What’s Holding You Back? Discover the Secrets to Personal Growth 🌱

Good morning Cadre world. It is Dr. Jessica Green and today is a wonderful Wednesday. So some of you, as you're coming in, may be joining us for the first time. And then some of you have been on this journey with me myself to the Good morning Ally, for those of you who may be coming in for the first time. So My name is Dr. Jessica Green and I am a licensed therapist here in South Carolina, in North Carolina and in Florida. I'm also a clinical supervisor in South Carolina for I now host lpcas and then I am also a CEU provider through the licensing board with South Carolina.

So I definitely wear a mini hat. Andy, good morning. But I love and enjoy what I do every day, all day. So as we talk about personal growth today, I want you to rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how your week is going. And the great thing about this week today is Wednesday. So we still have a couple more days left when we're talking about personal growth, when we're talking about hitting those markers in those moments for us in life. So on a scale from 1 to 10 in the chat, I want you to tell me how your week has been going so far.

5. For some of you who joined me last week I was a little under the weather, but this week has been an even better week. The sun has been shining, the weather has been great and I have been able to take advantage of it, especially when we talk about mindfulness, when we talk about self care and our ability to move from who we were, who we are now and where we're going. So as we talk about personal growth again today, we are going to take a deeper dive into burnout. Oh, allie, is a 9. Burnout what it entails, Recognize that we are still growing and then have those real talk in real life conversations about workplace wellness.

So when we think about workplace wellness, I want us to be able to look in the mirror and look at ourselves before work. And sometimes when we get up, we get dressed, we look into that mirror and we may even whisper to ourselves, I can't keep doing this. Sometimes we are going to talk about things in the workplace that makes us feel frustrated, which makes us feel the sense of burnout and focus on how personal growth can help us reclaim that peace that we need to have without quitting on ourselves or quitting on our jobs.

So when we look at burnout, burnout is more than just being tired. It's emotional exhaustion and a loss of motivation and especially when we're doing something that we once love, whether it's with family, whether it's with our co workers or even out of the community. But in the workplace, it can show up as many different things. It can show up as those dreaded meetings that we have. And sometimes when we get to work, we're actually looking in the parking lot, figuring out who's at work and who is going to be in that meeting that day.

Sometimes we have those feelings as if we are always we feel like that to do list keeps getting longer and longer and longer and also being less patient or even creative because we are exhausted and we have that sense of fatigue. And then sometimes we even worry even more and we have that sense of feeling numb and that sense of detachment. So when burnout is not addressed, it doesn't just hurt our productivity, it chips away at our confidence. It chips away at our relationships with others and even our physical health.

So here are some things that I want you to remember. So sometimes growing up through those lived experiences, we've been taught that growth has to hurt, that grinding is non stop and it's the only way to be successful. But we have to remember that personal growth is not about suffering. It's about learning to hit that pause button and being able to hit that reset button. It's about setting those boundaries and it's about aligning your values with your actions and making sure that they align. So I want you to ask yourself a couple of things.

Am I growing into someone that I admire? And that is so important? Andy, I hope your week gets even better than it is now in Update. So I want you to ask yourself, am I growing into someone that I admire? Or am I just pushing forward because I'm afraid to stop? Because sometimes for some of us, we move like robots. We feel like we have to keep going and keep going and keep going and not taking that time to say, hey, you know what? I am reaching that state of exhaustion and I'm reaching that burnout.

It affects our vulnerability. But we have to remember that we have to be courageous, even though we may be fearful and feel as if we cannot stop. So you don't have to overhaul your life today, but I want you to think about these five steps. So with these five steps, if you have a pen, paper or pencil, I want you to write them down. If you are in your vehicle, I just want you to listen. All right? Remember, this content will be available under my profile, so you can always replay this anytime. So the first thing I want you to do is I want you to name it.

