Cadre Today- Growing The Thing You Love

Things are amazing. I'm making music I love. It's the life I wanted about my self esteem and life. It's kind of crazy seeing truth of my life and monetizing my pain. Look, mom, I'm living in la, you know, it's sunny every day and you ask me how I'm doing. Well, I've never been worse and I've never been better. And I'm in love with the person that I'm being. We'll stop right there. I'm in love with the person I'm becoming but I'm more insecure than ever. I remember the first time I heard that song.

It was early, early in the days of the Cadre. T North Rose. How y' all doing? This song never been better by Ben Abraham, who's Australian. Really, really great song. And I think it has the heart of Cadre in it. He. Here's the chorus. Well, I've never been worse, but I've never been better. And I'm in love with the person that I'm becoming but I'm more insecure than ever and the more I learn, the less I know. But it's all right. Two things can be true at the same time. That's Cadre. Right? Cadre is here to wish you the best of things.

And I hope that you're doing swell, but also to remind you that if you're not, that's a okay as well. Even if it doesn't feel like it. Jody, nice to see you 1% better. Nice to see you, my friend. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know what I know and I really, really care about you. That's why I bop in here every morning. Because there's something in each of us that makes us go, huh? How are we interconnected to one another? Now, again, there's also bits of us that are okay. How do I win?

How do I get ahead? But everything in moderation, right? Our species is really good at saying, this is the good stuff, this is the bad stuff. Like, no ego, amigo. Actually, no ego. Yeah, we want our ego. Our ego is a healthy part of our system. But just like every other part of our body and being and spirit, if anything gets out of balance, the circle of life starts to get a little. A little off kilter. So tomorrow I'm going to be talking about this idea that, you know, movement is medicine, right?

Our species also loves alliterations. Like, you're never supposed to miss a Monday. Guess what you can miss A Monday Movement is medicine. Okay, movement is great for us, but just like you can overdose on medicine, you can overdose on movement as well. That's what I'm talking about tomorrow morning, but this morning. On Tuesdays, we often talk about this idea of how people come together, how do we develop communities of people, how do we do things interdependently, whether that be in your organization, whether that be in your family, whether it be in your friend group, whether that be in society, whether that be within a group that comes together around a shared passion or practice.

And I always raise this idea of the outward facing click. What is the outward facing click? Well, most cliques are inward facing. A group of people care about something and they focus on it and they look at it and they, they, they look at each other and it becomes a really hard thing to become a part of. And so often the ideologies are, well, you just have to show up and suck. Well, you just have to like, everybody's been a beginner and all of a sudden like this beginner culture is, is seen as kind of as a gauntlet or, or a earn your right or earn your way.

And I'll say that's a really bad way to go ahead and grow the thing you care about. If you care about something and you want it to grow, you want it to sustain, you want it to impact the world because you know it has the potential to impact the world. The headline of the outward facing click is this. The longer that you're a part of something, the less it is about you and the more it is about those people who have yet to be a part of it. Good morning to everybody who's shown up in the last minute since I've been blabbing, blabbing.

Catherine, nice to see you. My friend. No matter what, it's really important for you to know that the thing you care about. It's going to be scary to let other people hold it in their hands and to play with it and to move it around and to change it. But what's that old adage? If you love something, you got to let it go. I like applying that in different ways. If you care about the thing and you understand the impact that it can have in the world, you need to let other people hold it. You need to trust that it's been built in a way that it's durable and malleable and can be seen and used in a million different ways.

Nikki Tappy, Nice to see y' all Speak wonder. Nice to see you. I hope that you didn't drop your coffee in the sink. And that, that is a fresh start to the morning. Spray from Lake Erie and a cup of coffee. So I invite you today. What is that group of people? What is that idea that that group of people is brought together by? What is the shared practice, the shared mission, the shared values that make you go, hey, we're different, but we're doing something together. And then consider the person who is not a part of that thing yet.

Maybe they're over in the corner looking and being like, hey, I'm here and I'm kind of listening, but I don't want to upset you or I don't want to disturb you. Invite them to disturb you. Invite them to drive the car. Invite them to offer their perspective. Not because you're simply including them, but because that first time voice, that first time lens is the most important voice in the room. Experts ask few questions and have lots of answers. First time beginners have all of the questions that have never been asked and they are hungry for answers.

So guess what? Rather than listening to the voice in the room that's been there for a long time, listen to the other one. Listen to the first one. Listen to the quiet one. Listen to the different one. Disturbances can cause connections. Actually, disturbances cause connections. Now again, it's a question of if that connection is desired or not. Because I will say you may have a click that you don't want to welcome other people into. That's okay too. That's 100% a okay. But if you're wanting the thing to grow.

I spoke with a friend the other day. Tom is 70 and he's gone to the same church for 64 years. And he said, you know, the church used to have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people sitting in it every morning. Now he says that he goes every other week. And there's about 15 people who go. And he said they need to change something. Yeah, they do, otherwise they're going to die. Like a lot of really good things do before their time because they focus on saying, this is who we've always been as opposed to who we are becoming.

But to speak Wonder's point here, that word can, that's the option. This church can remain exactly who they've been if they want to be. And the reality is that they will probably then die after the existing members die. But the disturbance of reality and disturbances of neutral force does cause connections. Not can, but does. You get to decide what you do with those connections. Y' all back to a little Ben Abraham coming to us from down under. A great, great reminder of what we do here in the Cadre Sphere.

Well, I've never been worse and I've never been better O I'm loving the person I'm becoming But I'm more insecure than ever and the more I learn the less I know it's alright have a good day, y'. All. Two things can be true at the same time. And you can find those two and millions more right here in the Cadre Sphere. Peace. And I've never been better.