Cadre Today and Welcome to Cadre

I wish you would stop fighting. Hey. Good morning, Cadre. I wish I got more sleep. I wish there was more time for your mother and me. My hair's kind of taking its own course today. There we go. That's better. How are we doing, Cadre? Hey, everybody. Nice to see you coming on into the room. Marisa, Alana. Nice to see y' all. Jules. Hey. Hey, Amar. Nice to see you. We'll stop right there. T. North. Nice to see you, too, my friend. Happy Friday. It's not a happy Friday, Alana. No, that is okay, too.

I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. I. It's in at least a month now, I think a month and a half since that's been my Cadre today greeting. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know, and I care about you. And I think that is the magic spell. There's no magic to it. But sometimes we think the special things have to be out of reach or indescribable. But when people appreciate spending time with one another, they risk to share their experience, and they risk to say, hey, I care about.

All of a sudden, some really cool things start happening. Hey. On Fridays, we often talk about the realities of grieving and losing and all that type of stuff. Ben Rector, a musician. That's what I was playing this morning, just came out with a new album. And he always writes songs that just try to make you feel something either like or like. And that song was called Golden Days. And in essence, it's one of those kind of stories about sooner or later, we'll look back and we'll miss the things that are happening now.

Andy Bernard on the Office in the last episode of the television show the Office, Ed Helms, the character, the actor who played Andy Bernard, says something about, you know, he took the job because there's a job to be had and that he didn't realize that the people that he was spending time with were the people that he wanted to always be spending time with. And he makes this comment of, wouldn't it be great if we knew that the good old days were happening right now? Well, hey, in the last week, I know four pups who've crossed over the rainbow bridge, four dogs who've passed away.

And if we've shared time together before, you know, I feel more dog than human a lot of days. So a lot of my best friends have always been my colleagues. Or my neighbors or my human friends. Animals. And four of them, fast way and one cat. It's always hard to watch people go through stuff like that. But you want to know what? Today I want to zoom back in history just a little bit. Like that song Golden Days kind of, kind of reminds us to go, hey, what we're experiencing right now is something we're going to wish we were still experiencing in the future.

And you know, some people find this to be a weird fact about me. Every single day I talk with my dogs about death. Even baby Willow, who's now two and a half right when she came home, I started talking about how it would be okay once it was time for her to, to pass. And people go, why do you do that? And I think a large part of it is this concept of anticipatory grief. We know that grief is the evidence of love. So sooner or later we'll grieve all the things that we love today. Reason why having memories and kind of these sticky, tangible things that we can go back to are so important.

But especially right now, I'm getting all of these reminders of people who aren't in the anticipatory grief phase, but are in the oh, s*** grief phase. And it reminds me of, of why I do what I do. So I invite you to think, what are those good days that are happening right now? And this isn't like a glass half full or, you know, be positive no matter what. Chit chat? No, not that at all. But if you go, wow, what's going on right now? Maybe for you it's, it's, it's, it's like me and that's like, I really love all the seasons.

So when all of a sudden it gets to kind of that early summer, that late spring, that graduation phase of. I was graduating 25 years ago this week from high school. I was graduating 21 years ago this week from college. I was moving into my first house 21 years ago next month. I remember when I was a kid, you know, what it would be like to have it be the beginning of summer, you know, like, and these times a year, this time of year and other times a year when seasons change, I always go, yeah, I remember all of those golden days, those good old days.

And then I also go, and they're also happening right now. I remember five years ago, this time of year when the world was, was shutting down and burning down, and there was so much stuff going on. You know, I made this comment that it seems like the divine. It seems like, like, like that the things not of this world were just making the weather be oddly perfect. So I'd walk up and down the streets because we couldn't go anywhere, and I'd be like, oh, it's just there's. There's something really calm and beautiful right now amidst all the things that weren't calm and beautiful.

As t nor says, preparing yourself for what you know someday will come. Yeah. And the funny thing is, can we actually prepare ourselves? No. But we can go ahead and consider loudly. We can risk to feel what there is to feel. We can be in the moment that we are in and be nourished by it. So wherever you are, whatever's going on today, my invitation is for you to see that there's something golden about right now. And if you don't see the goldenness right now, look back to yesterday, because it may just be shining up.

As Ben just said, these may be the golden days. So consider that today. I'll see you tomorrow. I still don't understand it. How would you.