Ro explores the role of safe spaces and intentional resets, sharing a personal bed‑rest story that disrupted his routines. He outlines practical tactics—30/60/90‑day check‑ins, 15‑minute buffers, scheduled chaos—and invites community strategies.
The speaker opens with friendly greetings, mentions the music, and invites viewers to share how their weekend went. This casual beginning warms up the audience and sets a relaxed tone before the main topic.
He frames the conversation around safe spaces and resets, asks participants to share, and begins to explain how discipline and routine serve as his personal safe spaces. This orients the audience to the session's focus.
The speaker describes being on bed rest and how losing daily disciplines—gym, sleep schedule, diet—made him feel unsettled. This personal story explains why he needed to pause and consider a reset.
He discusses the emotional difficulty of restarting habits, addresses perfectionism and self-judgment, and emphasizes that resets require humility and self-awareness. The segment reframes resetting as a strength rather than a failure.
He recommends periodic 30/60/90-day check-ins for mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional health, and community members offer practical tactics like color-coded calendars. This section mixes guidance with audience-sourced strategies.
The conversation covers 'scheduled chaos,' deliberately planning adventures, and the value of 15-minute buffers to decompress between obligations. The host issues a challenge to try brief intentional resets of five minutes or more.
He encourages viewers to identify safe spaces, reiterates that resets are a sign of strength, and signs off while playing music and thanking attendees. The closing motivates action and offers a warm farewell.
Hello, hello. Good morning, Cadre. Good morning, my people. How we doing this morning? Let some people roll in. 30, it's Monday morning. Fresh day to a fresh week. I got the sounds of Mount Joy playing this morning. Nice chill. I'm actually taking a reset from uh music with explicit content so uh shaking things up a little bit speak wonder good morning good morning good morning everybody we let some people roll in here I hope everybody had a uh had a good weekend uh if you did something exciting or fun or worth mentioning please drop in the chat I love to hear how other people's good days and weekends went for me I actually um Saturday I took a complete reset and rest day I did nothing all day and it was really great all day long I think I left my house once it was really nice um needed that good morning good morning got some more people rolling in Sunday when it actually checked out the Renaissance fair yesterday had to go get the the turkey stick the turkey drumstick that's for sure good morning everybody all right well my name's Rolando I go by Ro And today I kind of wanted to just talk a little bit about safe spaces and resets.
Safe spaces we all have. They're very important. And I'd like to see if anyone's willing to share their theirs. Well, Myers just getting back from an 11 day cruise. Oh, that's a tough transition. vacations going for vacation mode back into reality I just did the same I was in Oregon for about a week and came back and there's not as many mountains here we'll just leave it at that but yeah I wanted to talk about safe spaces and reset specifically you know our safe spaces that make us feel safe spiritually mentally emotionally and what they look like we all have them they all look different and not everyone's safe space is you know going to work for somebody else.
I find a lot of value in my safe spaces. One of the things I've noticed lately is that I find safe space in my discipline. I find safe space in my disciplines throughout the day or my days accounted for. I know where I have to be at, who I have to talk to, who I have to meet, when to go to bed, when to get up. And when I have that set in stone, I feel safe. Coming from someone who had a problem with authority and being told what to do and be here at this time, I thought it was kind of funny, actually.
I'm like, oh, when my disciplines or my daily routines are gone, I feel lost. The noise of the world gets a little bit louder. The voices in my head get a little bit louder. And that kind of caused me to actually, just recently, I'm in the middle of a really big reset, right? If you guys have been with me for a while, I talk about my morning routines a lot, you know, getting up 5am, gym, meditation, prayer, scripture, cold plunge, sauna, all these things. Well, about two and a half weeks ago, three weeks ago almost, I had a back injury and I was on bed rest for about six days.
and it sucked. I could not move and I'm a person, I like to move around A lot. I didn't leave the house for about five or six days. I laid, I went from the couch to the bed and that was it. My schedule went away completely almost. My tracking of time kind of left me. I was staying up late, sleeping in later. Diet kind of went to crap because I ate what was around the house or had to do delivery. And I kind of just all the things that made me who I am or my disciplines and my routines kind of got taken off the table.
