Re-do. Re-do…. and re-do…. I’m not sure what was going on with my Wi-Fi today, started and stopped a few times! SAFETY Thanks for tuning in, uploading a video here with the rest of my thoughts on safety in relationships. Speaking today of more intimate partner, one on one relationships and views on them — whether you’re married, single, dating, or committed to a relationship with yourself. What does real safety feel like? What does the illusion of safety look like? (I.e. societal norms and contracts) Finding myself on somewhat new ground in singlehood, and creating expansion in that space. Safe with myself. Thoughts?
Wow. I do not know what was going on with my the live feed today. I tried it three times. And for whatever reason, it's just not meant to be. So I'm going to record this and upload it. And yeah, I just like want to finish my train of thought on safety and relationships. I love it though the whole piece of the interactivity is everyone's chiming in with do they feel safe in a relationship and I'm talking about one on one personal close intimate relationships, whether you're married, single dating whatever your status is what's your view on relationships and safety.
So, yeah, I feel like I've had the whole gamut of experiences from being married over 20 years to dating and also having a longer term, you know boyfriend that type of relationship like what do all those kind of relationships provide for us. Are they safe. And I just posed the question because there's can be an illusion of safety, things that were promised to us or you know society maybe promised me or at least that's how I felt about it that if I got married. On my late 20s I would be right on the timeline to have a couple kids and essentially a ring on my finger in that bond of marriage, and that I would be safe I would be like taken care of.
And that didn't happen, didn't happen. And so it's like the stripping away of all those ideals. And I think Rick had said you know inner your inner kind of working through all of those things to kind of untangle what you thought was safe. And I know now that I'm in charge of creating my own safety and assessing do I feel safe in any relationship and if I don't, you know why is that. And I'll also say, I was in the live feed going to encourage everyone to think about what do they do to make sure they feel safe in a relationship.
And that can be like a physical check like do you physically feel safe in your body around this person do you feel emotionally safe. And that's a huge one for me because I often and relationships will kind of suppress that if I am, you know, emotionally maybe like overreacting I'll tell myself oh I'm just overreacting this person hasn't done anything to make me feel unsafe. I haven't said anything specifically they haven't, you know, done anything outwardly but I think I'm getting really good at recognizing my intuition and also recognizing in my body all of those signs when I maybe don't feel safe in a dating relationship or when I meet someone for the first time could be anyone.
And what are your cues that you feel safe in a relationship and what are the cues that you do not. I'd love to continue this conversation in a stream and a chat back and forth so I'm going to end this here do a little shout out to my favorite and a bed of the day, which is Tennyson. I always highlight one during sober not summer hour Tennyson is a sip with intention it's a botanical with black pepper and ginger so it is a little kick to it. It's very sophisticated too. I love this one. So thanks for bearing with me and all whatever glitches happen today and I just , you know, posing the conversation around that idea safety and relationship so would love to hear from you.
Ciao Ciao!
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