Me Time ✨: In Person Reflections

Hello, Cadre family. And Jane Mitchell's here. Coming in late, late today, but I'm excited to be here and so I'm going to anticipate most people will listen to this on replay and I'm very okay with that. If you do can, if you are listening on replay, I would just invite you to type replay so that we know you are here. Hi, Andy. Nice to have you pop in. I just wanted to pop in for a short period of time today to do a little reflection on a magical moment. That magical moment was the community coming together in person this morning.

If you've seen some posts about this on social media or your email, possibly on the Cadre sphere, Today we had our first ever in person Cadre experience where anybody could come. If you were in Minnesota or not, you could come as you are. Luke so graciously opened up the invitation for people to have a coffee or tea and a little Sunday morning snack. And whoever was available came. Hi, Speak, wonder. Happy Sunday. So I think I'm still in kind of my own little pause on this morning's experience, but here's what I'm gonna say.

There's something really special about coming together in this community, Cadre in particular, not only online, but the specialness of what the foundation of the Cadre community has created that innately offers a safe space for people when we come together in person. It's the only way that I can explain the magic that I felt today. Not everybody may have felt the same magic, and maybe everybody did, but I can't speak to anybody but my own experience. So that's the experience that I'll talk to now.

Coming into today, I was a little nervous. There were a few plot twists that happened before everybody arrived that required us to have some creative thinking. And I love plot twists because inside those you get to see magic happen. You get to see people step up in different ways, new ideas come together and you get to see the investment that everybody has in what we're creating. So that happened this morning. But then what else happened? We got to meet an individual who drove in from Des Moines, Iowa, just to be there because Cadre has made such a significant difference in their life that they drove from Des Moines, Iowa this morning to come be a part of our in person event.

We have another individual who pops into these that you may recognize their name, who happens to be here for a training tomorrow, but came early so that they could be in person with us as well. Can you think of another space that you would do that for that you would get in your car and drive for multiple hours to simply spend two, maybe three hours together and then move on. Cadre has something special. It's magic. There's a magical space here. Even though you can only see me and I can't see you, I can only see the name that you put on your identifier when you come in.

So I know that Speak Wonder is Speak Wonder. And that's what I know until maybe one day we can coincidentally meet in person or intentionally meet in person. I've met Andy in person. He's come to my spin classes. I got to meet him again this morning in a new space with the Cadre. There's magic in that connection. And even if this is one way me talking to you with you, and two way by you typing in a response or posting something in our comment section, something special in this connection has happened.

So this morning we met at a coffee shop in Minneapolis that I seem to go to often. Hello, Elise. Congratulations on your race today. I just saw the post about you and Sam. Nice work on doing better this year than last year, but equally having fun. So this morning we had the luxury of finding a common space where we could come together, had a coffee, have a donut or a pastry. And I firmly believe that whoever needs to arrive, arrives. And while I may always think in my head about grandiose and big and plan for 50, whether it's 2 or 50, it doesn't matter.

It's the intention that you put out there that a community, a space can be created. And there's the intention of people getting in their cars and driving there, walking there, and showing up uncertain of what they might experience. We can put the best agenda together, but showing up anyway, bringing their whole selves together. And so today I just wanted to pop in at the end of the day or end close to the end of the afternoon and just offer some reflections around the experience from my lens today.

And if you were there today, pop in your reflections if you would like as well. That's amazing. So tomorrow, this morning, we got together. It was great. Luke was there. Some other Cadre contributors were there. Thank you for all being there. And we sat in a circle. Now, we created this space so that the chairs could be in a circle, but there's something really beautiful about sitting in community in a circle. And if you think about the shape of an actual circle, I typically have something round with me.

I do. So if you think about the shape of a circle, right. It allows for energy to expand around the whole. So sometimes different shapes. I have different. Crystals can have points. On a crystal where energy can only travel through a point, Right? If you sit in a line, tables lined up, your only interaction is forward. But when you sit in a circle, the energy of a circle expands exponentially from that circle. And everybody is seen. Everybody's seen. And so I offered a couple of questions to at least do some general introductions so we knew who was there today.

Hey, Jules, nice to see you again. And in the Inside that introduction, I kind of just put out a couple of questions. And here's what I expected. And here's what happened. I expected everyone to graciously say their name, bashfully, maybe, and maybe share one thing that they're passionate about. But here's what we got. We had people saying their names, and we had people share their stories. And those stories were vulnerable. But every story, you had a thread. Every story had a connection. So if you think about this as the center of a wheel, this is one spoke of the wheel.

This is one connection. But I could say that we had multiple connections throughout the entire morning where one person could share their story and multiple people could feel the experience. Multiple people could find commonality in the experience. I shared more of my story, and I didn't even plan to. I was the facilitator, the host. I never want to share because I want to hear everybody else's, and I'm not the center and point. You all are the center point. But I was so inspired by people's stories today that I shared as well, different parts of my story, things that I.

