A host reflects on seasonal songs and the idea of thin spaces as moments between what was and what will be, exploring how those gaps can invite both avoidance and honest acknowledgment through personal examples and reflections.
Cadre: I always like thinking that songs have seasons. A lot of times we talk about the letting go of caring about others for moments to care about ourselves. Self care is the liberating moment from caring about everything else to caring about us.
"You can't avoid something if you're not aware that it exists " Sometimes you go into the thin space knowing it's going to be non nourishing moment. The thin space allows you both, both opportunities no matter where you are.
Hey, Cadre, how are we doing today? It is Sunday morning, July 20th. Yeah, time keeps moving. There's a song by Tracy Lawrence, an old, like,'90s country singer called Time Marches On. There are times I just hear that time marches on. Time marches on. I hear that line in my head. Yesterday I was standing in the backyard, and I always like thinking that songs have seasons. And yesterday it felt like the beginning of Seals and Crofts. Summer breeze season. Summer breeze makes me feel fine Blowing through the jasmine of my mind.
Marisa. It's one of my top 10 songs of all time and the number one song in my head that has a specific season. I can listen to that song from, like, mid. Mid June throughout, like, second week of September. Like, that song is the song of that season. Good morning, Jules. Good morning to Mark. Good morning, everybody. Some of you ticker taped on you, and I didn't get to see your name. So say good morning. Let me know how you're doing. July 20, Sundays. A lot of times we talk about the letting go of caring about others for moments to care about ourselves.
Self care. You can see how I. I never shout the. The theme of the month, of the week, but I weave it in, right? Self care is the. Is the liberating moment from caring about everything else to care about us. Us as individuals, us as. As me and you, as you and so and so forth. And on Sundays, I, A lot of times talk about this idea of thin space, the space between things that have been and things that will be. I think it's part of the reason why I always feel like songs have seasons. I hear summer breeze in my head, and it places me in this moment.
Funny enough, I was listening to an artist named Ben Rector a little bit this morning on my drive, and I was like, oh, this chilly, crisp summer morning when you know there's more summer on the other side of right now. It feels like Ben Rector, like, is a prime artist to listen to right now. Then I sent a message to my sisters. I was like, hey, what music makes sense to you right now? And my sister, my oldest sister said, seals and Croft. I was like, oh, it's not just me. So if you see in the title for today's live stream, it says thin space, the entry point for avoidance and acknowledgment.
The thin space going to force us to look at the things that are going on right now. And we may not want to do that, but I'll tell you, yesterday morning, I had to. It wasn't got to. I mean, there's a little bit of blessing in it, but it feels like I had. I had to take my oldest pup, Hamilton, to the vet. He's not doing that great. And I'm like, vet, you need to see Hamilton now. So they got him in and Dr. Barb starts talking about all the things that are going on with them. And he has a disease called Cushing's and it's very aggressive.
Cushing's found that out yesterday. He's had some respiratory stuff and he may have a collapsed trachea thing going on. He's got a really bad heart murmur. Did some X rays and they showed his liver, and his liver is twice as big as it should be. Just like information, information. Like you can do this test or this test and da, da, da, da. I'm just like, ah. And all of a sudden I start breaking down in the middle of the office. I just lose it. And the doctor was like, ah, you okay? And I go, yep.
Processing like a lot of information and still trying to operate. I was acknowledging what was in that moment. And with little Hamilton sitting there going, what's going on? And then I head home. So because Hamilton had to stay for a two hour test, it's great that they were able to get him in to do this test right away. So when I went home and I had his harness and his leash in my hand without him, and you know, that's normally reserved for the moments when you know your dog is no longer alive and then you take his things home.
So I was having that little moment and then I got in the front door and I sat down on the rug. Then I lost it again. And Willow and Jefferson, other two dogs, came over and sat down and. And my partner came and sat down next to me. Didn't emote. And then the moment passed and the day went on. So I asked Alex later on how, how, how he was doing with Hamilton stuff, and he's like, I'm. I'm just trying to ignore it. I'm trying to avoid it. I was like, okay. The thin space allows us to do both those things.
The thin space allows us to acknowledge. Like, I was like, I wasn't trying to put into a nice box. I wasn't trying to process. I was simply taking in all of this stuff and going. And being in that moment allowed me to do that. Alex, on the other hand, was trying to go, nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Avoiding and acknowledging are both really healthy parts of life. There are times that acknowledging what's going on is what you want to need. So you do it. And there are times avoiding. And now some people may be like, well, you're just not acknowledging yet.
I go, okay, yeah, you're avoiding it. And that's okay. I always in the loud voice saying, pandering to the thing you think is right. It's like, well, you need to acknowledge what's going on. I was like, no, you don't need to. And sometimes acknowledging what's going on may be the unhealthy thing to do. So yeah, avoiding sometimes is the right path. Acknowledging sometimes the right path. And both of those things happen when you are in the space, in the thin space, in the present moment. You can't avoid something if you're not aware that it exists.
So sometimes you go into the thin space knowing it's going to be non nourishing moment. It's going to be a moment where you go, yep, here are all these things that are going on and I'm gonna choose to let them be over there throughout the rest of the day. I went, I got Hamilton. There are moments that I went back into acknowledging. There are moments I went into avoiding. I went and I moved a little bit. I had surgery four days ago. My body's not feeling super great. So I went and I acknowledged that and avoided the Hamilton stuff.
The nice thing about when I was acknowledging the Hamilton stuff, I was also avoiding my pain. The thin space allows you, the agency, the choice to go. What do I want to deal with right now? So if all of a sudden you kind of going like, oh my gosh, summer's moving too fast, I want to slow down. Maybe you need to avoid that summer's going too fast and you dive into enjoying summer. Maybe you need to acknowledge summer's going fast and you need to go ahead and put some things into action. The thin space allows you both, both opportunities no matter where you are, no matter what's going on.
I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I care about you with that. I'll see you tomorrow morning. Bye.
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