I want you to acknowledge your burnout without having that sense of shame, without having that sense. As if I can't acknowledge it because of that shame, that stigma, or even that bias that may come with it. And it may even be from home, it may even be from my coworkers. But I need you to acknowledge that burnout and not have that sense of shame, that sense of bias, but being able to acknowledge it. Number two, I want you to set micro boundaries. So when I say micro boundaries, I want you to try logging off when the workday ends.

And we can even start small because it may only be 10 minutes earlier, it may be five minutes earlier. But I tell you what, what I do want you to do is week one may be five minutes, week two may be 10 minutes. So we're increasing increments of five until we get to that magic number that we want to have next. Number three, I want you to check your inner voice. Are you speaking to yourself with grace, or are you speaking to yourself with guilt? And I want you to listen more of yourself with that grace, acknowledging that you are not a robot, your ability to embrace those imperfections, and knowing that I am doing my best with what I have.

Number four, prioritize your purpose over pressure. So prioritize your purpose over pressure. What makes you feel alive? What sparks you? What is it? When you talk about it, you have that energy. You smile and people recognize it and see it. So I want you to make space for that thing. And even if it's only once a week, I need you to create that space for it. Because that's something that allows you to recognize your strength, recognize your sense of empowerment, but also recognize your sense of personal growth.

Remember, your worth is not tied to your work. And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is rest so we can rise again. We don't want to feel stuck. We want to remember that we are brave, that we are courageous, that we are building connections. But also make sure that you are implementing and taking in that self care so you can continue to grow and rise above burnout. So three takeaways that I want you to remember today. The first is, burnout isn't a weakness, is a warning light. You know, just like we get to that stoplight when we're driving our car, we know those magic colors.

They're red, they're yellow, and they're green. I want you to think of burnout that way and recognizing that burnout is not a weakness, but it's that that yellow light where we need to hit that break and we need to slow down a little bit. Number two, growth doesn't have to hurt. We just have to be honest. You know, our ability to be courageous, our ability to grow and acknowledge, hey, you know what, I am still growing. I'm going to use those positive affirmations to make sure I continue to build my self esteem and my confidence so I can reach that next level.

And third, I want you to protect your peace the way that you protect those deadlines, those deadlines at work, those deadlines that we may have with our family. I want you to protect your peace the same way you protect those deadlines. With those deadlines, we know what they are. For example, if you are taking an online course, you know that magic time of 11:59, because that assignment has to be turned in by 11:59pm because that's the deadline. So when we think about protecting your peace, when we think about burnout, when we think about workplace wellness, I need you to protect your peace and acknowledge, hey, I am going to not communicate on my phone after work hours.

I'm not going to check my emails. I'm going to protect my peace. And when I get home, I can be that mother, I can be that, that wife, I can be that caretaker and their ability to be able to transition when we leave work and when we get home. And if you have no one at home, if you're single, I want you to remember, hey, take that time to acknowledge you and remembering to set those boundaries. Because sometimes those individuals, even at work, they may think, oh, she's single, she doesn't have any kids, she doesn't have anything to do.

Yes, you do. You are still going to protect your piece the same way you would protect those deadlines. So your ability to say no, your ability to delegate and recognizing it is okay. There is no shame and there is no guilt attached to that. I want you to recognize that you deserve to be, well, not just productive. So I want you to listen to the content. If you are in your vehicle, do not forget, this content is available under my name, Dr. Jessica Green. So if this content resonated with you, I definitely want you to share it with someone who's been burning the candle at both ends.

And don't forget, growth is still growth, even if it's slow. Growth does not always have to be a sprint. Growth can be a marathon. I want you to stay grounded and I want you to stay growing. And as always, remember to be courageous, remember to have compassion and continue to build connections and realize self care is important. We're going to protect our peace and I will see you next Wednesday. Thank you for tuning in. And do not forget again there is recorded content on the Cadre app that you're looking for so you can make sure you are fulfilled.

You can make sure when I see you next time when I ask you about your scale from 1 to 10, it will be a 7, it'll be an 8, it'll be a 9 or even a 10. Thank you for listening and I will see you next Wednesday.