The gym, sauna, cold plunge, being outside, spending time with friends, all these things were gone. I came out of that and it was really tough to deal with. And then from there, I went to Oregon and after I healed up a little bit, started feeling better, wasn't fully back in the gym, went to Oregon and just went hiking. So I just did a lot of walking, but even there on vacation with friends, the timing's off, eating on the go and my disciplines weren't there. So now coming back It's been a challenging transition as I'm like, I expected to come back and like, okay, it's just gonna be easy.
I can flip a switch. All my routines, all my disciplines, all the things that I do are gonna come right back. Well, how many of you guys know that's not always the case? If it comes to gym routines, whether it's mental health, things like that, once we stack all of these micro actions, I guess you could say, that lead into one discipline and one routine. And it was hard for me to get back to that. So I'm in the middle of a reset. And a lot of times I feel like if I'm at a point where I have to reset, it kind of makes me feel like I dropped the ball or I'm lacking in something or I'm doing something wrong or all those voices come back into my head.
Some of the ones, the anxiety, the depression, the self-doubt, all these things. And I love that I'm to a point mentally now where I know my discipline equals safe spaces. And when that breaks or something gets thrown off, my mind feels unsafe. And there's a lie that I tell myself, oh, if I can't do it perfect, then why bother? We'll start tomorrow, we'll start the next day. But a reset is always possible. But it takes humility and it takes patience and it takes knowing yourself to know when when we're kind of spiraling out or we're letting off our disciplines and routines and it turns into kind of, you start to see a lifestyle building.
But one of the things I've gotten really good is to be able to sit and analyze myself. It's like, okay, if I'm tired in middle of the day, it's because I probably slept in late. And if I slept in late, it's because I probably stayed up late and I probably ate some food. before bedtime more than I should have and probably not. I'm not talking celery, probably something unhealthy, but I try to follow it back. It's like, okay, what can I remove from the night before to make sure I'm setting myself up for a successful day-to-day?
And that's kind of what I've been going through. A reset is legit. Yes, speak wonder. I always saw a reset As you know, something you do when things are bad, it's a reset is a bad thing, right? No, not always. There's things in our life that happen that cause us to lose our disciplines, lose our routines, family stuff happens, life happens, and some of those routines and disciplines go away. And a reset, a reset shows resilience, in my opinion. It's like, hey, this thing is getting out of control or I'm not liking the world, the path that this is going on, I am going to make a conscious decision to put in the work to reset.
That takes an inventory of self, self-awareness, reflection, knowing what you're involved in, what you're not, where you're lacking, what you need to feel that safe space. Like for me, that safe space is in that discipline, in that routine. So I think that Reset is not always bad. I've done a lot of resets and I think I'm going to continue to do a reset. Even when life is good, sometimes we need a reset. What is next? What's going to be the next step? If there's something that you guys have on your mind that you know you need to reset on or there's something that you can take take away or add to your schedule to kind of get to that place you want to be if you feel the encouraged drop in the chat I love to see if there's anything anyone else is struggling with or even if you're like hey I just did a reset I implemented this and it helped let's share with us we'd love to hear it but as far as the schedule let's see Mel Myers I try to look at resets as a fresh start improvement yes I look at them as not necessarily KPIs, but benchmarks.
It's like, okay, every 30, 60, 90 days, let's check in with self. Like, how are we doing mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally? How can we improve it? Because we can always get better. It's a journey. There's never no end destination. It's a journey. And I make sure that I'm always constantly checking in to make sure that we're not backsliding or getting complacent. Because I know if I get complacent, I get bored and then the voices in my head get a little louder. The voices of anxiety, the voice of insecurity, all these things that I have to, it's a continuous battle every day to fight those voices.
'Cause they're in there. So I've learned how to manage that. Let's see who we got, speak one. Time management has always been a challenge for me. Yeah, it was a time management. I feel you there. For me, the cheat code for me was a color-coded Google Workspace calendar. The color, something about seeing all the colors. Okay, red is row time to do extracurricular activities. purple was for school yellow was for work blue was for like social community things and something was satisfying about seeing that rainbow of things on my calendar it definitely helped me a little bit Emily says this convo is so helpful to me in balance between overly controlled and discipline that allows freedom to enjoy life Yes, and that exactly is that safe space that I was touching on.
