think you are better than I. So tell me, tell me what I should know. And my answer in those moments is always, I don't know, what do you think? It's an outward facing moment, right? They're wanting to face in to me and I'm saying no, like turn outward, look at the world that you know and share your truth. I'll tell you. I say, I don't know, what do you think?

Probably 10 to 15 times a day I ensure that I do that. There's moments where, yeah, I could tell someone goes, JC, what's two plus two? I could go 499 out of 100 times. I go, I don't know, what do you think? If they go three, I go, awesome, thanks for sharing. Tell me how you arrived at that. And I may engage them in the process of going, well, I think it's five. We may meet in the middle and arrive at four and realize that we needed each other to arrive at the right answer. It's kind of a weird analogy because we all know that two plus two equals four.

But to the standpoint, there are a lot of things that don't have a clear correct answer. People want to imagine that there is. They want someone else to close in with to say, ah, just tell me, protect me, close me off from. And often it's a really well charged question, like I don't know, what do you think that invites people to be brave, to be curious to connect with others, to risk, to show the world that being right isn't the beginning and the end, but that actually, if there is a beginning and an end, it's the journey that actually matters that gets us from one to the other.

So no matter where you are today, no matter what's going on, no matter if you are going to be alone all day or if you're going to be surrounded by millions of people, I invite you to consider ways that you can turn people outward, including yourself, by going, hmm, I don't know. What do you think? As Sara Bareilles plays this out. Get back in the Cadre sphere later this morning with Betsy if you got the chance. Otherwise, pop back in because we are always here inviting you to see that there are many ways to be.

And, well, y' all have a good one. Drum break. Play us out. Bam. Everybody's been stared down by the enemy Then some fearing done some disappearing.