Rock Bottom Self Care

Hi, it's Dan. I want to share something personal with you, and I hope that it helps you if you're at your bottom, if you just have had enough and you don't feel like anything makes sense or that you know what to do to fix it. I asked my therapist once, you know, for the pill, for the magic potion. I wanted the prescription. I wanted it now. And I was so sick of doing the work, the work I thought I had been doing that just wasn't making a difference. And I probably had been hearing it for a really long time, but I heard it differently this time.

And my therapist said that all that love that you have for other people comes from inside of you. That's you. That love is you. All you need to do is learn how to give yourself the love you're giving everybody else. And I didn't know how to do that. And really what it translated to was just self care. The most basic daily actions, the most simple little things, the tiniest of tiny that just seemed like a big deal. Had I eaten? Had I taken a shower? Was I exercising? You know, when things are really, really bad and times get really tough, we forget how to do just that basic, that basic stuff.

So if you haven't heard it before, there is no magic pill, there's no magic potion, but there is something that you can do to get the ball rolling. And that's doing the tiniest little things that you can muster to care for yourself. And sometimes it's just picking up your room or taking out the garbage or making yourself something to eat. Sometimes it's so simple, but it feels so hard. So from somebody that's been in that place, I want you to know that you've got it in you. You have what it takes to care for yourself.

But you're just probably out of practice. It's not hard. And just think about what you do for a child you found on the street. Just do that for yourself. It will get better. And there's help here.