Enoughness 101

Hey, Cadre. It's a love song to the Cadre sphere, isn't it? Speak, Wonder. Hey, Mr. Lisa. Good morning, my friend. If you know it, sing along. Still the one, still the one. I'm still having fun and you're still the one. I think Orleans is my favorite two hit wonder of all time. Can anybody think of Orleans, that band's other big song? If you know their other big song, throw it in chat. And if you're like me and you like to cheat sometimes, go ahead and type it into Google and figure it out. How are we doing, everybody?

Yeah, great tune. One percent better. Speak, Wonder. Amar. How's everybody doing? Lisa, I saw you bop on in there as well. Hey, it is Saturday and Saturdays. We spend a little bit of time in the live streams currently really talking about the idea of how do we develop who we are as people. I always love bringing it down this way. Monday is a development day. Saturday is a development day. Monday's on the professional side of things. That's how do we develop in what we do. And on Saturdays for personal development, I like to think of that as who we are.

Professional development, what we do Saturday, personal, who we are. Jules, this is the perfect break moment when you're working in the ot. Oh, by golly, Jules, settle on in for a good break. So in the personal development world, my swimming pool is the swimming pool of enoughness. This idea that in this moment you are capable of doing something that has great value and worth. Whenever I present on enoughness, one of the early slides in my deck, one of the early kind of pathways I walk people down, is that enoughness is framed by two questions.

The first question is, am I capable? Am I worthy? Like those types of words, you know, like, how often do you go, I can't or I don't, or I won't, or I'm not. So the first question is, am I capable? Am I worthy? Can I do? And like a good high agency, high autonomy person, I am. That one question sounds like six questions. Well, it's one question, but you get to. You get to think which question it is in your head. They're all in the same bucket. So if the answer is, no, I'm not capable, then your job is to go, I need to go ahead and make the aperture smaller.

You keep asking the question, am I capable? Until the answer is yes. So, for example, am I capable of. Of, you know, running. Running a. Winning a gold medal in the Olympics? No. No, I'm not capable of doing that. Some of your wonderful hearts May go, yes, you are jc. You are so capable and worthy. It's like, no, I, right now, today, in this moment, I could not win a gold medal in the Olympics. But let's say I have the desire to win a gold medal in the Olympics. Guess what? The first step to winning a gold medal in the Olympics is not to win a gold medal in the Olympics.

What are things that go before that? Deciding you want to, you know, doing some planning, checking resources, getting other people in your system to provide support and awareness. And then obviously, maybe the big thing and the thing that came to your head first is, well, you have to train, you have to work at it. Yeah, that's absolutely right. So even though the answer right now to the first question, am I capable? Am I worthy? Can I do it? The answer was no. If I make the aperture smaller, can I do a push up from my knees right now?

Yeah, the answer is yes. Yes, I could do that. Then the second question, because I got to a yes, am I capable of doing a push up for my knees right now? Yes. The, the, the second question then is, so when are you going to do it or how are you going to do it or how are you going to proceed? And that seems like the non again, like another non sexy kind of questioner. It's like, ah, but think about processing, like, think about how the brain works. How often do we stop ourselves because the thing we want to do?

The answer is, no, I can't do that. So then we don't proceed into the so how am I going to do it or when am I going to do it? You know, it's always really interesting when we look at how the pieces fit, fit together in kind of how we operate, right? We're really good at being automated. We're really good at going, oh, here's the assumption, or I like thinking about things as paradigms, right? Here's the thing that I assume to be true, but I don't know why I assume that in the world of you doing the things that you love, doing things you feel called to do, if you are constantly running into the brick wall of I can't, I don't, I won't, I'm not worthy, I'm not capable.

You just need to think smaller. In a world that says think bigger, think bigger, think bigger. Sometimes thinking bigger is, is, is the pathway. But just like everything, too much of one thing doesn't really get you too far. Today, if you're going, I have all of these things to get done. Am I capable of getting all of these things done on a Saturday when I really just want to stay in bed. No, you may not be capable of getting all those things done. Make the aperture smaller. Make the answer to the question, am I worthy?

Am I valid? Am I capable? Yes. And once you do, then you can ask the second question. So now what can I do? Y' all now need to hear the answer in the chat of what Orleans second big song was. It's actually my favorite song of theirs. It was in my wedding. I love this song. I can smell this song. I can smell the brown carpet and the orange couch and the plastic flowers. I can smell those things in this song. So as you move on with your Saturday today, y' all find a little time to dance. Song just flows.

It's got spring in it, doesn't it? All right, y' all have a great one. We'll talk to you soon.