Rachel’s Room🛋️

Hello, hello, hello. Cadre crew reporting to you live. Reporting to you live today on this day of July 3rd. I hope that you are all doing okay. I am, actually. We woke up today feeling better than I have in a while and then read the news and so now I'm a little bit spotted spirally. But we are here, we're here. So. Hi, Rach. Happy to see you. Quick announcement just before I get started. I'm gonna be on vacation from July 11th, 10th, whatever is a week from today until the 21st. So next week I will have my regular live on Wednesday and the following week when I'm out of town, I won't be going live just because I'll be in a completely different time zone and on vacation.

And I'm trying to have good boundaries of like, if I take a vacation, it'll work. Then I will be back the following week. So I just wanted to make that announcement for you all. How. How we doing, guys? How is everyone doing? Drop me in the chat. A word or an emoji to describe where you're at today. I don't know about you, but I feel like there is a heaviness today and I understand that not everyone here has the same political views, but I'm not shy or quiet about where I stand. And Trump's building past is hugely devastating, especially for folks that have mental illness and for.

Just, for a lot. For a lot of reasons. It is pretty devastating and terrifying. So if that is weighing on you today, you are not alone. It's pretty shocking, truthfully, how just greed and power is the priority for so many people. So it's. It is quite devastating and. And scary. So just saying, if you're in a. If you're feeling the weight of that, it makes sense. So today I had planned to talk about overwhelm and burnout because that has been where I have mentally been for the last several weeks.

Just feeling like I'm running on empty and like I don't have enough time to do the things I need to do. And so that was kind of going to be what I was going to talk about today. Excuse me. I just ate, so I'm a little burpee. Rachel says I'm terrified. Yeah. On disability and Medicare, which is already impossible to survive on my own. If it gets decreased, I'm not sure what I'll do. Yeah, I feel that deeply. Yeah. The cuts to healthcare are pretty alarming. It's all alarming. Yeah, it's really f****** scary.

Yeah. So, yeah, clearly I'm the brain is braining. But what I was going to talk to you about today, which maybe is relatable, I don't really know, but when I, like, I don't. I think this is something that I have struggled with since I was a kid is this idea that, like, I don't have enough time. And I think that that is a combination of things. Like, I think it's a result of just like our productivity culture and this constant need to like, be doing something. And if I'm not doing something, then I'm not doing enough.

And if I'm not doing enough, then I have no worth. Which is not true, but it is ingrained in my brain. And so in times when I have things to do, like I have a to do list or I have work to do, or I have. I just have like social engagements or whatever it might be, I try and do as much as I can as fast as possible and multitask because I have this fear of not being able to do it all or this fear that, like, if I don't do it on time or perfectly, then something bad is gonna happen. And. And even if I don't have too much to do, I will create this narrative in my head that I have to get it all done really quickly or, or add more, which then leads me to complete exhaustion because I'm doing more than I need to do all at once.

So I've been trying to really work on some reframes around having enough time and the fact that like, I always am able to get things done, even. Even though every single time I have stuff to do, I think I don't have enough time, but also like, encouraging myself to take time to rest and take care of myself and fill my cup because I can't run on an empty cup. So anyway, that's what I was going to talk about today, but I. I recognize that maybe we're in a different head space. I'm just going to read some of these comments.

Hang on. Will affect also affect Minnesota badly? Yeah. Rachel says, I don't understand how anyone can still support Trump. Republican or not. He's just downright power hungry. Yeah. Yeah, I don't either. I don't. I don't either. I had to unfollow some people today on Instagram because I just. I quite frankly, just don't understand. And I'm not, I'm not necessarily a polarizing person. I definitely believe in finding the gray area and trying to have conversations so that we can understand each other and like, instead of like, just Further polarizing one another, which doesn't actually create lot of change.

And right now I'm really struggling to understand, to understand why people support him and what he's doing. It's very hard. Did I celebrate my book at all? Yes, I did. Yes, I did. I had a book launch party on Sunday. My book just came out on Monday, which I'm very excited about. So I had a nice big party to celebrate, which was difficult for me to put together because I'm not used to celebrating myself. I think that's another thing that we're not really encouraged or taught to do is like actually celebrate ourselves.

When we do good things. We're taught that that's like egotistical or selfish. And I think that that's really counterproductive because the more that we can celebrate ourselves, like the more a. Like the more we can celebrate other people too because we start to unlearn this idea that it's bad for us to feel pride. And so like when we get to experience pride in the things that we've done, then we get to also express that, that pride outwards to other people, which reduces jealousy and insecurity.