I've discovered along the way and realized that I need to share more of in general, community. I will share some of my reflections in just a hot second. But I'm gonna offer up one thing that I've seen happen. Now. I'm sure we've all experienced or saw during the pandemic. Peloton, the company Peloton, they did a really great job, and they just happen to be on the cusp of a breakthrough, of an innovation and a technology that could help people work out very similar to how we interact at Cadre, right?

You see me, I only see your names. I facilitate a conversation. They facilitate a workout. Similar, right? But here's what's interesting about Peloton, and here's what's interesting about what I've discovered. And. And people ask me all the time, do I feel like Peloton is competition for Cycle Bar, for our studio? And the answer is no. What's beautiful about Peloton is it helps People to move and feel connected. And what we tell them is when they're ready to find something a little bit more energizing or a little more in person, that's when they come us.

So they come to Psychobar to find that community in person. But here's what Peloton has done recently. They just kicked off in New York, the very first in person run club. They are redesigning their studio spaces in New York so that there are places that people can sit and come and gather because they're realizing that people also want that human connection. Speak, wonder. We're going to meet in person one day. Don't you worry? It's going to happen. But this is what is so beautiful about this morning's coming together is we have a community similar to Peloton where we talk about everything.

We talk about grief, we talk about work, we talk about oneness, enoughness, we talk about thought leadership, we talk about nutrition, we talk about sobriety, we talk about everything under the sun that could help us with our mental health. Now, people say I do a lot of things, and here's my common thread. I am passionate about helping people move forward to find their passion and move forward. And I do that in a way with my business, that is coaching and consulting. That works with the brain. I do that when I teach a spin class, that works with the body.

And I do that with reiki and sound bass because that works with our spirit. But here's what's great. We are never one of those things. We are all of those things. Mind, body, spirit, soul, whatever you want to call that, we are all of it. So this morning it was so beautiful to be able to see some of our a snapshot, a window into our community as we come together and we share our stories. And what was beautiful is for the first time in Cadre, I got to hear yours. Your words, your emotions, your words, your way.

So by being together, it helps me to be a better me when I dial in here for all of you, whether I've met all of you or just a window of some of you, that connection points help me to see how I can be better for you, for us, for me. So thank you for that. Thank you for coming together. Now my reflections. First reflection. And I live by this. And Luke and I kind of laughed at this. There's always a first time. And after the first time, that's time you dip your toe in and you get wet, right? And you just put it out there.

You just try. So I'm a doer. I'VE mentioned this before. Idea to action. That's my life. And I learn along the way. I stumble, I fall, I trip, I scrape things good with that. That's. That's what's great for me. But there are other people who are really great planners. We need all of it. But that's my first insight here, is there's always a first, and it's never going to be perfect. My second reflection is be comfortable with a plot twist. Luke laughed when I said that to him as he was on his way.

And I was like, well, we have a plot twist this morning. And we did, and it worked out. But I'm always prepared for the things I'm not prepared for, because in life, you will always have a plot twist. You have a plan, and you think that plan is going to be the plan. And then life happens, and that plan is going to shift. And the more comfortable I am in the plot twist, the better I can show up when it happens. So that's my second reflection, my third. There's so much beauty in a circle. So my invitation to you is when you're with a group of friends or you're maybe hosting a little mini retreat with people or something, push away the tables and find a circle, and allow that circle to be the source of that energy, and allow that circle to be the center point where the spokes, the energy, the ropes, the connections can spawn from that centerpiece.

And here's what else I'm going to say. It just takes one person to be vulnerable first, to have the courage to open up and share their story. And when somebody does that, something really beautiful that happens next, it gives everybody else around that circle the permission that they need to be vulnerable to and share their stories. It also gives us permission to say, I'm not ready to share my story yet, but let me get back to you because I need to process this moment a little bit. Circles, you can hold space for that because you're seeing everybody.

And here's my other reflection. When we share our story, we probably realize we're not alone, because there's so many times that we don't share our story that we aren't giving those around us the opportunity to really see us or the gift of connecting with us. Someone commented this morning that every single person that shared a story, I think it was Luke maybe made this comment. He said, I can connect to every single person's story and everybody that shared something this morning. I've had a similar ish experience, too.

We'd never know that unless we share stories, right? So the last thing that I'll do is I'll say as my reflection for today is even when you're the leader, you get to be the follower. So today, this morning, I had a plan of what I thought what happened. I had my backup plan. I had my backup plan from that one. I'm not really a good planner. I just have a bunch of ideas that I can plot twist with. But today I got to follow along. And that is the biggest gift is being able to not lead. JC talks about this in one of his conversations.

It's about followership, right? Following. And today I lived by following. And it was the best story of all to just follow along with what everybody else is doing, what everybody else needed, and adapt to that. So for our first Cadre in person, to all of you that attended, I just want to give you a heartfelt thank you. Thank you for showing up for yourself. Thank you for showing up for us. Thank you for sharing your stories. Thank you for being a part of our first and giving us feedback so we can do a second even better.

And thank you for being a part of our community. And lastly, thank you for joining me today and every day because you might not realize how much of a gift it is to each of us when you show up. I hope you all have the best rest of your Sunday and I'll see you on Monday whenever you're ready to show up. Love you all and do something really kind for you today.