JC explores the idea of enoughness and how freeing oneself from comparison shapes goal-setting, highlights a new blog post by Rick Cram, and previews a conversation with Ms. Shannon Paul on parenting freedom.
A new blog post by Rick Cram, contributor, dropped, I think, yesterday. It's all about being free from comparison. The less you compare, the more you accomplish your goals. JC talks about enoughness, the idea that you are already capable of doing something.
Compare less at every step of the way. If you are consciously comparing less, the goal you set in the first place may actually be something that you care about. Ms. Shannon Paul is going to be coming on to talk about freedom from parenting like your parents.
Nothing left to prove? Man, I'm finally free? And it feels good to be me? You're only shining when you act yourself? Wish I could have learned that before I went through h***? Lord, I'll be trying to flip the ball? I was felt, I was tired? I hid and I had to work with myself? I said stop trying to be the things that I'm not? Trying to be like everyone else? Trying to fit inside that box? Oh, you got the magic side of your heart? I'm no good at being you? Andy Grammers. D***, It Feels Good To Be Me is a great song, y'.
All. Andy Grammar. D***, it feels good to be me. Give it a listen. It is kind of the theme song to Enoughness. Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. My name is JC Good morning to you, Jules. Amar Maffey. Nice to see y'. All. How are we doing? I hope you're doing good. If you're not, that's okay, too. Why? Because I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you are here. I know what I know. I care about you. Saturdays, I always talk about my favorite number one, and that is enoughness, this idea that you are in this moment already capable of doing something that has great power, potency, capacity to move you in the direction that you want to be moving all month long for a couple more days.
This theme of freedom or liberation or being set free is kind of laced throughout everything going on in the Cadre world. And a new blog post by Rick Cram, contributor, dropped, I think, yesterday. And it's all about being free from comparison. Give it a read. It's a quick, efficient read. If you're like me, I don't read very easily or well. So if something is short and tight and kind of broken up in ways that I can digest it, I'm all about it. And in this blog post, Rick talks about how, you know, there's.
There's some stats. And I always go like, I want to dig into what was being. Like, I always want to dig into the research. So whenever I see research or numbers or this percentage, that percentage, I always go, okay, I'm going to take something from this. And here's. Here's what I take from. From one of the stats that, that, that. That Rick shares. There's a comparison between the less you compare, the more you accomplish your goals. And I want to flip that on its head for a moment. A lot of the times comparing is happening in every step of the way, not only in the execution of said goal, but also in the formation of it.
I, I'll speak for me and I'll speak from people. I see most times, people set goals they don't actually care about. They set goals that are compared to other goals. Like, let's say someone wants to run a marathon. And I always go, so, why do you want to run a marathon? 3 miles? 1 miles? Or why don't you Want to run 5 miles or 100 miles? And they often start their answer with, well, because, you know, which makes me go. They actually haven't thought about what their goal is. That doesn't mean that the goal, that the goal of running a marathon isn't a great goal, but it goes to show that they have chosen their goal based on compared to what other people's goals have been.
And then let's say all of a sudden that person can't do the thing they set out to do. I'll keep going with the marathon. I can't do the marathon anymore because I'm injured or because time or because capacity or whatever. I go, okay, well, the two questions of enoughness. What is capable? What is possible? What are you able to do? And we phrase that in a yes or no question. Are you capable? Are you worthy? Can you do the thing? Hey, Sram Seth, nice to see Sram Seth, nice to see you, my friend. If the answer to that first question is no, am I capable of doing the thing I set it to do?
Then you reset the aperture small enough to where the answer is yes. And then the second question, so now what becomes possible is where we start to, like, dive in. So let's say that person who set out to do the marathon can't do it anymore, but what they can do is work towards a marathon. Or maybe the reason they're doing the marathon is because they wanted to experience something with someone else. Well, they can change what the something else is. Or maybe they're doing the marathon to raise money for a cause.
And guess what? You don't have to run the marathon in order to raise money for the cause. So often comparison not only happens within our execution. It's like, well, they're doing better than me. But comparison is happening every step of the way, even in setting the goal. So back to the stat of hey, comparing less increases goal completion. I would say, yeah. But what I think is even cooler is comparing less invites people to go. I actually don't care about this goal that I set. So I'm going to go do something else now.
That's power. Consider where you are comparing today. Ms. Shannon Paul is going to be coming up in about two hours. Ms. Shannon Paul, what are you going to be speaking about later on today? Speak. Wonder just popped in the room too. Oh, we got all the contributors showing up in the house. Speak. Wonder, what did you speak about in your livestream this week so people can go back and watch that as well? But Ms. Shannon Paul, you'll be coming up in, I think about two hours here, but I'm going to say it one more time.
Check out Rick Cram's blog post that dropped this week in the Cadre sphere. Rick talks about comparison and your freedom from comparison offers a lot of beautiful fruit. And what I raised today is so often we think, oh, less comparison helps you accomplish your goal. More I go, maybe. But I think the cool thing about when you compare less at every step of the way, if you are consciously comparing less, the goal you set in the first place may actually be something that you care about. Ms. Shannon Paul, in about two hours is going to be coming on to talk about freedom from parenting like your parents.
Oh, my gosh. Yep, I am grateful. And I'm also fairly certain that part of the reason I don't feel called to have human children is because I found freedom from parenting like my parents, with appreciation for my parents and also with critical, invested lens of going, yeah, you know what? Eat my cup of tea, y'. All. Ms. Shannon Paul taking the microphone next. I will see all y' all tomorrow, but in the meantime, D***, it feels good to be me. Say it. D***, it feels good to be me. With me. D***, it feels good to be me.
You us have a good Saturday, y'. All. Peace. You don't start living. Take care of that shade so I won't listen to the hate parade. I know that I'm.
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