We have all experienced energy vampires, those people that demand more than you have in this moment. Let’s talk about it and discuss what’s to protect your time.
Hello, hello, cadre, sphere, cadre family hope you are all having a great day if you're not having a great day that's okay too like not every day is gonna be great I think we myself included fall into the habit of saying that we need to have a great day I hope you're having a great day but maybe what I would like to change that to is I hope you find calm today I'll be find peace today I'll be find space for you today I'm excited to be here on cadre coming into your life coming in today from my little special place it 's a place that I that we call the sanctuary because it oftentimes when we come here it has a very calming effect hello Lake Lover welcome nice to have you here my name is Jean Nichels if we haven't been together before I'm excited to meet you just holding spaces people start to come in on this beautiful Sunday it's gorgeous out there lake lover where do you live are you in Minnesota are you in the land of 10,000 lakes so my name is Jean I'm here I'm excited to be here I started by saying I hope you all have a great day but I wanted to state that differently and say that I hope you're having a day where you feel comfort hope you have it you're having a day where you feel peace of mind hope you're having a day where you feel connected calm oh Michigan you have a great like to no pun intended but maybe pun intended I'm dialing in today from this place that we call a sanctuary so many of you know or if you're new to me we probably don't know this I am besides a coach and a consultant I'm also a Reiki master certified breath worker a certified sound therapist so I do a lot with moving energy and working with people to help them reset to heal to grow not a therapist but all different types of healing modalities to help shift energy and so today or tonight it's a full moon if you wherever you're at if you look up in the sky you'll see that it's a beautiful full moon and it's also a lunar eclipse now we might not see the lunar eclipse here where the sun takes over the moon but or the moon takes over the sun but it's still happening it's still an event that happens and I am sitting in my space today and the space that I have it's full of crystals I do one-on-one sessions here I have a lot of sound tools so I have some chimes I have a gong I have another hand gong here I have some drums that we do drumming with some different chimes down here arrange stick and ocean drum all things to help people find calm and safety and protecting our spaces so in our conversation today I always talk on Sundays about me time so taking time back and today in particular it's about how do you protect your time how do you create space so that you can protect your own time so for me you know it's funny because today really is a transform ational day from an energy perspective so that full moon that lunar eclipse this particular moon is called the blood moon a lot of information about it but what I'm going to share with you is it's it's a time of transition but it's a time of breaking karmic connections so something like that might mean it maybe there's an old relationship an old version of you that you're ready to let go and you've been holding on to it because there's always a fear of letting something go but in this space in this time letting something go actually allows us to create space for something to come in so I find it really super relevant with today's conversation because we need to be able to protect our spaces so I literally come to this space as do several others to get grounded to feel connected to reset it's calming I love when I hear some of the times behind me move sometimes I'll play my instruments sometimes I 'll hold crystals and sometimes I'll simply sit here and breathe but when I come here I come here with intention because usually unless I'm working with a client I'm by myself and I really like being able to have someplace that I can go whether it's a coffee shop maybe it's an outdoor park bench someplace that I can go that the space is literally just my space now other people might be passing through but I'm not I'm not there for anybody else in that moment and that sounds selfish but honestly we might feel like it's selfish but when we take the time to protect our own spaces protect our own times really we're saying I choose me I choose me right now and sometimes we need to do that because maybe maybe the night before we got angry about something that really didn't matter or we had we felt a little extra anxiety we were anxious we maybe didn't show up as our best selves or maybe we showed up as our best selves and everybody took all the energy away from us and we don't have anything left to give everyone else so I find that I try my best to make Sundays meantime that's why I call it me time I try not to schedule thing on Sundays if I can or if I do have to schedule things on Sundays like Sunday mornings I teach a spin class and tonight I'm actually hosting an event it's a women's circle focused on the moon energy and transitions and gratitude and in order for me to hold all those spaces for everybody else I need to find a time where I can just have time for me sometimes in that space I write sometimes in that space I might listen to a meditation sometimes I might just take a nap because that's what I need in that moment but if we don't allow ourselves to calm our systems so calm our minds calm our bodies we create more opportunities for us to break for us to crack we without having those opportunities to reset our systems we we aren't always able to show up as our best selves and it's important that we feel like we can take that time but so often I so often we need to be on for everybody else high tools welcome so often there are people in our lives maybe you have kids maybe you have aging parents maybe you have siblings that require more energy co-workers they require a lot of energy from you and it's important that we just take the time to sit and take our energy back maybe it's go for a walk so today in protecting time I've kind of talked about a few different things so I'm gonna pull it all together so I shared with you that I'm intentionally sitting in this space Jules next time you're in town you need to come to my studio you can take a look at the magic that's here but protecting your space can look as simple as time blocking your calendar it can look as simple as taking a day signing up for a retreat looking on Eventbrite and seeing what is happening in your city in your town that might be something that refills you protecting your space can be setting boundaries I used to set a boundary with my mom as an example and I love my mom love my mom but I would have to set a boundary with her that when I would come to visit her she couldn't just start telling me all the things that she needed right away I had to set a boundary with her because every time I came to see my mom it felt like I was just coming in to be her assistant versus be her daughter and be her friend so I had to protect my energy in that way so that I could say if you write it down on the list when I come in I'll just grab the paper and I'll take it with me when I go so that our time can be sent spent enjoying one another so protecting our energy so that when we show up and we are needed to show up we can show up as ourselves and allowing ourselves to communicate user words to voice what we need maybe it's as simple as telling our partner or spouse or a significant other that today I need two hours of alone time can I just have the house to myself now sharing with them why I just need the house to myself because I need to reset and I want to just not have any music on no TV on I just want to sit here and read a book and not feel like I need to put energy out because even if we love somebody and we're in something committed or have a roommate we're still humans first they need time to have space to themselves we need time to have space to ourselves so what are the things that you can do today tomorrow in the next week they can help you set your own boundaries and know that setting boundaries and protecting your spaces protecting your time protecting your energy it's probably the one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself now if you've never done this before you haven't experienced this with other people before they might resist they might try to intrude on your space they might come in after an hour and tell you aboard they are and say let's go do something they might resist the fact that you need space because for them one you haven't done that before maybe and two maybe they have their own fear of you taking space for you means there's something wrong with them but here's the deal that's on them if you communicate clearly ask for what you need set the boundaries and say that in this moment my energy is feeling depleted I need to do something to recoup my own energy humans are energetic beings they will take energy and they will give energy animals sometimes they can take energy and sometimes they can just be loving energy givers just depends so protecting our spaces here's why it's important I'll recap again it's important because we need to have space to be ourselves to be human to feel all the feels to think the things to have our own hobbies to find ways to rejuvenate ourselves because that oftentimes has to come from within it's not always going to come externally in to help us reset ourselves protecting our spaces protecting our time protecting our energy is important number two because it creates a barrier for us to say when it's too much it sets a boundary it allows us to set a boundary protecting our spaces requires us number three to use our voice and to use our words and maybe share what's going on just enough so that somebody understands that you taking space away isn't about them that it's truly about you and then if they make it about them let them because it doesn't change the fact that you still need to set a boundary for yourself recoup your energy and protect your own space that's on them now we might still have to have another conversation or a follow-up conversation and that could be draining but the more that we set those boundaries the more that we protect our space even if it's once a week once a day once a month we tell our families we tell our friends today is my day taking it for myself
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