The Myth Of Always Positive Pt.2

Foreign. Hello, everyone. Happy afternoon. If you are in the central time zone in Minnesota, I'm in Minnesota. Happy summer solstice. So great to have the sun finally shine. Here we go. Had a really long, long week of rain last week, and so it's just really good to have, have the sunshine and see some blue skies every once in a while. But today we're going to dive into our part two of the myth of always being positive. Hello, Dan. Thanks for joining. Happy Friday. Happy summer solstice. Happy cancer season.

All the things today, Part two, the myth of always being Positive. Last week we kind of talked about how learning to be real with yourself and growing through what you're going through is the human experience. It's our true nature. We're not meant to be positive all the time. And how we handle the negative can really influence and affect how quickly we can kind of get back into the positive. And so I want to dive a little bit deeper into that and talk about how we can find our balance. Your way of becoming balanced is going to be different than my way of becoming balanced.

It's no one shoe fits all. There's nothing that people can tell you that it's going to be like, yep, that's going to work for you. It might, it may not. There are a lot of different ways to find our balance, but what's most important is to find the best thing that works for us given the circumstance or situation that we're, that we're navigating. And so I'll share a little bit about how I've found what works for me. And hopefully you can take a little bit with you. And I, I will say that, you know, as somebody with a lot of mental illness in my, in my life, having a community is a game changer.

It is so important. And oftentimes when we are sad or depressed, we're feeling alone. We want to isolate. And so that's where my story began, was just feeling bad all the time, feeling really out of balance. I wasn't probably eating the best. I had a job that wasn't in. Aligned with what I should be doing. And I had various stages of, like, really bad depression and things like that. And I didn't know myself well. And I think that that was the biggest thing was learning about my tendencies, about my patterns and seeing, you know, what worked for me.

And so I tried to, to navigate it all on my own and just, it led to me kind of just suffering longer than I needed to. Once I started to really branch out and reach out I started getting involved with a qigong group, healing group. And so I was doing qigong with a bunch of other people. That was really helpful. I started going to more yoga classes and found a yoga community that I really aligned with and a class that I loved going to. And I just felt, you know, like a million bucks walking out of that class.

I also started to go to Theta healing classes and took courses and, you know, another group, an avenue of people there. And so I literally had these three things that I was getting out of my comfort zone, starting to meet new people, and it really helped me get out of me. Right, Because I was with you and them and a bunch of different people. So I even became, like, certified in all those things because they just helped me so much. So, yes, the modalities that I was working on certainly played a huge factor.

However, the friendships that I made and the community that I made was, like, even better. And I'm still friends with a lot of those people today, and I share that with you. Because sometimes we don't know what works for us if we're not talking with other people. Sometimes we don't know what the best path is if the only path we're taking is. Is staying at home all the time, being sad and. Or anxious. Right. Like, sometimes people want to stay home because they're just so anxious, they don't want to go out.

And I hear you. I get that. I've been there. And I will say, even just going for a walk and, like, talking to somebody in the hood, the neighborhood, like, that even is just like, wow, cool. My heart opened up just a little bit. So I want to emphasize that it's really hard when you're feeling in a really negative place. You're spiraling down. You. You know, it's like when you're sick and you just have negative emotions. You just want to sit there and you just want to watch whatever, something to feel better.

And so I encourage anyone who might find themselves in that state of, like, I just want to feel better, but everything sucks or what, whatever. Like, I mean, the mind can be a bully, can be a total capital B sometimes. And that leads me to my second point of, yes, you have to get out. You have to try to talk to somebody, find a community. But the second point is knowing yourself, taking time to assess where your mind takes you, what things trigger you or, like, offset you. You're making progress, and then all of a sudden, you're just.

You fall off. No big deal. Those types of things are going to really help you so that you notice when you're not imbalance. You notice when you're starting to spiral down or even up. Sometimes it goes that way, too, you know, like, get a little grandiose. It's all good. You just notice. And the quicker you notice, you come back. And that is honestly one of my life mantras, is rebound rate, rebound rate, rebound rate. How quickly can I come back to my rebound rate just because I feel down and low?

Because there's no way I'm going to be positive all the time? Heck, no. That's not realistic. But I don't stay there very often. I don't live in it anymore. I know that I need to process these things and feel these things and work through them, right? And grow through whatever's coming up in a good way. I don't want to push it down. I don't want to be angry about it. I have to, like, feel it and accept it, but I don't need to stay there longer than I should. Queen bee Beyonce, she says, you get one day to be sad, and then you have to move on.

And I love that rule because, yeah, you get your time to work through your stuff. You work through the negativity, work through those hard feelings, those intrusive thoughts. You get your time, but you can't. You can't let it drag into the next day and the day after that and the day after that. Now, I. I would say one caveat would be, like, grief, like, because that one just kind of comes in waves, and sometimes you just don't know when it's going to come up. So with a grain of salt, you can feel your feelings, but try to move on.

Try to. You know, it's like someone goes through a breakup, and they're on, like, week two of just, like, hanging inside, crying, eating ice cream. Eventually, if you're a good friend, you're like, all right, we got to get out. Let's go. You know, so take your period of time. Maybe it's longer than a day, that's fine. But work to rebound back. Take inventory often, and try to see if you can shift from. From where you're at. And so the goal today really is it's so perfect because summer solstice, it's literally light and dark, or the longest day of light in.

In the Northern hemisphere, if you're in North America. And it's a beautiful symbol of the cycle of. Hi, Alex. It's the cycle of nature. And our true nature really is we have light, we have dark. How can we Learn to work with the rhythm of our energy that's flowing in and out. And so with that it's work with others. Reach out to the community if you're, if you're suffering or to somebody you trust, your family, friends, a therapist. Reach out, like, try to do something else to shift the energy. The other thing is to take inventory.

Often notice when you're up, when you're down, when you're down, what set it off. And finally don't live there. Work on the rebound rate. I can honestly say that working on my rebound rate has helped me not be in a pity party for so long. I used to do that all the time. So I self sabotage, pity, just meh, overeating over indulging and whatever. It's not to say that I still don't like do that. I love me some Reese's peanut butter cups, you know, but I'm not like eating a whole like thing anymore and I'm not beating myself up about it.

I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna feel this right now and I really want Reese's, but it's gonna be fine. And I let myself go, right? I let myself feel the things. And then you rebound. The next day is a new day. Every chance you get a. Every minute you get a chance to start again. Every day you get a chance to start again. And so want to emphasize that you can come out of this with the help of a community like Cadre. We have coaching here. Feel free to inquire with the help of your self awareness and your practices, whatever that is for you, whether it journaling or meditating in the morning or just going on a walk and chatting with nature, whatever that looks like for you, that's a sacred practice that will help you and favorite my rebound, right.

Rebound. Right. Rebound. Right. Working on our rebound. Right. Rebound. Right. Rebound. Right. So I hope that this helps someone and if not, I hope it gives you something to think about. We have so many resources at Cadre. I myself am a wellness coach, yogi trainer. The other thing too, movement. Movement will heal. And so getting out and moving can definitely shift some of that energy as well. And even better if you go out on a walk with a friend and chat about it. So what makes you balanced? What do you do when you notice you're out of balance?

I would love to see that in the comments or, you know, message me or anything like that. Would love to hear some of the tips and tricks that you have to. To rebound back, back into your alignment. But with that, I hope that everybody has a great rest of their day, a great weekend and May May the the light of of summer solstice and the energy of the sun be with you and enjoy. Thankful for you. Have a great day. Bye.