Cadre Today: The Outward Facing Clique

Hey, good morning, Cadre. How are we doing today? For some of you, it may be a start of a week if yesterday was a holiday or a day off of work for you. Others of you may be going like, oh, seems like the world is starting slow today, but I'm already up and running. In short, no matter how you're feeling today, no matter what you bring into this day, you can do something with it. If you're kind of low energy, you can do something with that. If you're ready and raring to go, you can do something with that.

Crew, nice to see y' all coming on into the room right on top of the half hour. Happy, happy Tuesday. And if it's not a happy Tuesday, that's okay, too. Amara, nice to see you. Jules, nice to see you. Good morning, y' all. Let me know in the chat, is today a Monday for you, or is today a middle of a weekday for you? Is today a start or is today a continuation? Let me know. Junk food junkie, nice to see you. Well, hey, I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you.

Therefore, we have a perfect environment to go ahead and do some really good things for our minds, for our bodies, for our relationships. And hey, speaking of relationships, that's kind of what we speak about on Tuesdays. Tuesdays. Myself and Betsy Hodges and Dr. Leslie Davis and Jen Varale all speak about that idea of bringing communities together, whether that be a one on one, whether it be a one on many, or many on one. And I kick things off by talking about this concept of the outward facing clique.

The outward facing clique is the antithesis to what we normally think about as a clique. A clique is normally an inward facing group of people that share something that they're excited about and that they love, but it's really hard to become a part of it. I'll say. Most community creation feels like that. We don't want to be the new person. We don't want to be the kid on the first day of school with the lunch tray. We don't want to be the first timer. We don't want to be the beginner. Right? Because those things are set up innately to be the thing you don't want to be.

The outward facing click says, hey, the longer that you're a part of a community, the less it is about you and the more that it is about those people who have yet to become a part of it. In other words, the job of the people who are, who really love the community is to create pathways, doorways, shared languages, processes for new people to go, cool, I get it, I got it. And then they can help grow the thing. Without an outward facing click model. There's a big, There's a big anxiety, right, that if we don't hold on to our importance and all of a sudden we're going to lose it.

And I'll tell you, I think that's a really hard way to exist within community, to always be looking out as to who's gonna take your thing. My encouragement today is to, if you are that person, to take some time and ask what you're really holding on to. There's lots of communities that, that I'm in. And like last night, like 7, 8 o' clock last night on a holiday Monday, I got a text message this long from someone in a community that I help support who very clearly is worried that their worth is based on their thing they got.

And I replied back with the reminder of like, nope, that's not true. The feelings are authentic and need to be felt. But also, we can place positive friction. If we're the community creator and supporter, we can be like, no, actually, y' all, the longer you're here, the less you got to worry about your importance, because now you're the important person who gets to go and share this with other people. I see. Amar, you have a question unrelated to this. What do you got? Throw it in there, buddy. Junk food junkie says today is Tuesday, the day Wimpy needs to pay for his hamburger.

I'll gladly pay a Tuesday for a hamburger on Memorial Day. I wonder if that's where it came from. Since Memorial Day weekends, one of those weekends when there's a lot of. When there's a lot of grilling happening. Maybe, maybe Wimpy said that very classic quote, junk food junkie on a Monday, on Memorial Monday. But. So, hey, I wanted to take a moment to remind you that in this Cadre sphere, if you click in the upper, like the three little lines in the corner, normally we call that like the hamburger menu.

Again, hamburger. Well, two hamburger references. Today you'll see communities that you can go ahead and sink into. If there's a topic that interests you, go ahead and dive in there. Dive into that space, into that place by simply clicking on it and follow. And then you'll see a lot of those posts go ahead and move in and send out into what you end up seeing when you open up your Cadre. See, Amar, I created new LinkedIn can send requests. Can I send message to LinkedIn? Except stay connected. Oh, yep, yep.

Amar. Just. Just feel free to message me, and then we can get connected there as well. All right. Well, everybody, I hope you have a great day ahead. And I'll be back tomorrow morning. You got Betsy Hodges coming up. Dr. Leslie Davis, 10 and noon, Central Standard Time. And then 4pm this evening, Central Standard Time. Jen Varale with the not somber sober hour. All right, we'll talk to you later. Bye.