When I have discipline and I have that balance, it's like, okay, I don't have to think about where I have to be, where I'm at, what I have to do. My day's already set with things that I chose to be involved in or be a part of, and not having the weight of that, the thought process keeping up with that, it causes me to just, I wouldn't say drift, even though I can be kind of a drifter sometimes, but it allows me to experience life, those moments instead of jumping in the car after a meeting and having to look okay where do I have to be next we're gonna have to be here my brain already knows we're on autopilot so those moments in the car whether it's a walk I can enjoy the sunshine if it's a cup of coffee and I'm not standing in line trying to figure out my day and I like that disciplines it gives me that safe space and I didn't realize that that was a safe space of mine until probably about two weeks ago actually yeah let's see I'm a lover of spontaneity So managing my time is rough.
Yeah. So me, I like a controlled chaos. People, people see my lifestyle and I look adventurous. I'm always doing these random things, but like little do they know those are that's scheduled chaos. Don't tell everybody I like I schedule chaos. I schedule adventure. I schedule time to get lost. I literally just went to Oregon to I scheduled a week to go to Oregon to go hiking to lose track of time. Like that was the whole goal. And my friends that went with me, I didn't tell them that was the goal.
But when we got there, they realized it real quick. Like Ro is not paying attention to time right now. I'm like, exactly. You're welcome. Welcome to my safe space. So that was an interesting dynamic midway through the mountain when I didn't care what time it was or how long it took us to get there. So controlled chaos. Yes. color-coded all day. Emily, speak, wonder, color-coded. I need to try this. Yes. I learned that in school. going back to college at 28 29 I seen all these younger you know Gen.
Z and Gen. Y and like there's this color code I'm like oh that's efficient like I'm stealing that let's see miss Shannon Paul I've added in cutoff times to leave space for recharging yes I love that one of my biggest reset or recharge times it I have a Bad, good habit. It depends on who you ask. Every single place I go, I get there 15 minutes early. It doesn't matter if it's school, if it's work, if it's something I have to, you know, someone have to be, it's 15 minutes kind of leeway time because sometimes that 15 minutes might be the only time that I get to sit and exist or to decompress or that 15 minutes.
There's always, there's always, I leave time for error too. There's always Rd. construction or something goes wrong or the address is wrong. Well, my brain automatically wires off. I have to be there at 9, I'm going to plan to get there at 845 where I don't even think about it no more. But those 15 minutes have been lifesavers. Lifesavers. I don't know where I would be without them. Sitting in the car for 15 minutes and just listening to a podcast or a song I get to reset between going from you know thing A to thing B and not carrying the same energies into the other spaces because I move in so many different spaces as we all do you guys know the grind I might go from a social aspect social community space where I'm giving and helping and doing this but then I have to go into a meeting and talk numbers and dashboards and statistics and go from there to spending time with family or friends and there's transitions and sometimes we get so overwhelmed with our daily lives that they all mesh into one and we bring those energies into the other spaces so if you haven't had a reset or a cutoff time I would challenge you this week even if it's five minutes Take five minutes like, okay, this is me intentionally spending time with myself, being alone with myself, phone off, whether music is your vibe or the sunshine, start with five minutes.
We might not always have 15. I understand that. I challenge you. And if you're with it, say challenge accepted, I'll do five. Or even if you can squeeze a three piece in there, we can squeeze. We spend so much time on social media, checking emails, all these things, watching the news. I know that you deserve at least five minutes of recovery time for yourself to maintain and be there for yourself. I challenge you. So five minutes, it goes by quick. It goes by really quick. But I challenge you guys, take a couple minutes for yourself, identify the safe spaces in your life, not only just the safe spaces that where you feel free and you feel calm and the voices and the noise of the world kind of just fade away and you can just exist I challenge you find those spaces and identify or even reach out to those people that share those spaces with you or you have a safe space that you want to share with someone I'm always going to scream share your safe space not all of them some of them we have to keep to ourselves but Mel Meyer's challenge accepted alright it's Monday fresh week We've reset our lives countless times.
We've all been through things. Reset is not a weakness. It is a strength. So let's go out there and be strong. If you need a reset today, well, here's the motivation you need. Let's go out there and reset it. Other than that, I'm gonna take this out with the sounds of Mountain Joy, the Johnson song. A reset of mine is no explicit music, no explicit content for a while. So we're chilling to some indies. So thank you guys for showing up. Looking forward to spending time with you guys next Monday. As always, this is one of my favorite parts of my Monday, for sure, so you guys have a good one.
Speak wonder, touch grass, inhale air, listen to the texture of the voices, love that. Yeah. All right, you guys have a good day. I'm gonna finish my coffee and get it moving, get the day going.
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