Tell a short story of when you struggled with being seen authentically.
Alex opens the Sunday Spark session and introduces the episode's focus on feeling unseen and the challenge of showing up authentically. This short intro sets the stage for the reflections and practical tips that follow.
Alex explains how societal and personal pressures can force people into a 'box' that prevents them from being their true selves. He highlights that many still search for their authentic identity and the frustration that comes with feeling inauthentic.
This section covers learning who you are at the core, noticing signs from the universe, and a story about Alex's father saying careers or paths can choose you. Alex contrasts flowing with the current versus fighting it to emphasize aligning with what feels right.
Alex uses the 'square peg in a round hole' image to show how being pressured into careers or schooling can lead to dissatisfaction. He stresses that passion and interest help build long-term skills and make work sustainable.
Alex discusses how showing up as yourself attracts the right people and respect, and that gaining clarity on your mission creates a paved path that requires time and effort. He encourages committing to a direction and investing sweat equity for future satisfaction.
Alex emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and being the one unique you, citing quotes and Tom Hanks' 'this too shall pass' message to remind viewers that both good and bad times are temporary. He frames learning to ride highs and stabilize lows as an ongoing process.
Alex shares personal practices that help him stay grounded—daily reading, podcasts, and meditations—and recommends a Bluetooth eye mask as a practical tool for better sleep and meditative consistency. He ties these habits back to being your best self and showing up fully.
Alex closes the session with thanks, a brief plug for upcoming content, and directions to his YouTube and TikTok channels for more MindSEP material. The outro invites viewers to stay tuned and continue the journey.
And welcome to Sunday Spark Sessions Cadre. This is your host Alex of Mindset, my brand Mindset on my Mindset YouTube channel, my Mindset podcast, and then Mindset TikTok. And today is all about thinking about a time when, or potentially right now, when you feel like you can't show up or you're not seen authentically as yourself. A lot of people struggle with this being able to be their true authentic self. Sometimes society, life, ourselves, we're still trying to find ourselves or we just haven't, we don't feel at the core that we've been that person that we've wanted to be the whole time.
And we get into this box, this, yeah, into this box, we've been living in this box, let's say under societal norms or You know personal pressures from family friends to fit a certain mold And at the end of the day, that's not us. That's not who we truly are at the core so Basically we want to ensure that we're We're showing up as our as our truest self right we're showing up as the person that we wish to be to become And part of that is learning who we are at the core, learning what is our soul telling us, what is our heart telling us about what is meant for us.
Because what is meant for us will seek us. What we are seeking to become is also seeking us as well. And that's something my dad told me. He's like, your career doesn't, you don't choose your career, your career chooses you in a way. And I totally, it makes a lot of sense because like, you know, in a way, like what you're interested in and what you're working towards, right? You're thinking about it constantly. Those kinds of things eventually help you become the person that you want to become. And the universe gives you signs.
I've done a couple videos on this, how the universe gives you signs and it shows you certain paths we're meant to go on or certain directions we're meant to go on. And then when we do take those paths, it's like we're flowing with the current rather than resisting the current. We're fighting. We're because sometimes some of us are fighting against the current and it's definitely not as fun. It's like we're I think my dad said it best. He's like, when something doesn't feel right, it feels like you're a square peg trying to fit inside a round hole.
And I feel like a lot of people in their careers feel like that or maybe going to school, they were highly encouraged to go to college or university and that wasn't something that they really wanted to do. And because they didn't wanna do it, they felt more forced into it and that's not them. they still did it anyway and then it didn't turn out the way that they wanted it to because that's truly not what they wanted. So that has a great impact on the type of work that we can do or that we will do later on in life when we feel like we're forced into a corner or forced into something that we don't wanna do.
Yeah, I get it, we have to do things to a certain extent that we don't wanna do. But for longevity sake, for doing something for the long haul, you got to enjoy it. You got to be passionate about it. You got to be good at it. And being interested in something and passionate about it really helps build a skill surrounding that thing, whatever that is for your career, your business, et cetera. So that's why I want to talk about this today, because maybe some of you feel like you haven't been able to be your authentic self or show up as you.
And that's super important because when you show up as you, I feel like in a way the world does gravitate towards that eventually. Maybe they don't accept you at first, maybe. But over time, if you're cool with you and you're like, no, this is how I am. This is me. Over time, people will gravitate to that because if there's a certain amount of respect, that people respect someone that knows who they are, knows where they're going, knows what they want to do, is crystal clear on their path. And that takes time and that takes training to get to that level of where you're like, this is what I want to do, this is who I am, this is my mission.
And when you get clear on your mission, when you're clear on your mission, you've got clarity of where you need to go, what you need to do. The path is paved. It just takes time, takes effort, sweat equity. And eventually you'll look back and be like, I'm so glad I made that decision to go that route or go that path. It's like super awesome. So authenticity is so needed and vulnerability is so needed. Being yourself, being you. showing up as yourself, being you. People want you, they don't want anyone else.
There's only enough. One of my last lives that I did, both was on Wednesdays or the last Sunday Spark session, I talked about that, like different quotes, people talking about there's only enough room in the world for, there's only one you and there's only enough room in the world, excuse me, for one you. So really take that into account. Anytime you're doubting yourself or you're like, I don't know. I don't know if I can keep going. I don't know. This is really challenging. Tom Hanks said this too shall pass.
He was in a podcast on the Jay Shetty podcast and he talked about that. I swear my glasses are so fogged off. Yeah, and he talked about that on the Jay Shetty podcast that this too shall pass. You know, if things are really going really well, really well right now, this too shall pass. If things are not going too well right now, this too shall pass. And eventually you'll hit your mark and you're gonna be, yeah, figuring out that flow of the uncertainty of life, but how do you ride the highs and then stabilize the lows.
And it's a work in progress for myself too. I'm still learning. I got a lot to learn, but I've been learning a thing or two for sure through daily reading, listening to my podcasts, audio books. It's been super helpful. And daily meditations. I swear by my half an hour to an hour a day daily meditations in the morning and then before bed. And the latest thing I got was a Bluetooth eye mask because me and my wife wear eye masks at night to help us sleep. The Bluetooth eye mask has these speakers in it because I hate wearing headphones at night because it disrupts my sleep.
So I stopped doing that. And if for whatever reason I missed my meditation session in the morning, I like to do it at night and I was wearing headphones and I don't like doing that because I don't want to damage my hearing or just like because I'm a side sleeper, right? Messing up your ears. so the Bluetooth eye mask that's been a game changer so anyone that likes to listen to music or just calm down before bed and just to help relax unwind Bluetooth eye mask like 30 bucks on Amazon super awesome been using that it's been amazing works amazing so but yeah just want to say you know um being your true authentic self so important being the best you that you can be, super important.
When you're, you live to your full potential when you're being yourself, when you're showing up as you. So when we show up as ourselves, when we work towards being the best you, us that we can be, we benefit everyone by doing that. So hopefully you enjoy this live, stay tuned for this Wealth Wisdom Wednesday. Thank you. Thank you all cadre sphere. And again, this is your host, Alex of MindSEP, helping you flex your mind, body and soul. sep. Have a fabulous evening and a great Sunday.
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