And I think that that's a really like community oriented way to be. I also think that when we ask people to celebrate us, we show people how to love us. So like, if I just expect people to like celebrate me for my book coming out, but I don't tell them how to, or ask them to or let them know that it's a for me, then I'm going to experience disappointment or feel like people don't care about me or don't love me when in reality they do. They just didn't know that something that was important to me was happening because I didn't share it or express that it was a big deal.

So I think it's also a really good thing for us to practice in terms of like showing people how to love us and showing people, you know what, what it is that we need to feel loved and appreciated. And like that looks so, so different for so many people. Right. Like, celebrating looks one way to me, but it might look a totally different, different way to somebody else. So we're also teaching people like how we want to be celebrated, which, which just. It's how we build better relationships. It's how we build better connections and deepen those bonds because we're helping people understand us and learn how to love us and be there for us.

So thank you for asking, Rachel. Yeah, I was very happy. I sold out of the books that I brought to the event, which was great, they're obviously not sold out online, but like, the physical copies I had, I sold out of, which was so nice. So. Yeah, it also encourages others to not be ashamed and community. Yeah, 100. And that's, I think, a really big deal. And that's something that my friends are teaching me right now. Like, I have a couple friends that are starting new endeavors. One of them is like starting her own.

Her own pop up coffee rave thing where she like makes coffee and espresso and has a live music during the day. It's like a really fun, like, sober event so people can get out and connect during the daytime without having to go to a bar and go drink. And she's just been so amazing at like, promoting it and being proud of it. And like, all I see is like, how excited she is about it, which makes me want to show up and be excited for her. It doesn't make me think, like, you think you're the. Like, you need to be quiet about this thing.

Like, it just makes me feel like, oh, you're really passionate about this. Like, you must really, really care about it, which tells me it's important to you. So I'm going to show up and I'm going to support you and promote it with you. And so I think I'm learning a lot as well, like, vicariously through observation of like, what other people are doing, which is really, it's very cool because, yeah, it encourages us to celebrate one another, which just only brings us together instead of into competition, which, you know, I think is really important.

So. But yeah, so this life's a little all over the place, clearly, because what I was gonna talk about, we're kind of not talking about. But also, like, it's still something that's like, very present in my life right now, which is not burning out and reminding myself I have time not only for the things I need to do, but also to like, take care of myself, which is very difficult and a running theme in my life of doing so so, so much because I'm afraid I'm gonna run out of time. And then burning out really fast and then feeling like I'm behind because I can't do anything because I'm so f.

Ing exhausted and then kind of repeating that pattern. So I'm trying really hard right now while I feel like I have so much to do to still take breaks and fill my cup and do things like go for my walks, do my dishes, like, take care of the stuff that Makes me feel taken care of and filling my cup so that. Oh, hello. I keep finding these, like, oh, I keep finding gray hairs too. I'm getting my first grays. But yeah, making sure I'm filling my cup because if I don't, then I just burn out. And when I burn out, it's not good.

So that's my spiel today. Yeah, it's a. It's a lot. Things are a lot right now. It's. It can also be like, I just want to ballot it. It's like, very hard to focus on whatever is like, like putting present in our lives when there's so much crap happening. Like, not just in the country, but globally. Like, it can be very, very difficult to feel like, like, what's the point? Like, what? Why, like why, why should I care about, like, what groceries I need when there's so much. There's so much bad stuff happening elsewhere?

Like, it can feel very, very hopeless and like everything's falling apart. So, like, what's, you know, what's the point? And I don't really have an answer for that. I just want to validate that. Like, if it feels hard for you to do your day to day stuff because it feels like everything else is crumbling, I understand that and I feel that too, quite, quite often, especially lately. And I just, I just hope that we can like, continue to lean on each other and, and show up and hope that. And hope that things will change as long as we.

As long as we are here. Because if we don't stick around, that's fewer of us to help make change. So I'm really glad that you're all here. That's what I will say. Okay, my loves, I will see you next week on Wednesday. And then, like I said, I'm gonna be on vacation for a week, so I won't have my regular live the week of July, like 13th, I think. And then. And then I'll be back to regular schedule. So. Wasn't it your IG that I commented this on this? Yes, you did. Yes, you made a really good comment, which is like, someone will always be suffering, but we can't take it on ourselves all the time.

Yes. In the same capacity. Like, we can't compare our journey to someone else's. We can only compare our journey to our own. And someone will always have it worse and someone will always have it better. And if we can remain focused on the ways that we ourselves are improving, that keeps us out of that comparison mindset, which only inhibits us from moving forward. So thank you for that reminder and that comment. Yes, it was me. So thank you for. Thank you for that. I appreciate it. I hope you all enjoy your weekend as well.

And please be just very gentle with yourselves. Please make sure you're filling your cups. Check in with your loved ones. Feel what you need to feel, and just keep going. Stick around because we need you. Okay, babies, I will see you next week on Wednesday.